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Are You and/or Your Teen Dreading School?

First off, I think you should know that teens all over the US are dreading returning to school. 

If you're teen is feeling anxious and they are dreading school, this episode is for you. 

If you're teen is excited and ready to return to school, you can still implement everything you hear in this episode to help your teen make this school year great. 

So, to be clear, if your teen is dreading the upcoming school year, you and your teen are not alone. 

In fact, if you or your teen have had a negative experience with school, it's natural to feel anxious when it comes to school. 

This episode will hopefully help you and your teen be better prepared for the upcoming school year. 

Tips For You and Your Teen

I'm going to share some of my best tips with you to help you and your teen. 

Please don't feel like you have to implement every single one of these tips. 

Just find what works for you. 

#1 Start Things Off with a Family Meeting

I LOVE family meetings. 

#2 Develop Emotional Intelligence

If your teen is DREADING going back to school, this is an opportunity to develop some emotional intelligence. 

#3 Find Ways to Give Your Teen Power 

Help them own what they feel and why they're feeling it. 

#4 Keep School In The Proper Perspective 

School is what you want school to be. 

Keep school in perspective. 

#5 Improve Your Relationship with Your Teen

This is the one back to school secret that nobody is talking about. 

Create an impactful relationship with your teen. 

Back-To-School Special

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That's a huge savings (over 70%)

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As the back-to-school season approaches, parents and teens alike experience a mix of emotions. While some parents eagerly anticipate the return to routine, many teens might feel anxious and overwhelmed by the upcoming challenges. If you find yourself wondering if coaching is the right solution for your teen during this critical time, this podcast is here to provide valuable insights and guidance.

Join Ben as he tackles the question, "How do I know if coaching is right for my teen?" In today's fast-paced world, where anxiety and stress impact many teens, understanding the benefits of coaching becomes essential.

This episode delves into the transformative potential of coaching for teens. With relatable anecdotes and expert advice, Ben explores the signs that indicate your teen might benefit from coaching and how it can empower them to navigate the challenges of school and beyond.

If you or your teen are dreading the school season and seeking a supportive solution to help your teen thrive, this podcast is a must-listen. Discover the impact of coaching on teens' confidence, resilience, and overall well-being, and gain actionable tips for making an informed decision about coaching for your teen.

Join Ben for an enlightening discussion that will equip parents with the knowledge to confidently guide their teens toward success. Don't miss "Is Coaching Right for Your Teen?" — the podcast that will transform your back-to-school experience and empower your teen to embrace the new academic year with enthusiasm and self-assurance.

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You'll Have to Listen To This Episode

This was an awesome interview with Emily Brown. 

We had an amazing conversation. 

As always, I don't really do show notes for my interviews because they're not scripted. We just talk and go. 

Powerful Points

In this episode we talked about how many parents struggle homeschooling their children because they're trying to do all the tasks, before building connections. 

We talked about how important it is for you to meet your needs, connect with God, connect with your teen, and then provide for their schooling. 

Emily also addressed 4 stages in parenting:

Doer, Teacher, Mentor, Consultant

The universe is reflecting you. 

If you want to change the world, BE THE CHANGE!

Want To Connect with Emily?

Here are all the links from this episode:

Fiat Life Coaching Website 

Intro to Loving Your Homeschool Life

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Want a Better Relationship with Your Teen?

If you're anything like the parents that I work with, you probably want to improve your relationship with your teen. 

That's awesome, because having an impactful relationship with your teen the foundation that successful teens are built on. 

The problem is, there are sneaky traps that parents get caught up in that kill their relationship with their teen, and if you're not careful, you might be making these very same mistakes. 

#1 Being "Right" All The Time

#2 Taking Control Away From Your Teen

#3 Letting Your Teen Walk All Over You

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Powerful Points

In this episode we talked about parenting being the best personal development course ever. 

We talked about how it gives you endless opportunities for personal growth. 

Dr. Paul also taught about how personal growth is one of his 4 pillars for positive parenting.

Dr. Paul's Free Book

As a special gift to you, Dr. Paul is giving away his eBook, Portable Positivity. 

You can simply go toDrPaulJenkins.com/impact to get your copy completely FREE.

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YOU Have the Power to Make Tough Moments Powerful Moments

Recently in one of my group coaching call, a mom humbly and a little embarrassed admitted that she had recently parented her teen in a way that she was not proud of. 

In fact, she was embarrassed and beating herself up.

She couldn't understand how, after learning all this new stuff inside the membership, she could still say such mean things. 

She was worried that she had done the complete wrong thing and that it was maybe too late to fix it. 

"Bad" Parenting Moments CAN Make the Best Parenting Moments

I believe that "bad" parenting moments can become the BEST parenting moments. 

In fact, if you make the best of a "bad" parenting moment, the resulting parenting moment will be better than if the "bad" parenting moment had never happened.

When you make a mistake as a parent, it's nothing more than an opportunity for you to demonstrate how to apologize, how to fix problems, how to recognize mistakes and address them. 

If you're guilty of parenting moments that you're not proud of, start using them as opportunities for growth. 

This gives your teen the opportunity to see you in a different light. 

This give your teen an example of how to repair damages done in relationships.

Rather than being an eternal wound to this relationship, it becomes a powerful teaching moment, and an opportunity for even deeper connection.

Be Kind To Yourself 

When You catch yourself in tough parenting moment, be kind to yourself. 

No parent on earth is perfect. 

You're doing your best, and that's exactly what your teen needs. 

5 Keys To Turn Tough Parenting Moments into IMPACTFUL Parenting Moments

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

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This is an awesome conversation about trauma and Triggers with Dr. Leanne Hawken

After my recent podcast episode, Leanne reached out to me to further the discussion on trauma and triggers.

This is a powerful conversation. 

SO, you'll definitely want to listen to this one rather than just trying to read the show notes. 

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

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Have You Ever Had A "Gut Punch" Realization?

Today, I'm going to tell you about one of the most life altering events of my life. 

It took place during a jog at my local walking park with Brooke Castillo. 

Only, she wasn't there. 

It was just me, my phone, and my head phones, and Brooke's podcast.

It's Not My Teen That Needs To Change, It's ME!

I can't remember which podcast episode I was listening to. Usually I'd either listen to multiple episodes in a jog, and sometimes I'd listen to the same episode twice just because it was so mind blowing at the time.

I can't even remember exactly what she said, but I can remember exactly what I realized, and it hit me like a ton of bricks.
"It's not my teen that needs to change. It's me."

WHAT????

I had to stop jogging and take a second to process that information.

As I realized the implications that came with that understanding, it kind of felt like a gut punch.

I suddenly realized that I had been doing it all wrong as a parent. 

BE The Change You Want To See

Before that day, when I thought about parenting my foster teens, I felt like a failure. 

I often felt overwhelmed and frustrated. 

I was stuck in the trap of trying to control my foster teens.

We were power struggling every day, and my wife and I thought about quitting as foster parents.

But, this realization changed EVERYTHING!

I started asking myself one simple question over and over:

"How can I BE THE CHANGE I want to see here?"

It was amazing what I was able to find when I asked myself that question. 

I can be more calm. 

I can be kinder. 

I can be more proactive. 

I can be more complimentary. 

I can be more fun. 

I can be more consistent.

It felt so empowering. After wasting so much time and energy trying to change my foster kids, it was invigorating simply being the change.

You Can Do the Same Thing 

If you're tired of trying to change your teen, you can do the same thing I did. 

Commit to BEING the change you are looking for. 

You'll be surprised just how much everything around you changes when you change. 

Enroll In The IMPACT Parenting Course TODAY

If you're the type of parent who wants a strong relationship with your teen, this is the course for you. 

If you're tired of fighting with your teen or simply feeling disappointed with them all of the time, join us in the Impact Parenting Course today!

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What Does Trigger Even Mean? 

For most people, when their talking about triggers, or "being triggered", they're usually talking about some kind of circumstance that triggers them or others. 

This circumstance could be somebody else's actions, or words, or even something outside of their control like the color of their skin, their past, or even their heritage.

The truth is still the same, triggers are circumstances that trigger a mental, emotional, or behavioral response, and probably all 3. 

Typically when people talk about being triggered, it's because it's caused an uncomfortable and undesired response.

When I've been accused of triggering people, it's usually because I said something that they don't like because it triggers an uncomfortable emotion.

You should know this, and your teen needs to know this too, but their are people in this world trying to trigger you for their own benefit. 

Don't Take It Personally 

When someone or something triggers you, don't take it personally. 

But, life doesn't happen to you, it happens FOR you.

Your triggers aren't happening to you. They're happening for you. 

What To Do When You're Triggered
Check out the show notes for more details.

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

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Habits Are Underrated and Underutilized 

Every year around New Year's, everyone starts talking about goals. 

This is awesome, I think everyone should have goals.

The problem is, with out habits, your goals are little more than dreams.

If you want to accomplish your goals, you need to identify, "What habits will it take to accomplish my goal?"

Powerful Parenting Habits

1. Set Your Intention Each Day
2. Commit to Connection Daily
3. Embrace the Moment
4. Manage Your Mind
5. Trust Yourself, Your Teen, and the Process
6. Let Go Of Things Outside of Your Control
7. Practice, Practice, Practice
8. Be Willing to Be Wrong and/or Make Mistakes
9. Be The Change You Want to See
10. Play to Your Strengths

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I'm going to be Live for my 3 Day Be the Change Parenting Training

It's going to be awesome! Register and Save the dates:

June 8 - 12PM (MDT)

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz