IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

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Here is what you'll learn in this episode:

• Understanding the impact of bullying on both the victim and the bully.
• Rethinking traditional anti-bullying methods by emphasizing empowerment for both parties.
• Analyzing real-life bullying instances to reveal underlying issues and motivations.
• Providing practical advice for parents and educators to support teens facing bullying.
• Demonstrating the transformative power of empowerment in helping teens become resilient to bullying.

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In this podcast episode, you will learn:

• Trust is subjective and depends on individual expectations and experiences.
• Trust comes from within and is influenced by both expectations and actions.
• Clear communication and understanding of core needs are essential in parent-teen relationships.
• Dwelling on the past and thinking in black-and-white terms can hinder progress.
• Addressing fear, fostering open communication, and reshaping stories about situations can lead to stronger parent-teen relationships.

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

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Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

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In this enlightening episode,  Ben explores a fundamental concept in parenting that most advice gets wrong – the external focus versus the internal focus. Discover why concentrating on things outside of your control, such as your teen's behavior, can drain your energy and hinder your growth as a parent. 

Discover the key unseen elements that influence your parenting, including your core values, fundamental beliefs, daily thought patterns, emotions, and your identity as a parent. By redirecting your focus to these aspects, you'll witness how your inner world shapes your outer world.

This episode provides a transformative roadmap for parents seeking to improve their relationship with their teens. It encourages you to embrace the inner game of parenting, emphasizing that real change begins from within.

Kickstart your journey towards mastering the inner game of parenting by taking the Parent Trap Quiz and joining free Masterclass sessions to help you break free from your parenting traps.

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Today's episode features Julia Rocque as a special guest, discussing the Pyramid of Influence. 

The Arbinger Institute, known for "Leadership and Self-Deception," authored this concept. The pyramid consists of six levels:

1. Get out of the box or improve your way of being.
2. Build relationships with others who have influence.
3. Build the relationship with your teenager.
4. Listen and learn.
5. Teach and communicate.
6. Correct when things go wrong.

The three principles of this pyramid are:

1. Spend more time at the foundation.
2. The solution to one level is always at least one level lower.
3. Effectiveness at every level depends on the lowest level, your way of being.

Julia emphasizes the importance of starting with self-improvement (level 1) and shares her personal journey in discovering this foundational change. She advises parents to focus on their well-being, self-care, and personal growth.

We discuss the significance of building relationships with people who influence your teen, including their friends' families. They recommend inviting your teen's friends over to your house and being supportive of their connections. By creating a welcoming environment, you can better understand your teenager's world and establish trust.

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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3 types of Parent Traps you may be falling into:

1. The Controlling Parent Trap: Ever found yourself trying to control every aspect of your teen's life, from their thoughts to their actions? It comes from a place of love, but it's a trap. We'll show you how to break free.
2. The Doormat Parent Trap: On the flip side, some of us become total doormats, letting our teens walk all over us because we want them to like us. It's time to regain your boundaries and self-respect.
3. The Lost and Confused Parent Trap: Have you ever felt completely lost and confused as a parent, unsure of what to do or how to do it right? We've got the answers to help you find your way.

Now, you might be wondering, "Why should I take this quiz? I already know which trap I'm in." Well, here's the deal – this quiz doesn't just pinpoint your primary trap; it breaks it all down and tells you where to start making changes. It's your roadmap to becoming a better parent.

Plus, when you take the Parent Trap quiz, you get an invitation to a free Masterclass with me, where I'll dive deeper into these traps and help you get unstuck. All because I care about you and your journey as a parent.

So, don't wait! Take the quiz and discover your parenting strengths and areas for improvement. Let's get you on the path to becoming the best parent you can be.

And remember, if this podcast has been helpful for you, it can be for your friends too. Share it with other parents who could use some support on this amazing, challenging journey of parenting. You've got one job today – go take the Parent Trap quiz. I'll see you soon!

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Powerful Points

Teens need support from a community of adults. 

You can have an impact on more teens than simply your own teen.

If you want to have an impact on a teens life, simply be the best adult you can be. 

We both remember the impact that other adults had on our lives.

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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You'll Have to Listen To This Episode

This was an awesome interview with Carrie Marshall. 

We had an amazing conversation. 

As always, I don't really do show notes for my interviews because they're not scripted. We just talk and go. 

Powerful Points

Your story is worth sharing. 

You have a story to share. 

Anyone can write a book. 

Understand what you want to tell the world and why.

Want To Connect with Carrie? Links Below!

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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You'll Have to Listen To This Episode

This was an awesome interview with Natalie Dianne. 

We had an amazing conversation. 

Powerful Points

It's not your job to change your spouse, your teen, or anyone else. 

You can only change yourself. 

The only person who can know if divorce is right for you is YOU!

Tap in to your internal wisdom, do the inner work, and make the best decision for you and your family. 

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

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Some of the most common problems with athletes

If you have a teen athlete, this podcast is for you and for them. 

If you don't have a teen athlete, you can still listen because these principles are true in parenting as well. 

Every year I coach a handful of elite athletes who want to take their game to the next level. 

Often times, these are athletes who used to play at a high level, but for some reason, they've started struggling and falling behind. 

Other times, these are athletes who struggle to manage their emotions when things go wrong on the field or court, and they throw fits, put their head down and sulk, or stop trying or executing at a high level.

I'm going to share 7 secrets that might be holding your teen back in their sport. 

If I were to work with your teen, I'd help them identify ONE THING to start working on. 

Don't try to tackle every single one all at once. 

And, if you're a teen listening to this episode, it's probably because you care about your sport, and you want to improve. That's an awesome spot to start!

Check out the complete show notes: benpughcoaching.com/168

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz

"Ask Ben a Question"

Some of the most common problems with athletes

If you have a teen athlete, this podcast is for you and for them. 

If you don't have a teen athlete, you can still listen because these principles are true in parenting as well. 

Every year I coach a handful of elite athletes who want to take their game to the next level. 

Often times, these are athletes who used to play at a high level, but for some reason, they've started struggling and falling behind. 

Other times, these are athletes who struggle to manage their emotions when things go wrong on the field or court, and they throw fits, put their head down and sulk, or stop trying or executing at a high level.

I'm going to share 7 secrets that might be holding your teen back in their sport. 

If I were to work with your teen, I'd help them identify ONE THING to start working on. 

Don't try to tackle every single one all at once. 

And, if you're a teen listening to this episode, it's probably because you care about your sport, and you want to improve. That's an awesome spot to start!

Check out the full show notes: benpughcoaching.com/167

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz