By Dr. Carla Marie Manly
The messy road of life is difficult to navigate alone, and it’s often tough to figure out the next best step. Hosted by psychologist and author Dr. Carla Marie Manly, the Imperfect Love po
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We’re told that we should be happy and that we deserve to have it all. And we often feel that we’ve failed ourselves if we aren’t happy 24/7—and if we haven’t managed to get everything we’re supposed to need and want. I’ve found that the overly high expectations we set for ourselves (plus those set by family, friends, and society) tend to work against that most lasting and delightful goal of all—the ability to experience deep, sustainable joy. How can we release expectations that don’t serve us to create greater well-being? How can we turn inward to find our north star—the guiding light that allows us to be our best selves and live to the fullest? Join me and Dr. Jennifer Guttman to explore the six secrets of true joy and satisfaction.
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman’s Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Book by Dr. Jennifer Guttman:
Beyond Happiness: The 6 Secrets of Lifetime Satisfaction
Connect with Dr. Jennifer Guttman:
Website: https://www.guttmanpsychology.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guttman_psychology
Twitter: https://twitter.com/JenniferGuttman
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferGuttmanPsychologist
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferguttman
YouTube: http://youtube.com/c/DrJenniferGuttman
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@guttman_psychology
We never expect—much less want—to find ourselves caught up in abusive relationships or toxic dynamics such as trauma bonding or gaslighting. In fact, traumatic bonding, which involves abusive power and control coupled with cycles of intermittent reward and punishment, can create or worsen serious mental health issues including anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder. Sadly, many of those affected—largely women—become stuck in abusive relationships due to low self-worth, shame, and deep fears of stigmatization.
Today, we're joined by trauma expert and former wife of The Wolf of Wall Street, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, who will be sharing her vast expertise on destructive relationships, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and other emotionally manipulative behaviors. As Dr. Nadine notes, "In abusive relationships, we often forfeit the self for the sake of the relationship identity." Listener discretion is advised as this episode contains sensitive information related to trauma, abusive relationships, and abusive dynamics.
Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Get the help you need:
https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotline/
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Book by Dr. Nadine Macaluso:
Run Like Hell: A Therapist’s Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing from Trauma Bonds
Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso:
Website: https://drnae.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealdrnadine/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/therealdrnadine/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drnaelmft
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We often expect ourselves to be everything, everywhere, all at once for everyone, yet such high expectations can lead to being mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually out of balance. In the constant race to achieve more and be more, stress, anxiety, depression, and a host of physical issues often set in. From headaches and stomach issues to sleepless nights and chronic exhaustion, the price we pay for a lack of healthy balance is exceedingly high. Our relationships with others suffer when we do not tend to the self with loving care. Can meditation, gratitude, and tuning into the self create the healing our bodies, minds, and spirits so desperately need?
Join Dr. Carla Manly and wellness expert John Jaarsveld to discover the art of creating internal and external balance through mindful self-attunement and self-care. Embracing a body-mind-spirit approach to overall health, John illuminates small, actionable steps we can all take to become more in sync with what works best for us. As a wellness advocate and acupuncturist based in the Netherlands, John brings decades of experience, wisdom, and joy to this extraordinary episode. As John wisely notes, "We make a lot of small choices that lead us in the wrong direction. We can train ourselves to listen to the inner compass by starting with the small things."
These are essential reads on acupuncture and health:
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Connect with John Jaarsveld:
Website: http://itchi-go.nl
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acupuncture_john_jaarsveld
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/john.jaarsveld
LinkedIn: https://nl.linkedin.com/in/john-jaarsveld-acupuncture
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We're constantly learning more about the world of neurodiversity and how to appreciate that every person's brain works differently. Yet, given the pressure to conform—to perceive, process, and utilize information in the "right" way—millions of people feel as if they don't fit in (or can't cope in)—today's world. Fortunately, we are making great strides in understanding, embracing, and encouraging respect for neurodivergent individuals by emphasizing that "different" does not equate to "deficient" or "broken."
Those who are not given the individualized attention and support they deserve often suffer from constant self-doubt, a lack of confidence, and poor self-esteem. When we learn to see beyond a diagnosis and tune into each individual's unique needs, mental and physical health tend to thrive. Join Dr. Carla Manly and medical expert Dr. Raun Melmed who will be sharing his expertise on ADHD, autism, anxiety, and neurodivergence. This captivating episode may be especially helpful for adults, parents, and children affected by ADHD.
Get the support you need:
https://add.org/
https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline
https://www.corticacare.com
https://autismcenter.org
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Books by Dr. Raun Melmed:
Marvin's Monster Diary: ADHD Attacks! (But I Rock It, Big Time)
Timmy's Monster Diary: Screen Time Stress (But I Tame It, Big Time)
Marvin's Monster Diary 2 (+ Lyssa): ADHD Emotion Explosion (But I Triumph, Big Time)
Marvin's Monster Diary 3: Trouble with Friends (But I Get By, Big Time!)
Connect with Dr. Raun Melmed:
Cortica Bio Page: https://www.corticacare.com/bios/raun-melmed-md
SARRC Bio Page: https://autismcenter.org/raun-melmed-md
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raun-melmed-2358082
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There was a time in the not-too-distant past when aging was honored and seen as a natural part of life. Yet in today's world, we've come to fear aging as if it's a dark monster we must fight in order to be loved, seen, and respected. The culture of eternal youth eats away at our well-being on many levels. It creates an increasingly consumptive and expensive demand for youth-fostering surgeries and products. And for young and old alike, the youth culture feeds mental health issues such as low self-worth, depression, anxiety, and isolation. It also fosters ageism and self-ageism, issues that affect us all. The less we honor and embrace every stage of life, the more we marginalize parts of ourselves and our communities. How can we create the understanding, unity, and changes we need? Join Dr. Carla and ageism expert Lindsey McDivitt—writer and advocate for intergenerational understanding—as they explore the importance of joining together to combat ageism.
If your childhood was traumatic, you might expect yourself to have forgotten or moved past the difficulties and challenges you endured. Yet, from my clinical and life experiences, it is clear we never recover from childhood trauma – or any other form of it – unless we purposefully engage in mindful healing. We are told that "time heals all wounds." But in reality, those wounds only worsen when they are marginalized or ignored. Unresolved childhood issues are unfortunately carried into adult life, where they negatively impact relationships and are transmitted intergenerationally through parenting and other formative relationships. Can self-work be the cure?
Join Dr. Carla Manly and trauma expert Dr. Robyn Koslowitz for an uplifting journey into the vital realm of healing from childhood trauma. Through the lens of attachment theory, dive deeper into key issues such as secure attachment, insecure attachment, self-discovery, trauma, PTSD, self-work, post-traumatic parenting, and the healing power of personal growth.
Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material. Listener discretion is advised.
Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
We want to believe that our healthcare system will be there for us when we need it. And we rightly expect that those entrusted with our care can (and will) do everything in their power to give us the care we deserve. Yet, unfortunately, I—and millions of others—have found that our healthcare system is terribly broken. When we are too sick, fragile, weary, or ill-equipped to self-advocate and push forward—the times when we need support the most—the system often fails us terribly.
From alcoholism and opioid addiction to anxiety, depression, and schizophrenia, countless people are suffering without any hope of support. Our prisons and unhoused (homeless) populations are filled with individuals who suffer from underlying mental health issues. Those who are without financial resources often suffer the most, although no demographic is immune to this problem. What can we do to make a difference? Dr. Alice Feller, physician, advocate, and author of American Madness: Fighting for Patients in a Broken Mental Health System, offers a wise, shining light. When healthcare becomes big business, humanity loses in the long run. As Dr. Feller notes, “We need to get together and have a political change. We need to take medicine out of the for-profit realm.”
Get your copy of Dr. Alice’s book on Amazon or Barnes & Noble!
Get the help you need:
https://www.nami.org/advocacy/policy-priorities/improving-health/medicaid-imd-exclusion
https://www.aa.org
https://al-anon.org
https://na.org
https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotline
https://www.sossobriety.org
https://www.aasecular.org
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman’s Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Book by Dr. Alice Feller:
American Madness: Fighting for Patients in a Broken Mental Health System
Connect with Dr. Alice Feller:
Website: https://www.alicefellermd.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556805335369
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-feller-m-d-751b3a132
We often believe that we need to change who we are to be loved and accepted. Yet, in the process of shape-shifting to meet others' needs and expectations, we often lose the very core--the true heart--of who we are. The cost to the self can be devastating. I have come to believe that those who truly understand what it is to love and be loved don't ask us to compromise our imperfectly wonderful selves and the values that make us who we are. How can we stand strong in ourselves despite external pressure to conform to what others want or need? Join Dr. Carla Manly and expert Dr. Nick Literski for a captivating exploration of how issues such as the Peter Pan Syndrome can foster conflict and resentment in relationships. Discover how to shift these common concerns into powerful growth opportunities. Using a lens that employs psychology, myth, folklore, and storytelling, we are guided into experiencing deeper connection with the self and others. Professor, attorney, spiritual guide, and shamanic practitioner, Dr. Literski brings a wealth of expertise to this intriguing episode!
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We want those we care about to feel safe, loved, and secure, and we naturally want the same for ourselves. Yet in today's chaotic world, millions feel anxious, isolated, unseen, and unloved, particularly after the pandemic—which took many people's lives off course—feelings of hopelessness, confusion, disappointment, and shame abound. Often-silent expectations from others (and from ourselves) can add another layer of stress. From educational and career goals gone awry to lost friendships and broken dreams, many self-isolate, self-soothe, or resort to finding comfort, meaning, and connection in the virtual world—foraging for relationships online and through social media. However, this unfulfilling chase can exacerbate persistent feelings of emptiness.
As loneliness and mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and suicidality skyrocket, can we embrace the skills that will help us and those we love to navigate this strange new world in healthy, connective ways? Join Dr. Carla Manly and neuropsychologist Dr. Sherry Kelly for an engaging look at how our lives—and our brains—are shaped by trauma, expectations, and perceptions.
Please note that this episode contains sensitive mental health and trauma-related material including suicidality and suicide; listener discretion is advised.
Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Get the help you need:
https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotline
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline
Begin your journey: https://mindandheartcoaching.com
Get your copy of Dr. Sherry’s new book here: https://yourtigerinside.com
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Book by Dr. Sherry Kelly:
Your Tiger Inside
Connect with Dr. Sherry Kelly:
Website: https://mindandheartcoaching.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherry-skyler-kelly-phd-47b01816a
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When life feels stressful, dark, or challenging, we often tell ourselves--or are told by others--that we should just toughen and carry on. Yet, from my professional and personal experience, I've learned that compartmentalizing or burying our struggles only makes things worse in the long run. When we ignore our needs for mental, emotional, and physical safety, we can worsen underlying issues such as anxiety or unresolved trauma. On the positive side, I've discovered a mental health toolkit that helps foster genuine healing. Join me, Dr. Carla Marie Manly, and trauma medical expert Dr. Christy Gibson, for a heartfelt journey into the realm of trauma, anxiety, and the healing process. As physician Dr. Christy notes, "It took me so many years to recognize trauma underlies so much of physical and mental ill health that I saw. It took more years to learn why this happens in individuals and families and communities, especially those placed at risk in their social positions. It’s now time to share what can be done at all these levels – to provide some hope and a solution focus. Without hope, trauma intensifies.”
Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material; listener discretion is advised.
Note:
If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Additional links are in the show notes.
Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly
Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond
The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:
Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanly
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly
Book by Dr. Christy Gibson:
The Modern Trauma Toolkit: Nurture Your Post-Traumatic Growth with Personalized Solutions
Connect with Dr. Christy Gibson:
Websites: https://www.christinegibson.net
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moderntraumatoolkit
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-gibson-md
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gibtrotterMD
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.christinegibson
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