Feelings of jealousy and envy often bring up a sense of shame or insecurity. Yet both jealousy and envy arise even in early childhood as we vie for parents' attention, desire a sibling's toy, or jockey for a positions in friend groups. And, as feelings of romantic love come into our lives, it's the big emotion of jealousy than can have a way of creeping deeper into our relationships. If left unchecked, jealousy can foster anxiety, tension, resentment, and worse. But I've found that if we step back to see jealousy as a teacher--a signal that we're feeling threatened or are unsafe in some way--this often unsettling emotion can be channeled into both self-growth and relationship growth.
Today, I'm joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton, research psychologist and relationship expert, who will take us on a deep dive into the heart of love and jealousy. Topics discussed include sex, sexuality, monogamy, nonmonogamy, betrayal, love, relationships, fidelity, infidelity, consensual nonmonogamy, polyamory, jealousy, envy, compersion, emotions, feelings, discussion, honesty, explicit agreements, implicit agreements, secure attachment, insecure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fear, insecurity, anxiety, archetypes, individuation, alchemy, personal growth, and healthy relationships.
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Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend
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The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships
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Book by Dr. Joli Hamilton:
Project Relationship: The Entrepreneur’s Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love
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