Happy Valentine’s Day, Beautiful.

I know I am a few days late. This episode was supposed to drop on February 9th, but life and tech had other plans. I have included a quick update at the top of the show to catch you up on the technical hurdles, but honestly, it is right on time.

Today we are talking to the woman who feel down in the dumps because it is Valentine’s Day and the world is screaming about couples while you are standing in your singleness. I have been there, watching everyone else get the flowers while I was paying the Eldest Daughter Tax and feeling like I was damaged goods.

But healing actually changes your body chemistry. When you move from surviving to being, you realize you are not broken, you are being prepared. And honoring you becomes fulfilling.

In this episode I am sharing:

• Why I stopped feeling behind in love.

• How to date yourself first so you stop attracting projects.

• The shift from the Clearance Rack to the Luxury Experience.

Ready to go deeper?This is a 16 minute masterclass, but the real work happens in The Healing Circle. If you want the three Soft Energy Bio Templates to refresh your dating profile, my Digital Dating Shield vetting questions, and the Present Tense Birthright Prayer, head over to Patreon now.

Join the Circle for just $5 a month:

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Monday’s episode will drop as scheduled. We are back on track and moving in flow.

• Welcome to a guilt-free zone. This episode invites Black women to reclaim their time, boundaries, and self-worth. Learn practical steps to say no with grace, stop second-guessing, and protect your energy. Free version (22 minutes) on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

• For a deeper dive with tools, exercises, and a guided process to stop feeling guilty when you say no, join The Healing Circle on Patreon for the exclusive. Choose you first, without apology.

Resources and Connect:

FREE E-BOOK: Download my latest guide to reclaiming your confidence here: https://pensight.com/x/jaszashby

Join the Conversation on Social:

TikTok: @inherhealingwithjaszpodcastInstagram: @inherhealingwithjasz

Follow the Show: Hit the plus or Follow button on Spotify / Apple Podcast to never miss an episode.

Share the Healing: If this episode spoke to you, screenshot it and tag me. Share it with an eldest daughter who needs permission to put the bags down today.

Join me in "The Healing Circle" on Patreon for exclusive video episode, chats and deeper community work.

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#Blackwomenhealing #eldestdaughter #selfworth #blackspirituality #blackwomen #singlemom

To the Woman Tired of Coming Last: This is for You

Welcome to a new era of evolution. For years, this space was known as Black Motherhood Unplugged. Today, we expand our circle and step into In Her Healing with Jasz.

If you are a Black woman who has spent your life as the "eldest daughter," the family fixer, or the one who pours until she is empty, this episode is your sanctuary.

Host Jasz pulls back the curtain on the high cost of self-sacrifice and shares the transparent truth of why she had to choose her own healing to save her life.

In this season, we discuss:

• ​The "Eldest Daughter Tax" and the burden of being the strong one.

• ​Motherhood isn't your only identity

• ​Saying NO

• ​The moment Jasz realized she was paying a price for putting herself last.

What to expect from this 22-episode journey of spiritual and cultural reclamation.

Your healing is not a luxury; it is your birthright.

Resources and Connect:

FREE E-BOOK: Download my latest guide to reclaiming your confidence here: https://pensight.com/x/jaszashby

Join the Conversation on Social:

TikTok: @inherhealingwithjaszpodcastInstagram: @inherhealingwithjasz

Follow the Show: Hit the plus or Follow button on Spotify / Apple Podcast to never miss an episode.

Share the Healing: If this episode spoke to you, screenshot it and tag me. Share it with an eldest daughter who needs permission to put the bags down today.

Coming Soon: Join The Healing Circle on Patreon for exclusive live video chats and deeper community work.

#Blackwomenhealing #eldestdaughter #selfworth #blackspirituality

Hey beautiful listeners, it’s Jay Ashby. Season 4 drops Monday, January 26, 2026—bigger, brighter, and more you.

New name: In Her Healing with Jasz

Video episodes + expansion to an additional platform

Share your topics: Coach Jasz will tackle what you suggest

Freebie: E-Book “Seven Days to Reclaiming Confidence” drops Monday

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Instagram @inherhealingwJasz

Email: [email protected]

Still on Spotify/Apple Podcasts and more!

Healing isn’t a destination—it's a practice we do together. See you Monday!

In this season finale of Black Motherhood Unplugged, I pull back the curtain on a year of juggling life, work, and kids while searching for the person beneath the roles. I’m honest about the mistakes I’ve made, the lessons I’ve learned, and the boundaries I’ve learned to set. This isn’t just a recap; it’s a proclamation of self-priority — recognizing who shows up for me, who doesn’t, and where my attention needs to stay: on me. If you’re navigating the curveballs of motherhood and career, this episode is a candid map of where I’m today, where I’m headed, and how I’m choosing myself in the process.

In this episode of Black Motherhood Unplugged: Juggling Life, Working, Kids, I share the personal steps I took to transform my year. I talk candidly about leaning into therapy, changing a small habit, and doing the opposite to reset my momentum. You’ll hear how I held myself accountable and started preparing to take on work and life with renewed focus.

Key takeaways:

The role of therapy in personal growth

Tiny habit changes that yield big results

Using opposite actions to shift mindset

Practical strategies for accountability and momentum

And Setting Healthy Boundaries

If you’re navigating motherhood, work, and self-improvement, this episode offers relatable steps you can adapt to your own life.

On this episode of Black Mother Unplugged, I pull back the curtain on how I’m juggling motherhood, work, and my own pursuit of happiness. I’m sharing the real, actionable steps I’m taking to nurture joy, peace, and self-discovery—building healthy boundaries, knowing myself better, and protecting my mind, body, and spirit to prevent burnout and ditch the dark spaces. From cultivating confidence and embracing “bad bitch energy” to practical routines that sustain me, this is about thriving, not just surviving.

I’m inviting fellow mothers to join me: let go of what no longer serves you, meet God halfway through prayer, and keep going with intention. Let’s empower each other to stay resilient, thrive, and enjoy the ride together. #badbitch #cardib #boundaries #motherhood #happiness

In this episode, I share what it’s really like to date a gaslighting narcissist—what I know now, the red flags to watch for, and how to protect your sense of self. We’ll unpack common manipulation tactics, how to recognize patterns early, and practical steps to affirm your worth, set clear boundaries, and avoid settling. If you’re dating, recovering, or supporting someone who’s experienced this, this episode offers guidance, validation, and hope for healthier relationships. #gaslit #ex #narcissist #healing #heartbreak

This episode is a candid, impromptu freestyle reflection on Black motherhood in the here and now. I share what happened over the last month—taking a 30-day pause, therapy, renewing my commitment to the gym, and the boundary-setting that followed. I talk about stepping back to save myself and, in turn, better show up for my kids, without burning out or answering every call the moment it rings. It’s a real conversation about stress, self-care, and the power of flexible boundaries—finding balance without rigidity. If you’ve ever felt pulled in a million directions, this episode is for you.

Four years after my mother’s death, I’m sharing a candid look at how I’ve come to understand Patricia Renteria as a whole person—long before she was “Mom.” I honor her, I sympathize with her, and I see her clearly today. This shift also reframes my view of my father and our family dynamics, a process that therapy helped me navigate. This is a honest, intimate reckoning and an invitation to grieve, learn, and heal.