In Therapy with Alex Howard

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." – Dalai Lama

Pierre has learnt that when things become uncomfortable, procrastination is the safest response. The problem is, this only delays the inevitable pain and causes more suffering. Changing patterns we have been practising for decades is not easy, but it is absolutely possible with diligence and patience.

Feeling enough doesn't come from achieving goals or having success; it comes from a place of unconditional self-love. But it isn't enough just to understand this; we have to really feel it deep inside of ourselves. Once we do that, we can begin to meet the world from a place of true strength.

Many of us feel like imposters in our lives. We either feel like we don't deserve the success we have now or that which we dream of creating in the future. If we want to change our lives for the better, we have to let go of the old stories we tell ourselves...

When we weren't given the love and holding we needed as children, what can happen in adulthood is that we experience a sense of insatiable deficiency. To solve this, people often look to outside sources such as relationships, achievements, drugs or alcohol. However, the only true way to fill the void is from within...

People often think anger, hatred and rage are bad emotions, and should be avoided. But the more you process and move through these emotions, the more power and control you'll have over your life.

People often think anger, hatred and rage are bad emotions, and should be avoided. But the more we process and move through these emotions, the more power and control we have in our lives.

In this week's episode, Pierre explains that one of his overriding feelings from childhood is that it must have been HIS fault that he was neglected; this is a common conclusion in many people who have experienced childhood trauma, and can only be healed from within...

This week, we meet 44-year-old Pierre, who's come to In Therapy to overcome childhood trauma and achieve authentic self-worth. In this first session, Pierre and I explore his past and how it has affected him in adult life.

This series we're following Pierre, whose life is overshadowed by a sense of unworthiness and a fear of rejection. Pierre has come to In Therapy to overcome childhood trauma and realise his true self-worth. Follow Pierre's journey over the coming weeks as we release weekly episodes of his sessions with me.

This week, I explore the subject of trauma – what it is, how it can shape our lives, and what you can do about it. If you want to go deeper, sign up to my free, five-part video series where I'll walk you through how to decode your trauma: www.decodeyourtrauma.com