In This Moment

Open your mind and imagine….You will feel a new power flow in, you will enjoyed peace of mind, you will discover you can face life successfully. As you become conscious of His presence, you will begin to lose your fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. Make room for Toby C. on your magic bus into the 4th Dimension of consciousness and realize that a Power greater than you has been there all along. You were simply distracted by pomp, turmoil and worshiping the wrong things. Now it’s time to get back on the beam. 

Commitment mean COURAGE. By now, many of us have become convinced that we have more problems than alcohol and other excesses – problems that resist all of the sheer personal determination and courage we can muster. The verdict of the ages is that FAITH means commitment.  Sit back and have an iced tea with Toby C. for your seasonal report on grief and suffering… just when the hand of God seemed heavy or even unjust, new lessons for living were learned, new resources of courage were uncovered, and that finally, inescapably, the conviction came that God does "move in a mysterious way His wonders to perform."

One definition of HUMILITY is to be respectfully submissive.   It’s really a great way to get along with people. Many of us cannot get along with others or ourselves and end up in recovery.  There is an answer to why we are unable to form a true partnership with another human being. Explore the peaceless battleground of the instincts with Toby C.  Be prepared to face the sobering reality that defective relations with others have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes – including our alcoholism. Listen, there is a solution. 

Are you and your loved ones stuck in a living HELL? Have you placed yourself beyond human aid? No defect can be corrected unless we clearly see what it is. Some call them indexes of maladjustments, emotional deformities, or warped character defects. Some of us, in recovery, find that all these major human failings stem, in one form or another, from The Seven Deadly Sins. Discover with Toby C., one of the answers to the riddle of successful recovery and joyful living. Have you ever been placed in a position of neutrality – safe and protected?  Prepare to transcend temptation and be delivered from your disappointing self-centered indulgences.  

“No matter how far we have progressed, desires will always be found which oppose the grace of God.” In other words, the emotional and spiritual drunk often precede the actual ACT of the relapse.   Accompany Toby C. in a journey of self-discovery and take a different perspective on the “slip”. We shall examine some of the mental states that precede a relapse into drinking, for obviously this is the crux of the problem. Prepare yourself for some difficult periods especially in early recovery. 

Unhealthy passive – aggressive relationships nearly always keep us on an emotional jag or worse yet a destructive binge. In many instances we shall find that though the harm done to others has not been great, the emotional harm we have done to ourselves has. Toby C. takes time to help define the word "harm" in a practical way, in a way “we might call it the result of instincts in collision, which cause physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual damage to people”. If we are not sorry, and our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink. 

Many of us know all too well that unless we continue to work hard at the elimination of the worst of these defects, both sobriety and peace of mind will still elude us. Join Toby C. and consider that maybe the worst of all these emotional deformities is FEAR – the antithesis of FAITH. We couldn’t be honest. We were paralyzed with self-righteous fear. We made a searching and FEAR-less moral inventory and at once we commenced to outgrow fear. 

“I think I can tell you exactly how to relax.” First, you master these resentments, but how? Connect with Toby C. and discover the magic of listing and analyzing our resentments – the excitement and relief to know WHY we were angry. Then, and only then, can we genuinely acknowledge that all these self-centered shortcomings of lust, anger, envy, sloth, greed, gluttony, and pride lead to immeasurable self-destructive behavior. Maybe you, too, have placed yourself beyond human aid? "God save me from being angry."

Take the following “acid test” with Toby C.: Can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all conditions? Are we really sober and do we continue to carry a good message to our suffering brethren? Explore for a short while something called the “ultimate authority” -- a loving God as He may express Himself through the group. Reconnect with our primary purpose of staying sober in order that we may help others to achieve sobriety – fitting ourselves to our REAL purpose of being of maximum service to God and those about us. 

Some people are unable to stay sober at all. Many others will relapse periodically until they really clean house. Until we actually sit down and talk aloud about what we have so long hidden, our willingness to clean house is still largely theoretical.  Join Toby C. and discover why people, when they become willing to clean house and then asked a God of their understanding for release, all of the sudden their obsession for excessive self-destructive behavior vanished.