Infertility & Goal Fatigue – What to Do When IVF Fails

If you’re childless after infertility and emotionally drained from years of chasing the dream of motherhood through IVF, I want you to know: you’re not alone. And what you’re feeling right now? It makes perfect sense.

You spent years setting goals—diagnosis, treatment plans, egg retrievals, embryo transfers, second opinions, supplements, side effects, losses… all in pursuit of the child you dreamed of.

But when IVF doesn’t work—and you find yourself childless after all of it—you’re left with a silent question that echoes through your mind:

Now what?

In this episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast, I’m sharing a deeply personal moment that stopped me in my tracks—one that reminded me how so many of us are living in a state of goal fatigue without even realizing it.

It all started with one innocent, thoughtful question from my 13-year-old nephew: “Uncle Jack, what’s your goal for this year?”

And that moment led me to a massive realization—what if we’ve been asking the wrong question all along?

In this episode, I’ll guide you through:

✅ Why infertility turns us into high-functioning goal-chasers ✅ What “goal fatigue” looks and feels like after IVF fails ✅ Why you might feel disconnected even after big wins at work or in life ✅ How I became a workaholic after IVF ended—and still felt empty ✅ The life-changing power of asking, “How do I want to feel?” ✅ What to do if you don’t even know how you want to feel anymore

This conversation is a gentle but powerful invitation to start living from the inside out—not chasing more goals to prove your worth, but learning to feel fulfilled by who you are right now, even without the children you hoped for.

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You don’t have to chase the next big thing to feel proud of your life. You don’t have to “move on” or pretend it doesn’t hurt. You don’t have to keep pushing to prove that you matter.

You’re allowed to feel peace, love, purpose, and joy—even without a child.

So if IVF didn’t work and you’re wondering what now… this episode is your starting point.

Tune in. And let’s begin—together.