InLight Connect

The audio version of a live facebook video broadcast. Tiger playfully explores the nature of the human's misunderstanding. He explores the simplicity of this by looking at common misunderstandings about relationships that often lead to confusion and pain. The same confusion and pain can be found in our relationship with life itself.

Exploring the sacred quality of all things, and allowing our hearts to connect with a truth and guidance beyond the mind's noise. Journey inward with Tiger Singleton, and explore your inherent connection with all that is.

An insightful exploration into the nature of healing, while making obvious the opportunity of all forms of Spirituality; to heal any sense of separation and return to the wholeness of what is real. This audio Journey with Tiger Singleton is both eye-opening and heart-opening.

Reflections on the movie "Joker," and an exploration into the nature and overall perfection of violence. The more we are open to listening, the more we begin to truly understand with a heart of love and compassion.

Audio Transcript below - a live recording from 2017.

I wanted to focus on this topic today of real compassion for the insecurity within us all because it's one of those things that has played out in my life, that has brought me to a deeper place of compassion not only for myself but equally so for those around me and all those I meet. Of course, whenever we look in ourselves and get about our own difficulty and the perceived challenges of this human life, what we find is that really honest everybody else is doing the same thing; everyone else is playing the same game. Some of us are just better at pretending not to be that’s all.

I'm at this point where no matter what anybody tells me about their life, whatever image they put on it, or however firm their construct is I just smile because I know all these things change and the forms that it takes are just like the seasons. In some way or another we're going to experience it all. Insecurity is definitely one of these things that we all feel because it's almost like the epitome of separation. We can say this sense of insecurity, for the experience of the human being, is an inadequacy. Insecurity says that we see something about ourselves that doesn't measure up, and we feel that if it did measure up then we would somehow be more loveable, more whole, more complete. That we would fit in, that we would get what we want. I invite you to just recognize this in yourself and just be honest. For anyone who tells me, "No, it's not there," I don't believe them because somewhere, somehow it's part of the journey.

Sure, there are times when it comes and goes, but there will always be this play of a perceived separation. But the good news is: that it's only perceived. It's not the truth of your nature, it's just a part of the unfolding and this perceived sense of separation for our humanness is what draws us home; it reminds us to go deeper and ask ourselves, "What's really real?" I can see that there's the insecurity, I can see there's the fear, the inadequacy but what's really real about that? And when we get honest we start to discover something about that inadequacy - that it is actually holding space for a deeper love to emerge.

The best way to speak about this is really from my own experience, how I see the blooming of it, how it opens up doors for a deeper depth of connection, a deeper love for others, a deeper understanding and compassion. There's this space in my heart that is so incredibly thankful for the experience of inadequacy. As I remember growing up the biggest experience was of, "What the fuck?!" -- essentially not really moving from a space of clarity at all, instead moving from a space of insecurity that grew into a conditioned response. I think it's wise to note here that this is in no way wrong or bad; it's our own journey, it's our own path of unfolding. When I look back on it now even though others might not agree I just say, "Thank you." Thank you for all of that stuff that drove me into these places of being so confused and insecure that I was suicidal and trying to take my own life because it has really just allowed a deeper falling away.

I would say that one of the biggest insecurities that has played out as a teacher in my life has been related to body image. I don't know exactly what happened but somewhere around the age of 11-13 years old I started to put on a lot of extra body weight. My weight became a sense of identity for me, but not in a positive sense at all because of course there's the teasing and stuff that comes with it in school. I was always one of the bigger kids. I was the fat funny kid in class. When people made their comments I would try and put on this facade of not caring and not worrying but then going home crying and wondering why. Then of course, there's all of these movements to try and lose weight and everything just seemed to make it worse. By the time I was 25 I was almost 300 pounds.

I remember being in that spac

This is the audio version of a live facebook video broadcast, from Tiger's facebook group.

This is the audio version of a live facebook video broadcast, from Tiger’s facebook group.

The root dilemma is believing we are unlovable when we are honestly natural. So, there seems to be a kind of love where acceptance can only happen when the ‘ifs’ are satisfied. However, love is always unconditional and other than that is illusion. So, in this episode, Tiger Singleton, Chris Hingel and Lisa Horgan invite us to wake all the parts of ourselves and to be downright honest to what we are.

Glean insights on the following topics of the podcast:

Connecting is important Spirituality gives rise to healing and it can be painful In order to connect to life that you are, you have to let go of the life you think you have Are we so far to being human? Why do we desperately search for meaning all the time? The crux of being human The childhood conditioning of separation

Connecting is important

Healing can also take place when we connect with someone who shares similar problems with us. We hold space for another when we begin to see we go through the same issues. When we accept that to be human is to suffer and hold space for each other, great healing happens.

When we see more deeply what life is, the natural movement to hold space is the miracle of the human being. We are drawn to the hearts of others even if they are suffering.

Spirituality gives rise to healing and it can be painful

When something asks for healing, separation is perceived which can be painful. It begs for healing and wholeness. We associate good feelings with seeing all is well. However, the disaster is we find synthetic ways to feel good which can lead to more separation. When we look at the forest where everything is natural, and the society where there’s busyness and confusion, it seems we’ve lost our way, almost creating a separate world. Society seems to be separate to actual truth.

Even so, the perception of being separate is to see wholeness. Recognizing pain is the doorway to healing. Then, we can see there was never separation, only wholeness.

In order to connect to life that you are, you have to let go of the life you think you have

The life we think we have has no presence. When we start thinking about who we are, we are taking yesterday’s thoughts and the future’s projections. It is not reality and just a bunch of ideas about what life should/shouldn’t be. It has a character dancing between the past and the future. On the other hand, the real life that we are is to be present and connected with truth. We can recognize a profound sustenance from it. It is like healing to all things and to know all is well. It is just being alive and part of the forest.

In order for us to be present, we need to let go of the life we think we have. We have to come to terms with all outcomes. We need to return to emptiness but the struggle is, we hold on too much to the life we think we have. So, we can choose to just be still and see what the real issue is. When we find ourselves exhausted and realize we are not going anywhere, it is the moment we can start to relax.

Are we so far to being human?

Rather than we should do this or that, there has to be a depth of sincerity to connect. The answer is not of this world but to allow ourselves to be honest. The root is ourselves. When we are chaotic inside, we don’t allow ourselves to be truthful, and at the end of it is pain.

The hindrance is we don’t let ourselves to flow as if we are separate from guidance. The healing takes place when we let our energy flow in order for us to see what we perceive out there. When we allow energy to flow, it will lead us wherever for a deeper discovery. It is never about where we want to go.

Our hearts trust what breathes through everything and when we see it, we realize we are not separate and we can surrender. We can always be honest to what we are.

Why do we desperately search for meaning all the time?

We always search for meaning because inherently, we know there is none. However, our thoughts move on and on. So, to realize our t

Meditation:

Guided Meditation with Tiger Singleton: an edited excerpt from the weekly Meditation and Spiritual Musings live broadcast. See the full episode at: CMSM; Self Love and Permission to Be You.

We are invited to recognize and appreciate our breath. It is given so, life might be life, for us to be us. It is not ours to control or withhold else, we will feel like dying. When we hold it, we feel pain. So, the invitation of life is, “You can breathe.” Similarly, we feel pain when we withhold our sincerity and truth. We can let it out and acknowledge what’s there. We can be honest with ourselves and ignore all superficial spiritual rules.

We can confess our hearts to life. We can drop to our knees and surrender everything and just breathe. If life is asking anything it is for us to breathe, to be ourselves. It does not a demand but rather, invites us to the space for breathing and to be what we are.

Meditation:

Guided Meditation with Tiger Singleton: an edited excerpt from the weekly Meditation and Spiritual Musings live broadcast. See the full episode at: CMSM; Self Love and Permission to Be You.

We are invited to recognize and appreciate our breath. It is given so, life might be life, for us to be us. It is not ours to control or withhold else, we will feel like dying. When we hold it, we feel pain. So, the invitation of life is, “You can breathe.” Similarly, we feel pain when we withhold our sincerity and truth. We can let it out and acknowledge what’s there. We can be honest with ourselves and ignore all superficial spiritual rules.

We can confess our hearts to life. We can drop to our knees and surrender everything and just breathe. If life is asking anything it is for us to breathe, to be ourselves. It does not a demand but rather, invites us to the space for breathing and to be what we are.