Inner Journey with Dr. Saliha Afridi

Self forgiveness

We use up ALOT of energy holding down our grudges against self and other…

And in the cancel culture we live in, it’s easy to become hypercritical of others and ourselves.

But news flash: All human are fallible- yes even the hero’s and the gurus. And holding them, or yourself to an unrealistic standard of perfection hurts them, and you. No one is perfect- especially those that appear it.

Where there is judgement, there can be no healing… and without healing there can be no tenderness … No openness… no joy... no learning.

I know you are worried that you don’t deserve forgiveness bc that might mean you are letting yourself off the hook, or you are worried that you will do something wrong again.

Don’t worry, it’s not… trust yourself and know that when you forgive yourself and show up for yourself with love and compassion, curiosity and understanding that you will learn what you needed to learn from that experience …

Self love begins with self-forgiveness and self understanding…

How to heal a broken heart and do the work of grief

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How to psychologically and spiritually approach difficulties that life brings forth for you.

For example: An infant to a toddler to a young child- to an tween- to a teen- to a young adult- to an adult- to an wise elder all will go through a hero’s journey at each stage…

A journey in which they will be transformed by what they encounter.

I speak about what I believe is an alchemical process that happens in the “special world” at each stage of our development.

You can apply this framework to anything in your life- your relationship, your professional life, your parenting journey, and your inner journey.

Forgiveness .. it’s so hard…

If ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’

What is it and what is not

It has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self…

Forgiveness is an act of self love

What you practice gets stronger

What feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing ?

What is love…

Some of what I know so far about love:

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What gets in the way of us experiencing or giving love?

Can you love a person and not accept their behavior?

Can there be love without self love?

“Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside of you as a result of what happens to you”

-What is trauma,

I am doing these talks with a focus on childhood trauma (our childhood and our childrens)

This IG is one of many I want to do on this topic bc I really feel that the world is becoming more chaotic and the experience of life feels very traumatic for our nervous systems, unless we consciously are engaging in ways to heal, ground, soothe, and process all that we are encountering.

Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion. It may be accompanied by a change in attitude, from positive and caring to negative and unconcerned.

Mothers, healthcare workers, parents of special needs children, teachers, mental health workers, carers for elderly parents are just some of the people who are likely to experience chronic stress, and possibly burnout.

The experience is as if you have nothing left to give.

Burnout is far more serious than being stressed… it is a total shutdown if your nervous system and it can last for many weeks, and months.

I talk about ways you can start to move towards healing… bit by bit… moment by moment … it starts with you caring for and considering yourself along with all the other people you care for and consider. It’s not about choosing yourself only and neglecting others, but choosing yourself *also.

(Also see my other Podcast episodes that talk about pathways to creating safety within your nervous system)