inside OUT with Jojo Cottle

Spring is a season of change, and change can be completely overwhelming. This week Jojo opens up about her own spiral as she prepares for a major life move, and introduces the Overwhelm Paradigm, a mindset shift that helps you zoom back into the present, tackle things step by step, and trust that the seeds you are planting now are already growing. Short, grounding, and straight to the MES of it.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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In this solo episode, Jojo breaks down the 7 Ms framework as a personal audit for every area of your life. From how you start your morning to how you talk about money, this episode is a mirror, not a checklist. Jojo walks through each M with honesty, humor, and real life examples to help you get conscious of where you are thriving and where you are quietly leaking energy. This one is for anyone who has been on autopilot and is ready to take their life back with intention rather than perfection.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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What if everything you've been told about love, intimacy, and compatibility is actually working against you? In this episode of Inside Out, Jojo sits down with relationship coach and RLT trained therapist Monica Tanner, host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast and author of the bestselling book Bad Marriage Advice, to bust the biggest myths around relationships, intimacy, and passion.

They dig into why differences between partners create passion (not problems), what intimacy actually means (hint: it's not just sex), how to get out of roommate territory using the 3% rule, and why "happy wife, happy life" might be doing more damage than you think. Whether you're single, dating, or decades into a marriage, this conversation will shift the way you see love and yourself.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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What if everything you believe about finding "the one" is actually setting you up to fail?

In this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save the Marriage System, podcast host, and author with over two decades of experience helping couples navigate the hardest seasons of their relationships. And yes they go way beyond saving marriages.

Whether you're single and dating intentionally, newly committed, or years deep into a relationship, this conversation is going to shake something loose. Lee and Jojo get into the biggest lies people tell themselves when choosing a partner, why "the one" mentality actually increases your chances of divorce, the subtle red flags we rationalize away (and why we do it), and what real compatibility actually looks like; hint: it has nothing to do with shared interests.

They also talk about the "pause button"... the silent relationship killer nobody warns you about, the three levels of connection every relationship needs, whether you can come back from infidelity, and how to know when it's actually time to walk away.

This one hits different. Press play.

🔗 Find Dr. Lee Baucom

📱 Un-Pause Your Marriage App

📖 Substack: The Connection Compass 

🎙️ Save the Marriage Podcast

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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You did the work. You made the decision. So why haven't you moved yet? In this episode, Jojo gets real about the in-between space, the uncomfortable gap between deciding and doing and ties it to one of the most cosmically significant days in 60 years. Chinese New Year, a solar eclipse, a new moon, and the opening of an 18 month eclipse portal all collide on the same day. We break down what the Year of the Fire Horse means, how the North and South Nodes are literally written for this moment, and why the universe is done letting you stay stuck. Plus Jojo shares her own next step in real time. This one is personal. Let's get MESy.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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Time for a personal audit. What patterns, places, and versions of yourself need to change? A vulnerable conversation about real transformation and the cost of staying stuck.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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Originally released November 2024 | 13 minutes

Sometimes you need to hear something at exactly the right time. And if you're reading this right now? This is that time.

I'm bringing back one of our most powerful episodes because the patterns we fall into don't take breaks. Whether it's the same relationship dynamics, the same self-sabotage, the same excuses,  if you're tired of the loop, this episode is your starting point.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why wanting change isn't enough (and what actually IS)
• How to recognize when you're stuck in a repetitive cycle
• The difference between being reactive vs. proactive in your own life
• Setting boundaries that actually stick
• Turning challenges into opportunities for real growth

This isn't about perfection. It's about awareness. It's about making ONE different choice. Let's Get MESy with what it really takes to break free.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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Jojo gets real in this episode of Inside OUT, sharing a raw, real-time experience with projection: one of the four relationship ruiners. After being called out minutes after recording, she connects the dots back to her very first episode, Roots Before Romance, revealing how projection, blame, reliance, and expectation all stem from skipping the inner work. Tune in for powerful insights on emotional awareness, healthy love, and building real connection from the inside out.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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This week Jojo gets MESy with the 4 relationship ruiners you don't see coming. Learn how these patterns sabotage your connections and how to break the cycles through radical ownership and inner work. Stop destroying relationships and start building them.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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Tired of over-explaining and proving yourself? In this episode, Jojo explores how to stop performing and start living in your truth: mentally, emotionally & spiritually.

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This podcast explores love, dating advice, dating apps, manifestation, attachment styles, relationships, codependency, spirituality, dating, anxious attachment, law of attraction, self-sabotage, mindset, relationship coaching, heartbreak, people pleasing, self-love, toxic relationships, online dating, healthy relationships, self-worth, personal growth, relationship advice, fear of abandonment, relationship boundaries, secure attachment, inner work, single women, feminine energy, relationship anxiety, codependent relationships, finding love, emotionally unavailable men, emotional availability, manifesting love, and limiting beliefs, empowering women to heal, grow, embrace self-worth, and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.

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