Your presence can define your influence and your influence supports your presence. This episode starts off a long series called “Influence is…” and helps you, the Influencer, as you look at the finer details to become a better you. So, sit back and listen to what Brian and Ed have to say about presence but be ready this one is a lengthy conversation.

The article used during this episode can be found at the following website:

https://www.business.com/articles/how-to-establish-presence-and-influence-people/?fbclid=IwAR2vlOJVxfVxTpYdQI1zsq917SflVZURykB2dvc0z6gSdJSqChig3rlZobw

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Below you will find all the questions posted for our very first Q&A Show. Don’t worry, you will get a chance to ask more questions for our next one which will be Episode 50.

1. Tammy Haley - Do you think that understanding Freud's Personality Factors can/will help you to influence others?
   

1. Tammy Haley - Have either of you read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie? If so, what did you think of it?

1. Tammy Haley - To further it, if you haven't, perhaps the podcast could do a 'book club' type episode, where everyone interested can read the book, send in their views/interpretations on a thread, and y'all talk about just this book. I don't know. Seems my brain is flowing with ideas tonight

1. Tammy Haley - Brian - in the Suicide episode, you talked about the Netflix show "Thirteen Reasons Why". The show was actually based on the Novel of the same name by Jay Asher. I encourage you to read the novel, when you have the time, as it was very well written and even more traumatic and dramatic than the show. (Not really a question, just that I have read the book and I would love to hear what you think of it).

1. Tammy Haley -

Ice cream or sherbet?

1. Ric Williams - What was your most difficult leadership challenge, and when did you realize it was your most difficult leadership challenge

1. Tammy Haley - What are some lessons learned with professional boundaries for teams you lead?

1. Heather Linville - We talk to ourselves more than anyone...how big of an impact do you think our internal conversations have on our lives, and what way can we keep that internal conversation the most positive influence it can be? Do you have your own intentional, motivational talk with yourself or is it second nature?

1. Cathy Sanchez - What is the best way to handle a situation where you know your boss did something ethically wrong?

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Building a relationship can be a challenge, but having some help along the way is always nice. Here are just a few tips to help you along your journey with your significant other.

10 signs the honeymoon phase is over:

1. You stop trying to be your best you in appearance and action for the other person…sweatpants on and makeup or styling off.

From this point, the actual relationship building truly begins but only as much as you want it.

14 Areas of a Lifelong Marriage of Influence:

1. Communication –

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Movies are such a great source for entertainment and help us look at things differently. This is exactly why we are doing this episode about movies. We talk about many movies but list out our top 5 influential ones. Sit back listen and let us know what you think.

Movies Mentioned:

• Mile 22 - https://amzn.to/2E3mtXU

Brian’s Top 5 (Remember Rocky (https://amzn.to/2HeH39B)is actually #1

5. Back to the Future - https://amzn.to/2HezEY7

4. We Were Soldiers… - https://amzn.to/305iSlo

3. The Program - https://amzn.to/2PYl3T5

2. Forrest Gump - https://amzn.to/2DZ0K35

1. 300 - https://amzn.to/305iUd0

Ed’s Top 5

5. The Five Heartbeats - https://amzn.to/2VBMw3m

4. Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark - https://amzn.to/2VBMA36

3. Monster’s Inc. - https://amzn.to/2Q1JoYf

2. Blackhawk Down - https://amzn.to/2E6zzUm

1. Patton - https://amzn.to/2E1SeAA

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Episode 22 dives into the questions asked to the guest we interview, also known as Instinctive Response. Really, it’s just a fun friendly show to help the audience get to know Brian and Ed even more. Make sure you let us know what you think by leaving a review on the Facebook page. Just Click on the link below!

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Episode 21 is primarily about self and learning how to reflect upon our lives for a better understanding of being a better self. Brian and Ed dive deep into the content written by Tracy Kennedy, Lifehack’s Personal Development Expert, titled “How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life” (Kennedy, 2018). The insights of Brian and Ed combined with the information provided by Tracy incubates a recipe for success at the individual level, which can be used in aiding others as an Influencer.

Tracy’s article can be found at https://www.lifehack.org/696285/how-self-reflection-gives-you-a-happier-and-more-successful-life

Tracy Provided some questions to ‘ponder’ when you reflect on YOU:

• What are my core values? What are the beliefs, guiding principles or ideas that are deeply important to me? What are my priorities?

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Episode 20 is an in-depth look at communication and how we can better enable influence through it. Without good communication we will struggle to be effective in our ability to influence others but why settle good communication when you can make it great communication? Brian and Ed take the topic of communication and weave through the intricate details which help us be more involved. They often reference the use of Emotional Intelligence when developing communication so be sure to check out Episode 17.

There are 4 Areas of Communication discussed:

1. Effective Communication

2 Books Referenced in the show:

1. The Coaching Habit - https://amzn.to/2VZEk8Z

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Today’s show is hosted by Ed Haley and his lovely wife, Tammy. They present a different look at music and how we can and are influenced. Additionally, they help listeners understand how being a leader or influencer is like music. So, sit back relax and listen in on a great conversation.

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What is G.I.V.E.?

            G.I.V.E. is the four primary principles designed to help hone the skills, competencies, and capabilities as influencers. The G.I.V.E mentality is an influencer centric approach aligned to existing strategies to reach the desired target audience. Each element must be influencer unique, relevant and compelling if it is to act as a key driver of engagement and retention for successful outcomes.

G is for Growth

            Process, Development, and Gradual Increase

I is for Inspiration

            Animating, Quickening, and Exalting Influence

V is for Vision

            Vivid, Imaginative Conception, and Mental Picture

E is for Experience

            Personally Encounter, Practical Wisdom, and Learning

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What is Emotional Intelligence?

The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

5 Emotional Intelligence Competencies with Solutions to Success

1. Self-Awareness/Reflection – Understanding yourself by knowing your emotional Strengths and Weaknesses. This is also knowing how others perceive us as being know how your mood directs thoughts and decisions.

 Solution to Success: Journal and if you are unsure what to write then use prompts. Also, you can slow down to grab your composure (Take just a few minutes to think). Be introspective in nature and seek honest feedback from those you trust. Become an internal change agent driven to improve weaknesses and strengths. Be honest with yourself and check your ego.

1. Self-Regulation/Discipline – Taking control of your emotions when faced with challenge or stress. Think about decisions and outcomes. Be reserved in language toward others. Holding to your personal values. Do not become a slave to your emotions.

 Solution to Success: Build your own values-based code of conduct. Take ownership no matter the outcome but be sure to praise others when it is good. When faced with giving an emotional response use 15-30 seconds of deep breathing to gain control. Develop 3 different courses of action to allow yourself to think in different directions.

1. Motivation/Purpose – It is important to know why you are doing what you are doing and have a positive mindset of success. Knowing your why in anything you do has to be your center of focus. If you are unsure of your why then your motivation will drain quickly.

 Solution to Success: Find your why, which can be done using the lessons of Simon Sinek. Once you know your why, measure your motivation level (low, medium, high). Set achievable goals to elevate confidence and a positive environment. We will be faced with times of despair or problems so a bridge to overcome is using resilience (Hunt the Good stuff is great for this). We have to remind ourselves; Attitude is everything and to think long term.

1. Empathy – Put yourself in other people’s shoes to help understand their emotional state. This will help you understand the wants, needs, and correlated viewpoints of each. Empathy will allow you to react in a worthy manner according to other people's emotions. A highly useful reaction for you is being calm to help the others be calm.

 Solution to Success: Put yourself in other's shoes by going through a thought process of you being the one going through the emotion due to a circumstance. Good or bad visualize yourself going through the same instance. Train yourself to be observant of body language, but also be aware that your body language could be what they are mimicking. Once you notice another’s feelings then respond to them and attempt to create a positive situation if need be.

1. Social Skills – Having the ability to communicate with others no matter the circumstance or situation. Being a team player who creates an atmosphere or environment of positive movement forward to success. Social Skills open the doors of success for others through positive affirmation and motivation. The foundation of this is relationship building.

 Solutions to Success: Learn about conflict resolution and how to direct the conflict when faced with it. Improve communication verbally and nonverbally by engaging in meaningful conversation and by paying attention to your body language. You should strive to have the tough conversations as much as the easy ones. Praise of others is key to building relationships.

Books talked about in this episode:

• Emotional Intelligence – https://amzn.to/2JPg9Z9

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