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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss moral, emotional and physical aversions to oral sex. How does a hesitant giver or receiver confront your blocks?

1. Oral sex is as biblically acceptable as any other means of sexual intimacy.
2. Whether or not you incorporate oral sex into your marriage bed is ultimately up to you and your spouse. But, we hope we can encourage you to find as many ways as possible to share sexual pleasure in your marriage bed.
3. Consider any physical, emotional, or spiritual blocks you may have and if these blocks are helping or hurting your marriage relationship 

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the never-ending conflict of “I want one thing, but my spouse wants something entirely different.” How do I convince my spouse to see it my way?

1. We need to stop asking the question, “How do I get my spouse to do …?” Instead, if we want to love like Christ, we need to be asking, “What does my spouse need me to do?”
2. When exploring why my spouse is uninterested or unwilling to meet my desires, first I must seek to understand their good reasons for wanting what they want (or don’t want)
3. Stop seeing the problem as something that your spouse needs to change and determine what I can do right now to start growing myself to be a better person and to offer something that is worth following.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share the rest of the Q&A session from this year's Retreat, including J. Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous. We covered questions about:

1. How to be there for a spouse dealing with past trauma, especially when it comes to emotional/conflict conversations.
2. I struggle with porn. My wife is aware of my struggle, but I don't always tell her when I slip up. I do this out of a desire to spare from pain. Is this wrong?
3. What sex toys or positions would you recommend?

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• The Dating Divas — strengthening marriages one date at a time. Check out their website for a TON of great resources.
• Ultimate Intimacy — an app and other products designed to strengthen and enhance your intimacy. We especially recommend their conversation starter card deck - it’s great for date night.
• UberLube — a high quality, luxurious silicone lubricant that is smooth and silky, never sticky.
• Get Your Marriage On! — an app, Intimately Us, and other products including Sheets & Ladders, a customizable sexy foreplay game.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions from a live audience at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat! We are joined by Julie Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous and her husband, Jay, for a round table of fun and insightful responses.

1. How do women have multiple orgasms? I have friends that are capable to do so easily, even in unhealthy marriages. Is it a physical or mental ability?
2. Scheduled sex sounds like a great idea. What are suggestions for making it happen? How do you keep it from becoming “routine” or just another “to do” list item?
3. In addition to praying together, what other ways do you suggest fostering spiritual intimacy?
4. What are your thoughts on discreet sex in public? Sinful, irreverent?
5. Are “bad words” in the bedroom wrong? Sometimes they just come out and I never use them any other scenario. It only happens when things are hot and heavy.

...Next week we'll share several more questions and answers from this incredibly fun session!

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In this episode, Matt and Jenn revisit a previous episode about sexual desire differences.

1. In general, a man’s sexual desire is like a microwave (spontaneous) and a woman’s sexual desire is like a crockpot (responsive). Neither is right or wrong and neither is better or worse.
2. Empathize with your spouse’s position by offering grace, mercy, and understanding. Learn to embrace your own desire with contentment and enthusiasm.
3. Each of you have a role to play in building a solid relationship and creating circumstances where eroticism and sexual passion can flourish.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the benefits of heightening our five senses to enhance our sexual experience -- including practical tips!

1. We often limit the potential of our sexual experience and pleasure by narrowly focusing our sensations.
2. I can focus my body and mind to be more present in the sexual experience by concentrating on the five senses.
3. By heightening or taking away sensations, I can deepen the connection to my spouse, intensify my pleasure, and help accentuate my access to arousal in my daily life.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some eye-opening observations after spending some  time with a group of unmarried Christians talking about the the unique challenges that they face in their pursuit of holiness.  Here's what we learned from them:

1. Unmarried Christians are vulnerable to struggles with sexual temptation and loneliness. I need to do a better job of helping singles find a place of belonging and support within my home and the church.
2. Most single Christians do not have trusted mentors when it comes to understanding and living out their sexuality. I need to be a louder voice and safer place for God’s plan for sexuality, dating and marriage in the Kingdom. If young people aren’t asking me for advice, I should consider why not.
3. Pornography is rampant in the church (not just among young people, not just among men). Most people do not know how to quit or where to even start. Church, do better. I need to be a stronger advocate for dealing with this destructive issue in my community.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share a recorded portion from the Q&A session at the Marriage Day in Bowling Green, KY on August 27. We covered topics like:

• Surviving Kids
• Scheduling Sex, #trashnight
• Afterglow
• Lost attraction
• Challenges of aging, childbirth, and other hormone changes
• Inviting pursuit after long-term rejection

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Topics include:

• Creating emotional connection through conversation
• Navigating the dance of sexual pursuit and rejection
• Harnessing the power of sexual fantasy
• Removing barriers to intimacy

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to shift your mindset toward healthy growth in your marriage.

1. My attitude towards the challenges, conflicts, and obstacles in my relationship will determine the depth of fulfillment and connection that I can attain in my marriage.
2. A fixed mindset limits my potential by focusing on fear, shame, and pride. 
3. A growth mindset pursues a deeper relationship by embracing vulnerability, curiosity, and the fulness of love.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice about how to use quickie sex to improve your sexual relationship.

1. Not every sexual experience has to require the same level of energy and preparation. Define the types of sex that you are having in your marriage.
2. A quickie is a great way to maintain sexual connection even when you or your spouse don’t have the time and energy for something more extraordinary.
3. The best quickie sex happens when each of you has communicated realistic expectations and when you are using sex to build connection rather than just release or obligation.

Join us at the 2022 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 22-24, in Houston, TX. Registration is now open, but space is limited and we expect to sell out again. So, register today! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat

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