Today Danielle & Lily talk about what it's like being the black sheep of the family, especially around the holidays. We unpack how it feels to love your family, but also know you're different from the pack. Do feelings of not belonging ever go away?

Danielle & Lily are back to discuss honesty. What does true honesty look like, when is it OK to lie, when should you withhold some truths, and how does this affect our relationships and ourselves?

In this episode, Lily & Danielle divulge their biggest fears. We talk about how fear and shame often intertwine, what we fear, and not letting it control us.

Lily & Danielle explore what it's like to leave the place where you grew up, be vulnerable in a new city, and learn to navigate the unknown while working through complex feelings about the known you left behind. We talk family responsibility, forging new friend family, "expat" life, and feelings of belonging.

Danielle & Lily bring up an oddly taboo subject: our periods. Though a sizable number of people in the world experience periods, society is awfully quiet about the subject. We discuss our early experiences, how we learned about this inevitability, and are pretty certain we'll be broaching the subject again.

Danielle & Lily are joined by very special guests: spouses extraordinaire and creators of the It's A Shame theme song: Jamey & Stefanie! This week we are talking about guilty pleasures. From questionable food choices to, um, interesting musical interests (as well as some tangents on 80s and 90s movies), we probably should be ashamed of these tastes ... but are we?

Danielle & Lily talk about the ins and outs of keeping in touch. How does being accessible 24/7 affect how we interact with each other? What are the rules and responsibilities of modern communication, and how do we set healthy boundaries? Join us as we wrestle with how available is too available, and when it's ok to go radio silent.

Danielle & Lily explore how strange and unusual our brains can get while asleep. How does shame follow us into our dreams, and maybe even more interesting, back again into our waking lives? With a slight detour at the top of the show into the nightmarescape that has been politics lately, they wonder if hope exists on the horizon. Find out what dreams go on when we close our eyes and what stays with us when we wake.

Lily & Danielle talk about taking up space: road rage, manspreading, body shame, staying safe walking down the street, simply existing--get ready for a packed episode. How can we all learn to navigate shame landmines and give ourselves permission to take up the space we need? We belong in whatever room we're in. Let's own it.

Meet Lily & Danielle. These new podcast hosts introduce the concept and origin story of It’s A Shame, get interrupted by (sneaky but loveable) cat co-hosts, and mistake beats for seconds as they figure out how long they’ve been talking. It’s not perfect, but it’s a start. And there’s no shame in that.