It's Not You, It's Your Hormones

What happens to overworking women when robots are working for us?

I pulled my car over on the side of the road in San Diego this week to write down one sentence from a podcast. One of the godfathers of AI was asked what his grandson should do with his life. His answer had nothing to do with a career.

I haven’t stopped thinking about it. Because I’ve spent most of my life as a human doing. So have most of the burnt out, high achieving women I work with.

So if the job goes, who are you?

I also get into the one pattern I’ve seen across thousands of calls that decides whether a woman actually heals her hormones or stays exactly where she is. It’s not time. It’s not money. And it’s definitely not more information.

If you’ve ever looked at your whole career and quietly asked, is this it? Press play.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

What if your 70s could be your healthiest years yet? 

I get DMs every week from women in their 60s and 70s who think they've missed the window. They're too old. Their condition is too far gone. Their doctor already said the labs are fine, so this must just be what 70 feels like.

So I wanted you to meet Barbara.

She's a psychiatrist, she runs the counseling center at Harvard, she was a professionally trained pianist before medicine, and she has had type 1 diabetes for 55 years. When she was diagnosed there was no way to even test your blood sugar. Doctors told her the damage to her eyes would start in two years. Then five. Then 10. Fifty five years later, nothing.

And when we got on our first call I honestly wondered why this tiny, fit woman needed me at all. She played competitive tennis, she had a trainer of 13 years, she did Pilates. But she hated how she looked in photos. Slumped. A little puffy through the middle. Stuck at 135 when she wanted 125. And she'd quietly decided that was just how it was going to be.

It wasn't. Her cortisol was running backwards, low in the morning and high at night. Three weeks of one simple change before bed and she was down three pounds and her blood sugars shifted. Now she has days where her pump says she's 100% in range, while other people with type 1 tell her they're sitting around 67.

We get into the board she put up in her office so her whole staff can see her red and green dots, the afternoon candy jar that's gone, why her primary care doctor refused to look at her labs, what happened when she started delegating, and the one thing she says matters more than any protocol, coming from a woman who has spent 30 years as a psychiatrist.

If you're 50, 60, 70, living with a condition, and you've been told this is as good as it gets, press play.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

So many of the women I work with have masters degrees, PhDs, massive roles. They’ve done the 10 minute consult. They’ve been told their labs are normal. And they’re still sitting there with a racing heart, brain fog, zero focus, quietly asking ChatGPT at midnight if they have ADHD.

Some of them do. A lot of them don’t. And the difference matters, because Dr. Brighten says taking ADHD meds when you don’t actually have ADHD may do the opposite of what you’re hoping.

We get into the two things she checks before she’ll ever send a woman for an ADHD assessment, and the ferritin number most doctors never look at. A client whose TSH was over 7 and her doctor wanted to wait until it hit 10. Why so many high performing women wake up in their 40s feeling like everything is falling apart, and why it’s not that their brain suddenly broke. What masking really costs you, and why “just stop masking” is terrible advice for a woman with a job and a mortgage.

She also gives you the exact sentence to say when your doctor dismisses you. One word. It changes the whole appointment.

And the 20 minute thing she does before every big presentation that buys her 2 to 3 hours of peak focus. It’s so simple you’ll be annoyed.

If you’ve spent your whole life being told you’re smart, you just talk too much or don’t apply yourself, press play.

Find Dr. Jolene Brighten and get her book ADHD & Women

https://drbrighten.com/

Instagram:
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✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

Bride Detox & Debloat Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-not-you-its-your-hormones/id1799354267?i=1000708392585

Most of my bride clients come to me in their late 30s. This client came to me at 28, and she found me by typing "how to fix my hormones" into TikTok. 

She was doing everything before her New York City full-time job. Spin, barre, boot camp. Gluten free, dairy free. Facials every month, an energy healer, a holistic doctor, her GP, her OB. Every single one of them told her it was hormonal. Not one of them told her what to do about it.

Meanwhile her hair was coming out by the handful in the shower, she was traveling for work 60 to 70% of the time, and she had a wedding in the south of France on the books.

If you're engaged, exhausted, trying to lose weight, and waiting for life to slow down, listen to this one first.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

Every Friday I do a health Q&A in my stories, and this week someone asked me the question every woman is secretly thinking. How long is this actually going to take?

And I get it. You've done the 21 day cleanse. You did keto. You hired the trainer. Your doctor says your labs are normal. And you still feel like garbage. So of course you want a number.

Here's the thing nobody wants to hear. You didn't get here in 21 days, so you're not getting out in 21 days. But it's probably not as long as you think either.

In this one I'm breaking down the real hormone timelines I see after working with 350 women in 3 years. What happens in the first 30 days, why the first 90 days is a weight loss phase and not a fat loss phase, why gut issues need their own timeline, and why getting the result and keeping the result are two completely different skill sets. I also tell you about my 20 year old self driving around Cambridge with the check engine light on for years, which is basically how most high achieving women treat their cortisol.

And there's one factor that can double your timeline. It has nothing to do with your hormones. It has everything to do with you.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

When Robin booked her first call with me she was pumping in her car outside her office. I asked if it was a good time. She said, girl, this is the only time I have.

That's the woman I want you to hear from. Full time attorney in DC. Three kids, the youngest still breastfeeding. Four to five days a week in the office, home to dinner, bath, bedtime, repeat. She and her husband call it a razor's edge, and most days it tips one way or the other.

She was about to go on a GLP-1. The doctor wouldn't prescribe it while she was breastfeeding, and she didn't want her weight to be the reason she stopped feeding her baby. So she came to me, fully expecting to hear that she'd have to wait.

What I didn't expect was how much of this episode would be about a 12 year old girl at a Weight Watchers meeting every Saturday. Popcorn for lunch because it was low in points. Earning dinner with a workout. Sneaking chocolate chips so nobody would see. 20 years of that, and it was still running the show at 37.

We get into what she actually changed, which is less than you'd think, and the 5:30am boot camp class I told her to quit. Her husband still can't wrap his head around that one. We talk about the year she refused to be in a single photo with her second baby, the red bathing suit at the pool, the farmers market moment by the peaches, and a word I think every working mom needs to hear.

If you're breastfeeding, working, exhausted and assuming your body is on hold until the kids are older, listen to this one first.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

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Most women get colonics when they’re desperate. Permanently constipated, permanently bloated, planning my whole day around when and where you might actually poop.

That was before I fixed my gut. Before I fixed my hormones. I thought maybe colon hydrotherapy was the answer and not just a very expensive rinse.

Here’s the truth. If you're only going every other day, your liver is packaging up your estrogen and sending it out, and you're not letting it leave. Which is why the bloating after meals, the weight that won't move, the three months pregnant look by 3pm, none of it responds to another probiotic or another elimination diet.

So in this one I'm telling you exactly what a colonic and an enema actually do, what happens in the room, who should never do either, and the 5 gut stats I run every woman through to find out whether her problem is constipation or something living a lot further upstream.

Plus the client who did enemas for 15 years because it was the only way she'd go. Clear scope, normal stool test, and five things on her labs that no colonic was ever going to reach.

You're not broken. You're backed up in a place the hose doesn't go.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

To connect with Tammy on abiguous loss and grief education:

I have a very specific person I want you to hear from on that.

My mom. Tammy. She was my actual first client, back when I was managing ecommerce at Crocs from 8am to 6pm and doing my practitioner course at night with no real idea what I was doing. She raised her hand to be my beta client because I wanted to know if this thing that worked for me could work for a woman past menopause. She is also the reason I have the nerve to do any of this.

She came in exhausted from a work situation that was quietly wrecking her, sleeping through the night about half the nights a week, and carrying weight around the midsection she had gained over a decade and could not shift. She had tried the running, the rowing, the lifting, Body for Life, the grapefruit diet. Her doubt going in was not "will this work," it was "I do not have time for this."

What happened next is the part I want you to sit with, because it is not a diet story. It is a woman at 66 who ended up under her college weight, in a sleeveless black dress she had not worn in 30 years, with a raincoat that now overlaps four inches, who reads 400 pages on longevity on her sabbatical and comes back telling me why women in their 40s, 50s and 60s need to be lifting right now.

Read Outlive, the book Tammy mentioned in the podcast
 

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

This ep is exclusively for women who want to release weight efficiently (and sustainably) without fad diets, gym time and GLP-1s. If speed scares you, jog on. If you're ready, book a call here. We'll discuss your symptoms, and whether you're a fit for the Healthy Hustle Hormone Reset program.

I've been in online rooms with other fitness professionals lately and I've seen what they're selling. A macro plan, a weightlifting plan, and a weekly check in. For five, seven, ten thousand dollars. And honestly it made me want to 10x my prices, because I know that is never going to work for the kind of woman I work with.

So this episode is me lifting the curtain on the whole thing. Not to sell you. To show you exactly what happens when a woman comes into my program, so you can actually tell the difference between real protocols and really good marketing.

Because here's what I keep running into. A woman gets on a call with me, tells me she's been eating 1400 calories, going to the gym, not perfect but definitely not eating like a slob, and the scale hasn't moved in over a year. Her doctor ran her labs twice and both times everything came back normal. And she's furious, because it's not for lack of effort.

Four in five women have a hormonal imbalance that explains exactly why they don't look or feel the way they want to. And most of them will never find it, because doctors are looking for disease, not imbalance. Those are two very different things.

So I walk you through it. What I look for in a client and why I'll tell you straight if you're not a fit. The intake, the two personality tests, the symptom map I build before we even talk about labs. When I test and when I genuinely don't need to. And then I take you through one client start to finish.

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.

I never get sick. I do not even own a box of tissues. So the fact that I am recording this with a deep chest cough, a puffy face, and hair going in nine directions after a Gojek ride is, honestly, a little bit funny and a little bit humbling.

And I decided to do the thing I do with every client and run a full audit on myself and why I got sick.

You probably do not have a bad immune system. You have a body running an overdraft, and immunity is one of the most expensive departments in the building, so it gets defunded first. It is why the sickest week of your year lands right after the big deadline, or on day one of vacation. You did not catch something on the plane. You got on the plane depleted.

In this one I break down the four real reasons immunity drops, including the one almost nobody connects, which is your gut and every round of antibiotics you have ever taken. I had strep throat from age 10 to 14 and it was not a coincidence.

Episode Links:

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Cold & Flue Bounceback Protocol

✨ Get the guide for 5 food swaps to release the first 5 lbs here.

☀️ For even more hormone healing and down and dirty tips to release weight and feel amaze, let’s connect on Instagram, TikTok, & LinkedIn

✨ Grab the Busy Girl’s Guide to Hormonal Weight Loss ebook, with prescriptive guidance on how to heal your hormones to release weight and feel amazing.

✨ Ready to figure out if your hormones are at the root of your weight loss, energy, sleep, or cravings struggle? Let's find out if it's your hormones and give you the first step to fix it.

📞 Book a Hormone Reset Call and crack the code behind your symptoms to see if hormone are at the root and get your first action step to fix it.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, or supplement routine.