If we wait until something is absolutely safe, we do nothing. safety in decision making is only an illusion.

The safety that most organizations seek in rules can be accomplished more simply by accountability, accepting the organization's role in creating its problems - practicing prudence and good judgement that is achieved by organizational learning.

Why live by these rules anyway?

When we are being our fear we need crutches to lean on to ensure us we will survive and protect what we've come to believe must be protected. our rules enable a set of strategies which we use to psychologically delude ourselves into thinking we are secure.

Perfectionism, self-judgement, judgement of others, righteousness, cynicism and resentment are all fostered by our rules. They are so much of us on the Path of Fear that we are not even conscious of them, yet they have licked our behaviors into permanent unquestionable autopilot....

Avoiding Fear creates what we Fear the Most. Many believe that all human behaviour is motivated either by fear or desire. As I've said previously, I believe that fear and desire are almost always related. With almost every fear, there is an implied desire.

Attached to virtually every desire there is an associated fear. I believe that until we name the associated fear and make peace with it, we never achieve what we desire in a sustainable way.

Often, when it's unnamed, fear actually causes us to create what we fear. The truth is that over attachment to any end, whether it's getting what we desire or avoiding what we fear, takes us from a place of spirit where we live consciously and are able to open ourselves to new possibilities. Either fear or desire can cause us to leave "our river of peace".

Making friends with the dark side. All that we have to accept about ourselves isn't just love and beauty. In each of us is a dark side. Fear, Righteousness, Judgement, Perfectionism, Resentment, Confusion, Regret, Blaming, Guilt, Cynicism, Worry, Control mania, Arrogance, Victim-hood, Greed...

Just as all the good qualities we see in others are a reflection of those positive qualities in us, all the things we dislike about others are reflections of those qualities in ourselves. All of these are part of me. All of these qualities are part of you. We can recognize those qualities in others only in the mirrored reflection of ourselves....

Love ourselves? Accept Ourselves? Be kind and peaceful with ourselves? Starting our spirituality with loving ourselves is difficult.

There we stand alone and naked with no one to blame or lean on. Until e love ourselves, we always depend on others to love us, to give us approval, and to give us positive feedback.. We are forever drawn from our spiritual centre by the desire to please others or by the fear of not pleasing them.

What does it mean to love myself?

Peace is an essential part of our spirits. When we live and lead on the Path of Courage, we come to know a deep level of peace that pervades our whole being.

We may still be afraid, angry, frustrated, or irritated at at event of the day, but guiding us like a rudder is a deep sense of peace that tell us we are on the right track.

This peace is generated by a a spiritual connection made possible by self-awareness and conscious living.

For most of us, going mindlessly through the day on autopilot is so habitual that it takes a lot of practice to being truly present.

Millions of hours are wasted each year in organizations with CYA (Covering Yous Ass). memos that rehash how we handled the past or aim to control the future. yet people regularly relate how their best management performances come when they are focused on being completely present in the present..

When leaders have self trust and faith in their ability to handle whatever develops, somehow the answer they need to know emerges.

When we are not present and when we are not aware, we also loose connection. When we think about something we are going to do or something we should have dome differently, we rob ourselves of the connection that allows us to build trust, faith, cooperation and community.

When we don't address and resolve conflict in a healthy way that respects everyone involved, misplaced anger almost always results. As human beings, when we keep suppressing the emotions around unresolved conflict pressure builds; over time we become more and more volatile. Eventually a mere spark in the area of our resentment can set off a raging fire of anger.

When we want to truly resolve conflicts so that relationships improve and people work together in a mutually spirit respecting way we must operate for our heart in a spiritual respecting manner.

Useful Book reference:
Have a Nice Conflict: How to Find Success and Satisfaction in the Most Unlikely Places, Tim Scudder. ASIN ‏ : ‎ B006N7RMLO

When we connect deeply with one person or more on a deeply personal level our lives change forever. On first experiencing a deep connection I was made keenly aware on how superficial and empty most of my relationships were. I no longer wanted to live in a superficial world. I wanted deep intimate relationships, which differed from my old ways.

When we commit to creating meaningful relationships and to the learning that those relationships require, we commit to the discovery of the 'self' that we bring to it.