If we are to be completely in a relationship, we have to be whole, aware individuals who know what we feel and what we wants well as what we think, and we have to truly want to be in community with others. We have to be full and complete with ourselves. We can't come into a relationship as people who depend on others to provide approval to make them feel whole.

When we come into relationships as whole individuals committed to accepting others in our community for who they are, as they are, we are committing to the relationship rather than ourselves, without giving up on ourselves.

When we are in our brains and egos, we believe each of us is a discrete entity, separate from others with whom we live and work.

When we are in our spirits, we know we are intricately connected in a web of relationships that makes it impossible for us to take even a single action without affecting the entire connectedness.

Our relationships, our families, our companies, our communities, and our world are like a delicately balanced 'mobile'. Touch any part, even slightly and the whole 'mobile' reacts with movement....

I spend a considerable amount of time in organizations helping Leaders discover what they didn't know they knew. Including those things that they believed to be true that were false.

The conscious mind has the ability to process 7 pieces of information per minute. The unconscious mind can process 300,000 in the same time. Most of this vast library of information is carried in the unconscious, that part of the brain "we don't know", or the right brain, the non linear, non verbal part of our brains. At any moment we are exposed to 2 billion pieces of information. All of this information helps us, our organizatiosn and communities discover what we don't know. Let's explore further.

We only know what we know - what we have been taught by books, by videos, by audios, by others and by our experiences. That is all we know. Or is it? Is it possible that we don't know what we believe we know? That we know what we don't know we know? Once I was sure I knew how to get ahead: get a good education, find a good company, work hard, do what I am told and be loyal. promotions will come, I will 'move up the ladder' and make more money as I go. I will retire with a gold watch, a good retirement and a few years to live. That is what I knew a few years ago.

In less than a generation, most of what and I and others thought what we knew began crumbling....

Let's explore in more detail.

Dreams are a good way to receive message, sometimes very important messages from the unconscious. The Bible, Native American Lore and Greek, Roman and other mythology are rich in examples of dreams that provide significant guidance to people who listen to and seek to understand their dreams.

Dreams are our most effective source of the information hat we are taking into our unconscious minds at almost 43,000 times the rate our conscious minds can process....

How do we get in touch with Spirit, in touch with our inner self? The answer, I believe, is in being - just being., in self-knowledge, and self-awareness. It lies in listening to our inner wisdom and trusting that we "have the answers." It lies in trusting that we know "what we don't know". We understand our 'safe operating limit" from a physical and mental level. On a spiritual level it lies in giving up the past and choosing to live in the present. It lies in letting negative thoughts and judgement give way to loving and trusting thoughts. It lies in understanding what motivates our relationships and what our relationships really are. Most of all, it is in being - just being.

On the path of Fear, we sacrifice the peace and joy of our current experience as we reach out for the future. When I was on the path of Fear, I didn't know that in my new reality in the path of Courage what others happened to think would become irrelevant.

Moving forward I had reached a point of no return. I had glimpsed what it was like to live from the heart in short quiet times. I made a leap of faith when I made a conscious decision to live in the now and operate from my spirit, my heart centre all of the time...

We need to remember that we have all been programmed with a lifetime of instruction, socialization, and linear, analytical and quantitative thinking.

One of the biggest challenges we face in learning to lead from the heart, lead from our spirits is to become aware when our automatic behavioural responses are activated. Once we begin to to identify situations that pull us out of our heart space, or begin to recognise our own symptoms, we can begin to know what we need to do "to keep our faith."

Seeking the Wonder Child
For most of us, our search for spiritual knowledge is rewarded over the years in 'bits and pieces'. Yet spiritual knowing is within each of us all the time: but until we have done some organized self-discovery, most of us don't know we have it. The things that touch our hearts have always touched our hearts, we may not have been aware that we were being touched.

This experience is like tuning our radio to FM 89.9 for hearing a message that is on a different frequency of 92.0. We get a message, however the isn't really connected to our heart until we tune the dial a bit more...

An important part of discovering spiritual knowledge is learning to tune in and be aware of ourselves to find our wonder child....

Heart Leadership is about learning of the heart, not of the head. Reading and listening about it doesn't bring it to the heart. We often spend years helping our heads to discover what our hearts must have known 'years ago'. Our unconsciousness has the knowledge, bit it is usually inconvenient to acknowledge that fact. This knowledge doesn't 'fit' with popular or management trends or with our personal or business lives.

So we stuff it into the backroom of our hearts: waiting for a more convenient time, then "to our horror" discover their are no convenient times - only time!