“ENM” and “Poly” are labels people who are actively dating are seeing more commonly in the apps.  What is Ethical NonMonogamy or “ENM?” What is Polyamory? Josh and Jo discuss if we are all, in some form or another, participate in a polyamorous relationship. How much of this is about the sex?  Is there a “How To” book for people who are interested in exploring polyamory? In this episode, you’ll hear firsthand experience of his journey through polyamory.  He shares why, the ups and downs, and the many challenges managing relationships with more than one person you feel genuine love and care for.  Part 1 of 2.

References:  

"Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement," by Tammy Nelson, PhD.

www.Multiamory.com/podcast

We are all about the other four-letter word today:  L-O-V-E.  It's all about love... loving... being in love... different types of love... eros, philia, storge and agape... love between partners and lovers... love between friends... love between family.  Songs we love and you should listen to: 1. Wildfire by Cautious Clay (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3gTM-AB2Go). 2. Waiting for That Day by George Michael (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFahhYsa4TY) 4. 1000 years by Bush (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0sMobsUy1zg).  HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY, everyone!!! xoxoxo

Josh and Jo explore two highly popular break-up songs that swept the nation and had everyone singing!  Our take:  One is psychotic and the other mature; both expressing deep pain of a momentary love.  The songs are: “Drivers License,” by Olivia Rodrigo and “ABCDEF-U,” by Gayle.  Which one did you identify with in your last break up?  Maybe both?  What was your break-up song?  DM us on instagram @joshandjo12866 or email at [email protected]!  

First, the polar vortex hits our Saratoga Springs which leads to a discussion about the Vagina Coat (how did this happen to Jo?!). Photo of said coat and Josh “demonstrating” his skills can be seen on Instagram:  @joshandjo12866! The origins of Female Promiscuity and why we need to know. On a more serious topic: Is Closure a myth? Is it necessary to move on? Or should we hang on to the beautiful memories, perhaps, even continue to feel the discomfort in a healthy way? How do you achieve peace from a former relationship, and should you be “over” the last relationship before exploring a new one? If you think the answer is “yes,” you may want to rethink that. If we all do the best we can to understand how we are feeling, perhaps, that should be the goal?

References: Dr. Wednesday Martin on Female Promiscuity https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a11605/female-vs-male-sexuality/

What is Orgasm Gap and how can the data help sexual partners achieve fulfillment? Josh and Jo share painful, heartbreaking experiences and, ask each other, “How do we deal with ‘ghosts’ of ex-lovers who haunt our hearts and minds?” Can we really move forward without anger and only remember the good parts – even if they decide to disappear? And, what’s the value of forgiveness? Do we ever really heal?

Running into a nude beach while in Miami... (aaahhh!!!!).  Josh explores Jo's thoughts on if guys should pay on the first date... Should he ask before he kisses you? What should be the norm when it comes to dating in the modern world and are we truly living up to today's cries for gender equality?  Josh and Jo also begin to touch on ghosts of relationships past and Part 1 on the somewhat controversial topics but fast becoming the norm: ENM or Ethical Non-monogamy and Polyamorous relationships.  

Bo Burnham’s, “If you want love… lower your expectations!” Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llGvsgN17CQ  Josh and Jo ask why we are attracted to bad boys and bad girls, what men and women find sexy, do we want them or need them; and why do women show off their "assets" and does that help or hurt their chances of finding love? What are dealbreakers in a relationship and are they stupid? Is a high body count a red flag? Should you date a person in someone else’s stable? And… a really bad date experience.

Reflecting on errors past with great humility.  Answering the question from our viewers about why people fake orgasms.  Is there such thing as "The One?"  The importance of asking ourselves the question, "Is it compelling?"   Josh and Jo dig deeper into the human psyche and give you something to think about.

Love and relationships are all-consuming -- for all of us.  We think about it all the time.  Whether its euphoria from New Relationship Energy (NRE) or angst and anxiety from not knowing the status of a new relationship ("Are we, or aren't we a couple?"), Josh and Jo talk through challenges and present a different way of thinking that will hopefully help us figure it out...