“How can we have good boundaries when we are taught to transgress other people's boundaries?” Trevia Woods’ post caught my attention. We want our kids to be able to set respectful boundaries for themselves and honor other peoples’ boundaries. Cultural and spiritual appropriation stems from a long history of theft that disrespects boundaries. To build a more just and humane future, we can disrupt this pattern, starting at home. 

 

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Trevia Woods is a mixed race indigenous woman with nearly two decades of experience in bodywork, education, and community building. The last two decades she has founded a body work practice that spans from fertility to beyond birth, She is a primary teacher specializing in English language acquisition while teaching in the USA, China, and Saudi Arabia. Currently, she is using her experience to help women remember their power and build powerful healing practices without culturally or spiritually appropriating. By centering community, she helps self-identifying women feel rooted, curious, and connected. She believes that our best classroom is each other.

 

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Have you ever dreaded spending time with your kids? And then on top of that, felt guilty for even having these taboo feelings?     Humane expectations are a hallmark of justice-centered parenting. Expectations should be humane for kids AND their adult caregivers.     Oppressive systems feed on convincing us—and especially people with marginalized identities—that our own experiences are WRONG, keeping us ashamed and disconnected from our humanity.    Interrupting the cultural pattern of negating feelings is one tiny but essential way we can build a more humane future for everyone.     Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes and relevant links at justicecentered.com/episode  

We want to build justice-centered homes, but what does that really mean?  This episode is going to make some of the possible outcomes more concrete with an inventory you can reflect on.   A couple CRITICAL notes:      + Some statements might need to be adapted for your circumstances, depending on the age of your child(ren) and the resources available to you. Some obstacles are systemic and require systemic solutions.      + No shame. Perfectionism is a hallmark of oppressive systems, meant to keep us down. This list seeks to make the kind of future I’m envisioning a little more visible to lift us up and inspire us.      + You might not even agree with some of my ideas, or you might have your own to add. Your own criteria are welcome—and I’d love to see some of your own modifications to my inventory draft. Feel free to email me at [email protected]   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes and relevant links at justicecentered.com/episode/55 Fall Feeding Workshop Series info

We’re committed to building to a more just future for everyone. We want to flourish within our homes AND we want to contribute to social movements.   These things can seem like they’re at odds, but I think they’re actually compatible.   Justice Louis Brandeis used the concept “laboratories of democracy” to name how states’ small size make them an ideal place to test progressive policies.     This is how I see our families. What our homes lack in scale, we make up in sovereignty. We can co-create ideas and policies that lead to mutual flourishing.   This completely fits with Adrienne Marie Brown’s ideas about emergent strategy—at the micro-level, we can set the pattern for the entire design.   Micro is mighty.   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes, relevant links, and full transcript at https://justicecentered.com/episode   Fall Feeding Workshop Series Info  

As justice-centered parents, we want to build a future where everyone can flourish.   Capitalism, Patriarchy, and White Supremacy Culture constantly undermine our efforts, making us feel like our contributions are insignificant. They view caregiving work as insignificant. They’ve conspired to internalize the message that we have no right to claim a justice-centered identity.   In this episode, I borrow a lesson from nature, a la Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer. On our land, our contribution to the future health of the forest is not in tending to the tall trees directly, but in clearing brush and tending the seedlings.   Sometimes the ways we are best situated to contribute to a more just future are not the most glamorous or visible, but they are still significant. Let’s recognize the power in our unique role as caregivers.  We can build a flourishing future. Right where we are.   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes, relevant links, and full transcript at www.justicecentered.com/episode/53

In this episode (part 3 of 3), feminist financial consultant, mom, and host of The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast Naomi Clark tackles a common question:    How can we avoid raising spoiled kids?   In standard fashion, Naomi completely flips the question on it’s head to reveal hidden assumptions and systems at play.   Naomi works primarily with adult women to help undo the harmful effects of being socialized within oppressive systems. Since Naomi is also raising 3 kids, it made me wonder, what does she do at home to set her kids up differently? How can parents help their kids to avoid some of these traps to begin with?   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes, relevant links, and full transcript at www.justicecentered.com

In this episode (part 2 of 3), Naomi tackles a common family experience—shopping with kids—in a way that respects both kids’ desires and parents’ boundaries.   Feminist financial consultant, mom, and host of The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast Naomi Clark shares how parents can help kids develop healthy relationships with money.    Naomi works primarily with adult women to help undo the harmful effects of being socialized within oppressive systems. Since Naomi is also raising 3 kids, it made me wonder, what does she do at home to set her kids up differently? How can parents help their kids to avoid some of these financial traps to begin with?   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes, relevant links, and full transcript at www.justicecentered.com/episode/50  

Feminist financial consultant, mom, and host of The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast Naomi Clark shares how parents can help kids develop healthy relationships with money.   Naomi works primarily with adult women to help undo the harmful effects of being socialized within oppressive systems. Since Naomi is also raising 3 kids, it made me wonder, what does she do at home to set her kids up differently? How can parents help their kids to avoid some of these financial traps to begin with?   Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes. Show notes, relevant links, and full transcript at justicecentered.com/episode

Effective next week, the podcast will have a new name (and new show art) to better reflect the vision—Justice-Centered Parenting.

Here I share more about how this name came about and what it means.