K-Talk

This is a continuation of my conversation in part 1. Give yourself the chance and grace to heal. It's a messy process, but it's worth it.

I took the summer off to do some personal healing. Over time, everything you deal with and repress just bubbles, exceptionally if you choose, like me, to ignore it. To pretend your parent's slanderous things about you don't hurt the future of your income.

I have said this many times: you can never outrun your problems. You can only party, drink, and smoke so many times you are adding to your current issues.

But Beyonce plays this sexy Vampira type with exclusive powers, who sends for a real estate agent, Harker (a black man), an attractive man married to Mina, this white woman. What if Beyonce played Dracula? How groundbreaking would that be for a black woman to flip the script on a Eurocentric white male characterization? Taking Bram Stoker's book made women seem like they had no personality, only that of marriage, worry and stress. But having Beyonce play this sexy Vampira type with exclusive powers, who sends for a real estate agent, Harker (a black man) an attractive man married to Mina this white woman. He meets with Beyonce, specifically at her home in Louisiana from New York, where he is driving by Reinfield, an older woman who is Beyonce's slave as she is working with her in hopes of turning back time on her youth. When he gets there, he is immediately drawn to this sexual figure in a black velvet and lace gown. Her waist is snatched, amd she has this raspy voice, he almost forgets he is married. From then on, Harker is fighting for his life and his marriage, as Countess Carter finds out he is married and starts tormenting Mina in her sleep until she drives her mad, to where she ends up dead. Harker's Mother, Van Helsing, cannot understand what led ordinary Mina to such insanity overnight. This sassy Upper Eastside socialite lady, Mina, does such a thing..... Let's see how it plays out

Do you know what causes companies to fail? Being too controlling and annoying workers. PS, there is a worker shortage, so no one is going to put up with your  BS. I say this time and time again you want people to expand your business, whether you are a small or large company. People are not one trick ponies, and if you have leaders in your company make use of them. People will take there skills and go somewhere that appreciates there skills.

Which are you? 

Today you have a contract, and you have employee status. More companies are going with contracts because they do not have to pay benefits, but hours are also not confirmed. Working on a contract most of the time means your control your hours. I would always recommend that you perform a contract for a second job, especially for public speaking, workshop creation, life coaching, etc.

Contractor: Most jobs are contracted today because companies don't want to pay health benefits, and a contract acts as security for them because they can let you go. Alternatively, as a contractor, you can make a lot of money because there is no regulation on how much you can work. You also can have "flex work," and your employer pays you in whole. However, this is not stable unless you work with other companies, as this ebbs and flows. So if you have debt, you will need to work for others or get a 9-5.

There is also an illusory contractor position where you are an employee, and you can not negotiate your price but have flex work and no benefits. Again, depending on who you are, this can be lucrative, especially at an agency or a clinic. The only thing is that you can not control your pay.

Employee: As an employee, you get job security, so your hours are what they are. Overtime does not exist anymore. You now get lieu time. But you get your salary or your income based on hours. This is "slave labour," as you are helping other people get rich. You generally have no control over what you make as it is a scale. You did get benefits, but you will typically end up in debt. That being said, some people like this because of security. I am here to tell you that it does not exist. One thing covid has shown everyone is companies will go under, policies will change, and you will generally be out of work. I think this is safe if you have a debt to pay while you work on your development. But gone are the days when this was what people wanted, "The corner office."

What it takes to be a business person?

So I hear business owners say often they are business people because they own a location. But honestly, any idiot can own a location, and I have met these people. Business people are not interested in themselves. They are interested in the longevity of their business and making the most money. Therefore, they become organized, invest in their people, and allow people to be creative. Rather than take shortcuts, they understand that treating people right BUT also they can not operate a business on their agenda. They have to employ people with vision or outsource their work.

A Business Owner: A business owner owns a business, the makes it seem like they are very good at business. But they are not. They have a company that runs haphazardly, only for themselves. They do not think about staff or see a vision for the business. They expand as they see fit, but not more than that.

A Business Person: Believes in expansion, whether in service or location. They believe in optimizing service, so they spend money on people and cultivate those relationships. They understand that people have different skills, and they optimize people's skills. They also pay accordingly to know what people can offer.

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I get real in this episode. I think many people just work on autopilot until they physically start to deteriorate. Strong people who take on a lot sometimes need a break. It is not always the sadness that is displayed, sometimes it is being overly strong.

I have found as I get older and life gets more stressful, that you have to stop engaging in stupid wars with mindless people. But you also have to ignore people who don't matter and don't add any value to your life. Because at any moment you could get sick or just drop dead and like a virus they will find a new host.

I avoid this person in my daily life. These people are energy vampires, they want to sit around and talk about how great they are, and how people love them. When in reality they are lonely people who are easily triggered. For your personal success, you have to make sure to avoid this person type at all costs.