You're either consciously creating outcomes in your life, or wishing that things would change, continuously talking about it and then being smacked down on your ass by the Universe.

I was having this chat with my client last week after two major areas of her life went down the toilet. One being her relationship that she wasn't happy in for years, and the other, her work. She wanted both to be better, to be different, to be more aligned with who she truly is. But talk without action creates an accumulative effect, a back log of energy that is stored and can only be stored for a period of time before it goes boom.

In one of our sessions, I let her know this and said you're heading for a Universals ass kicking if you don't start making conscious choices. Her ego was strong, stubborn and in victim mode. But all the while, the Universe was listening, responding and acted before her ego was ready.

In today's episode I go deeper into the benefits of being the conscious creator of your life and share why it's hard. Enjoy!

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My ego has been getting caught up in living at a pace and rhythm that actually isn't mine. It looks at people around me and thinks, "oh shit, you're not doing enough Kat! You need to hustle more, post more, do more, create more, busy your schedule more!"

It feels when I try to force myself out of how I know I want to live, how I want to create and to dance with life at the pace and paces that are true to me.

So it's been my practice watch this pattern come up, create a shit tonne of anxiety and attempt to put pressure on me. It's been my practice to stay in my lane, own that lane and be a-okay there.

I hope today's episode lands with you. Lemme know your take-aways and insights.

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I had a great moment on a coaching call with The Legends a few weeks back. A good handful of them felt the need to confess that they had taken a break from the modules as they were integrating the work. To their surprise, they got a big "hallelujah" from me and a round of applause.

There's one thing to "do" the work. To know it, read it, talk about and think about it, but the next and most important layer is to integrate what you know, what you've read, talked and thought about into your life. That's the hard layer.

The ego will resist that step because it means change. "What if you lose your partner, job, friends, or your whole identity?" These are the silent thoughts the ego has that cock-block you from making brave and bold steps.

Enjoy today's episode and be sure to give us your feedback via review, DM or email.

I had a list, a big fat giant list of everything I wanted in a man. But I didn't just have one list ... I had umpteen lists because I kept forgetting to add "this" or "that" and wanted to make sure the Universe got my order right!

For years I was delivered what I wanted - the height, the success, the hunger for life, the physical chemistry. But for all those years, each person I'd meet and date never quite hit the sweet spot in my heart.

With spiritual maturity and epic annoyance of not attracting in the real deal, I got rid of all the lists and started focusing on the essence of the relationship I desired. I imagined the energy of "us", the feel "us", the way I was around him, felt around him and imagined that I could be my full self with "him".

This practice helped me open my mind, my heart, my eyes and senses to look beyond what I thought I wanted, and instead, acknowledge the essence of the person. As a result, my mind, my heart, my eyes and senses helped me acknowledge Steve as my person, someone who I friend-zoned for years because I had that darn list!

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Something is definitely shifting in me of late, and I'm letting it happen. Usually, I'd psychoanalyse it and try to make sense of it, but this time, I'm allowing the intelligence to do it's thing as I step aside.

I can feel areas of my life that I have ignored or not placed as much importance on call me to lean into them, like family, adventure, and creating experiences and moments that I've previously deemed boring.

My clients have been inspiring me so much with their lives and it's sparked conversations between Steve and I. We've talked about living in different parts of the world, to travelling alone and honouring our independence, to how we want to lead as parents and care-givers, and more. It's been enriching and I'm excited.

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My beautiful client and now friend, Maddie, experienced a miscarriage over twelve months ago after falling pregnant unexpectedly. Being a mum was not on her radar at that time in her life, so this threw her for six.

Maddie went through a McFlurry of emotions and thoughts about what to do, what not to do and reassessed her life in a very rapid and short period of time. At her core, she knew that having this baby was not for her, but she felt guilt and shame around this. She thought of all the women finding it difficult to fall pregnant when they so badly wanted to, and how she was in a position of choice of whether to keep the baby, or not.

After looking online with not success for groups, podcasts or forums of women who has been pregnant, didn't want the baby and miscarried before having an abortion, left Maddie feeling alone and unsure of what to do with all the feelings moving through her.

In today's episode, Maddie shares her tough emotional journey with allowing herself to feel grief and how difficult it was for her to own her choice due to considering other womens' feelings before her own. 

After my big fat healing last Sunday, it was time for me to put the lessons into practice. Once I had let out the big tears and journaled, I knew to create an end result to help me channel my focus into what matters ... my family.

Every part of my ego wanted to revert back to the old pattern of being open for a day and then shutting up shop, aka my heart, for the rest of the week. But fk that - there's a new sheriff in town and that's my true authentic self.

In today's episode I share the end result I created to help me focus on letting my heart stay open and what I put into practice to make the healing and epiphany real.

kat.john
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Holy mother of Jesus, Mary and Joseph. The last four days have been some of the most intense, in your face healing that's taken place for some time. I have breakthroughs regularly, but this one was one of those almighty one's that cracked me open so I could see, hear, feel and be in new ways. Ways that were more in line with my truth, my authentic self - my essence.

In these last four days our family has undergone very deep and radical healing. I woke up on my birthday plagued with the same thoughts about my family, not belonging and wishing for a different life. I woke sad, unhappy and anxious. This made me really fking mad and so over myself and my ego. I knew something had to change and today was the day!

In today's episode I share the change that has taken place and why radical change was imminent and vital!

kat.john
katjohn.com.au

It's been a long process to land in owning that I don't want to have children of my own. I've wrestled with this for some time, listening to others opinions, watching others with their children and thinking, "fk, am I missing something?" I've  been told me many, "oh but Kat, you'd be such a great Mum!" I look at my parents and think I'm robbing them of something wonderful, come on Kat, just do it!

But to be radically honest, I just don't have that deep down feeling in my guts to have a child. And when this deep down feeling has spoken to me about other areas of my life, I know, "yep, this is for me!" 

I feel pretty raw about sharing this and uncomfortable. But this is my truth and I'm becoming more confident in owning this, despite what my ego, or others, say.

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When I don't live true or closely to my values, my inauthenticity radar starts ring-a-ding-dinging! Most of my life before the age of 25 years old was having no values or saying I had them but never being able to stick to them. People pleasing and seeking approval came first and as a result my self esteem, confidence and trust in self dwindled. No wonder I struggled to look at myself in the mirror.

Over time, I started paying attention to what truly mattered to me, how I wanted to show up, how I could be proud of myself and like myself. As a result, my values started to come forth and challenge the way I was thinking, feeling and behaving. It's been one heck of a journey and to this day they still challenge me.

In today's episode I share about my path to becoming vegan. I thought this was fitting as it's Be Kind To Animals Week this week and I wanted to share the time it took to finally land in a place where I am congruent with my value of Kindness with regards to animals. To be real, it's been a long road of 9 years to get here.   

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