Kat John is REAL, RAW, RELATABLE

Back in 2017 I went to a Vipassana 10 day meditation course. For some months before booking myself in I was intrigued and called to partake in this experience, but my mind was afraid to do it. I doubted that I could endure not speaking, looking at anyone, writing and expressing myself. In truth, I was afraid to be with my own mind without distraction. But alas, the call to go was too strong and off I went. In today's episode I share my experience, lessons and takeaways. 

Insta: @kat.john

Website: www.katjohn.com.au

Vipassana: www.dhamma.org

If I could describe Dani Stevens, it'd be that she is a HUGE ray of sunshine. Man is one heck of an energy - she's legit palpable and oozes vibrancy. She is someone who is living in alignment with her truth that continues to evolve and I have major respect for that.

Her vivacious personality and down to earth sense of humour is part of her success in motivating others to take control of their lives through health and fitness. Once a corporate ladder climber and living the hustle and bustle life, her journey from burning the candles at all ends to becoming her own version of superwoman, is very inspiring. She began to motivate women by sharing her weight loss (100kg weight loss) journey online in 2012 which took on a life of its own and has opened so many amazing doors and opportunities.

Just talking to Dani you can't help but think, "shit, if she can do it, I can too!" She's an incredible role model for us all and I'm so stoked to bring her to your lives.

Insta - @danistevens

Website - danistevens.com

I am in the process of healing my body from sexual abuse trauma. My mind is like, "are you for real dud? You've done a fk tonne of work on this matter and mentally feel really good about it!", however, my body needs some attention and healing. 

When my step-daughter's are here and I hear them walking down the stairs on down the hall, my body literally freezes. My mind logically knows it's them but my body is right back in the moment of being sexually abused. This has been happening intermittently over the last three years and it takes me some time to calm my body down. So I reached out to my White Witch of a Kinesiologist, Elena Pilch, to help me heal the residual trauma in my body. 

Insta - @kat.john

Website - katjohn.com.au

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The freedom I’ve found in letting my darkness be there without needing it to go away or fixed in order for me to do epic shit, is beyond words.I can’t tell you how many YEARS I wasted trying to fix the dark so I could THEN play in my light. Yet every damn time I’d fix it, thinking BOOM, I’m free, it’d come back and I would feel utter despair and hopelessness.

I’d think I’m a screw up, an idiot, a loser, a nobody, a failure. When I realised my focus was in wasted territory I made it my mission to let my darkness be there, come up when it wanted to have its say and then leave it be. So now when I create something new or meet a new level of potential and I’m metaphorically shitting myself, I let myself feel excited, courageous and pumped AND anxious as all fk.

Prior to this I would hate that I felt all the “bad” feelings, punishing myself for thinking and feeling negative things. It’s been one of the toughest lessons to learn to accept my dark side and appreciate its presence, but it’s been worth the battle.

Insta - @kat.john

Website - katjohn.com.au

Online course - unfknlimited.com

There's cool shit in your life that you want to go for and experience. It can be living in a new state or city, starting your own business, changing industries, leaving your job to travel, or whatever. But there's a little voice inside your head making up an excuse that says, "what will others think? I can't do that, they'll laugh at me!" That other can be your parents, friends, colleagues or society, and you're using them as a reason for not going for what you want.

In today's episode we looking at taking the blame off others and taking personal responsibility for why YOU are holding yourself back. 

Calling all energy (over) givers, this one is for you. I'm a sucker for over giving when I listen to my ego. It gets off on being needed and wanted, yet feels resentful towards others and scolds me for when I reach burnout and am forced to take time out. The days are gone of good old solid burnout but I can still over give to a point where I notice my behaviour change (not for the good). In this episode I share the mindset I have today to help keep my energy in check and strategies I have in place to protect me from my ego.

There are many times a day, or week, where I feel the weight of the world and all its problems. When I feel it I feel sad, overwhelmed, angry and hopeless. I feel like a small ant that has no power to make a difference and think there's no point trying. However, I don't stay there too long, in fact, I can't. The anxiety is too much to bare so I choose to channel my fks where they matter. I believe the more conscious, considerate and committed people there are in the world, half the shit we see today that makes us cringe may not exist. I'm fighting for that. 

In today's episode I share how I make the mental shift from, "there is no point even trying", to, "come on Kat, channel your fks where they matter", and how I begin to take action. 

Meet my mate Pete, a qualified Transpersonal Psychotherapist, Mental Health teacher and Counsellor at Elk & Me Therapies and Dispensary. He's a rock solid human being who I've had the privilege of working alongside back in the day, have experienced his work as a client and someone I get to call my friend.

He's worked in the mental health sector and the Healing Arts for over 15 years, specialising in transpersonal one on one therapy, couples therapy, adolescents and adults with mental health and drug alcohol issues. In today's episode we talk about emotional intellect, why it's hard (but also possible) to respond powerfully rather than react from pain, and how to allow all emotions to be there without needing to rationalise them.

Enjoy today's episode and get ready to take some seriously good nuggets away!

Check him out over at www.emotionalintellect.com.au and Elk & Me Therapies.

Not gonna lie, Steve and I are nearly four years into our relationship and my sexual drive has shifted from when we first met. Now I know this is a normal thing but I wanted to know why for two reasons. One, my, "it's too late, I'm too tired, I'm about to get my period", and so on reasons were wearing Steve down. Second, I didn't want to be nearly 35 years old and dismissing my sexual energy. 

I got onto an incredible book by Esther Perel, Mating In Captivity. In my opinion this is a must read for everyone to appreciate the real reasons why it takes a lot of work, creativity and open communication in long term relationships for sex to be part of the relationship.

In this episode I'm sharing my journey and what I've discovered so far.