#89: For the foreseeable future, a good many of you relationshipped people will be cooped up at home, occupying a space that will likely feel smaller by the day…with your partner always around…likely wearing the same thing they have for the past 5 days.

How do you keep the sexual heat going in such an environment?

Good thing you asked – we've got the Queen, sex and intimacy coach Alexa Martinez, here to talk about how to keep the fire burning in the COVID era.

Now this episode is more geared to those living with your romantic partner, but I'm not one of those people and I got a lot of value out of this conversation including:

• The power of having a weekly Relationship Board Meeting, where you each state your desires, what intimacy and attention you need that week, and where your partner is in her menstrual cycle and what she needs from you during that time
• How to create space while cooped up so the passion has an opportunity to generate
• How to leverage a process Alexa and her partner Jordan call Sexploration, which are two hour time blocks to explore new realms of sexual connection, that may not involve oral or intercourse
• And finally, Alexa's recommended resources for sexual education – including a book, a Netflix documentary and an online course that'll sharpen your sexual skills while you're at home

Who is Alexa Martinez:

• Alexa founded and runs The Kaleidoscope, a private, tightly curated sex-positive Facebook group of about 4,000 members. I've personally not found a more inclusive, educated and well run forum for any question or conversation you want to have about sex, sexuality and sexual health
• Alexa is a well-respected and influential voice in the sex positive community, she' been featured in the NY Times and she's a close personal Bryan and I

Resources

The Kaleidoscope Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thekaleidoscope

Alexa on Instagram: @ThatSexChick

Alexa's Recommendations:

KennethPlay.com – sex education blended with porn

Sex Explained on Netflix

Vagina by Naomi Wolf (book)

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