This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to running from your problems! This is a powerful message, as many people believe that if they ignore a problem, it’ll go away. I work with clients who oftentimes feel that leaving a bad situation is better than facing it and dealing with it. Maybe your work environment is stressful and you feel like you’re being treated poorly. Or perhaps it’s your marriage or family life that has unsurmountable problems. The “fight or flight” urge is a strong hormonal reaction
to stress and anxiety. There are times where fighting or staying is the best approach to a struggle. Now, I’m not advocating fist fights; no! What I do advocate is to learn how to communicate your needs; gain coping and negotiation skills to encourage resolutions to problems; face your problems and stop running away from them! Remember the quote, “Wherever you go, there you are”. Your problems follow you, so move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to running from your problems!

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to making excuses.

What excuse did you make yesterday or today and what excuse will you make tomorrow for not doing what it is you want to do? Whether it’s eating healthy and getting to your workout, or getting that project or task started or completed – people make excuses all the time! Once you make the excuse, you open yourself up for the personal failure that you really don’t want. “My dog ate my homework” is an excuse that many joke about. We are all full of excuses as to why we didn’t do x, y, or z. If you really want to do something, you’ll just do it – no excuses. If you find yourself making excuses again and again, it might be possible that you really don’t want to do whatever it is that you’re making excuses about. Relationships, work, career moves, being on time, or losing weight – what is your excuse today for not doing it?

Robert Shuller says, “Negative thinking is subtle and deceptive. It wears many faces and hides behind the mask of excuses. It is important to strip away the mask and discover the real, root emotion”.

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to making excuses.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth.  The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to ignoring your mission. When I work with coaching clients, I help them create a personal mission statement. It helps establish what is important in your life, identify past successes and core values, goals and contributions. A personal mission statement is fundamental for growth and helps build you up professionally. Once you know what your mission is, you begin your journey of growth and will begin to reap the benefits of achieving even more success. But there are crises and events that come up that cause us to detour or even quit the path we’re on. When you find yourself veering off your personal mission, recognize that you’ve gotten off course and get yourself back on it! Balancing your personal and professional life is not easy to do, that’s why a mission statement can help keep you sane! 

Let me help you create your own mission statement for your life and move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to ignoring your mission.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth.  The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to lowering your standards of integrity.

Be honest; do you sometimes feel that your job requires you to lower your standards of moral and ethical principles? I can remember some days when I was selling radio advertising that in order to get a sale, I had to lower my personal standards. We often feel this way about used car salesmen. Where are the moral and ethical principles? 

You can raise the level of expectation in business by saying no to lowering your standards of integrity which leads to trust. Demonstrate integrity by communicating frequently to remove doubts; be transparent and disciplined; keep your promises and show up on time, every time; fix problems rather than blame others; and insist on honesty from others.

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to lowering your standards of integrity.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to the need to be right. How many times have you found that your need to be right all the time actually becomes a block for you? The need to be right will prevent you from healthy relationships, fresh ideas and personal growth. Sure, your ideas are probably very good, but that need to be right all the time prevents you from listening, being present and gaining new insights which can be helpful!
The need to be right all the time is really an indicator that one is afraid. Afraid to hear what somebody else has to say, for fear of being wrong or losing their credibility. Successful people listen to ideas and allow others to provide input. There is actually a lot of freedom in not having to be right all the time! It allows you to stop the war you have with others. When you ask for help, ask for guidance, seek answers – you give yourself and others permission to have a genuine dialogue. And, great things happen when people work together. Nobody
likes a know-it-all!

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to the need to be right.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to not appreciating the present moment. This is what it means to be ‘mindful’. Wayne Dyer says, “You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message, therefore is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-
defeating ways means you’ve lost them forever.” Powerful words! I love to teach the importance of mindfulness.

As Eckhart Tolle wrote: “Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, not enough presence.”

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to not
appreciating the present moment.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no”to procrastination.

I have known many people who wear the badge of procrastination as if it were a permanent fixture in their personal makeup. As a coach and psychotherapist, I motivate my clients into taking action right now. There is no time like the present.

Consider this – if you were to start today on that project, career move, goal – look forward and visualize where you would be a year from now.

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone”. ~ Pablo Picasso.

What is it that you procrastinate? In business, procrastinating what might be an easy job only makes it harder. Procrastinating your weight loss won’t help you get to your best self, and neither will having that conversation that really needs to be had make that relationship any better.

Today is the day! Carpe Diem – Seize THIS day and don’t put it off!

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to
procrastination.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to the shame of past failures. I don’t even want to count how many times I have failed! There are some failures in my life that I don’t want to discuss or share all the time, but one thing I have learned is that falling down doesn’t make me a failure. Staying down does. And I have never allowed myself to stay down for long. Failure is good! It means you are trying!

Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

“It’s failure that gives you the proper perspective on success.” - Ellen DeGeneres

When you seek success in life and work – failure is inevitable. Allow yourself to embrace it as a positive step forward and remove those feelings of shame ruminate in your heart and mind!

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to letting past failures bring you shame.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to letting the opinions of others control your life. It is often those who are most insecure that fall prey to the opinions of others. Today – say ‘no’ to that mindset.

Stephen Covey said, “It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. You have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.”

How many times have you changed direction in your decision because you let someone else’s opinion weigh more than your own. Life isn’t a debate class!

Donatella Versace said, “It’s no good being too easily swayed by people’s opinions. You have to believe in yourself.”

I say, let yourself be authentically you – even if the opinion of someone else matters to you – you don’t always have to let it control your life.

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to letting the opinions of others control you.

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This is Kelly Orchard’s Apple A Day. Sixty Seconds on wisdom, success and personal growth. The Power of No is helping improve lives! Today, let’s say “no” to choosing to do nothing! There are times when we feel like we are ‘nothing’. Well, the way to be nothing, is to do nothing. If you are taking small and intentional steps each and every day to improve your life, learn and grow – that that is something! It’s when you do nothing, that you feel overwhelmed and powerless. When you become involved, you feel  the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.

And remember that saying about “Too much analysis causes paralysis?” If you choose to do nothing, you’ll actually feel more exhausted with the weighing and pondering.

Gandhi said, “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result.”

Act. Do. Choose your destiny.

Move yourself into a season of positive growth by just saying no to choosing to do nothing.

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