Regulating your behavior is all part of your personal and professional growth.

“Consistent self-regulation requires focus on your deepest values rather than feelings. Violation of values produces bad feelings, while fidelity to them eventually makes you feel more authentic and empowered”.

Today, we’re focusing on Self Perception. I read an article in Psychology Today about the ideas of how we view ourselves. We look at ourselves in the mirror multiple times a day. But do we truly see ourselves, or do we see ourselves with a fractured view?

“If we judge others, it is because we are judging something in ourselves of which we are unaware,” says novelist John A. Standford.

I learned this a long time ago and it taught me when I felt myself judging somebody else for a behavior or an action to step back and acknowledge whatever it is in that person that I felt a need to judge, was something about myself I didn’t like.

Today, we’re focusing on Self Indulgence. What do you give into, and call it an indulgence. Being self-indulgent usually carries a negative meaning. We’re told not to be so self- indulgent, and in certain circumstances; most circumstances, we do need to be less self -indulgent.

The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. When you are true to yourself, you will improve your relationships. You’ll feel more connected, supported, and you’ll find yourself over and over again.

Think about the Little Engine who could. Unlike self-esteem, self efficacy is one’s belief in their ability to perform a task. So, when you imagine your skills and motivation, say to yourself, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can”, and when you believe it, you will! What task, behavior or goal do you want to succeed at today?

Do you practice self-disclosure? What about when you look in the mirror? Are you disclosing your true self to that reflection? 

“Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying . . . 

What I'd like to be able to say . . . What for survival I need to say . . . But what I can't say." Unknown

Self -Care doesn’t always have to mean that you need to take long vacations or weekends, spending money on massages and tourism. Self- care doesn’t need to cost a thing. But it WILL cost you if you neglect to do it!

It’s easy in today’s society to only view the self-employed person as an entrepreneur in business. But, every day, you employ yourself as an individual. Stay focused on your path, be true to yourself, know what you want and always be learning!

ow do you stay motivated on a daily, weekly, monthly basis? We too often get caught in a personal or professional rut that we become unmotivated. Self Motivation must be personal.