So often we measure our success based on comparing ourselves with others. Knock it off. Success is an inside job. You get to define it. And note to self, it isn’t about the end result, it is about the experience.

Your mindset about success determines your relationship with it. What does success mean to you? How do you interact with success? How do success and achievement tie together? You get to create the relationship you want.

The more you are willing to fail, the more confidence you have.  It takes confidence to take risks.  Confidence that you can handle the failure. Confidence that you can grow and go. Confidence that you are not your outcomes.

Just because you quit does that mean you failed?  There’s a saying: smart people quit. If you decide that you are done with something – you have to determine whether you like your reason.  Your reason is the difference between making a decision or feeling bad about not following through

We aren’t afraid of failing. We are afraid of what failing feels like. You create your reality by what you think about the results you produce. Once you know you can handle disappointment, discouragement, sadness, etc. you have cracked the code on achieving whatever the hell you want in life.

Your mindset about failure determines your relationship with it. What does failure mean to you? How do you interact with failure? Where do you avoid it?  Where do you gravitate to it? You get to determine what you want your relationship with failure to be.

“This game is rigged. And it does not reward people who play by the rules. You either got to stand in the corner or get in the ring.” Ramona, from Hustlers. What rules do you need to let go of so your game isn’t rigged?  Find the ones that work FOR you vs. the ones your parents, society, etc. say you should follow. It’s time to get in the ring.

“Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up.”

Batman got this one right.  Are you willing to stumble, trip and fall to really get to know what you are made of?  This is what life is all about because falling isn’t the same as failing.

“If it makes you happy, then why are you so sad?”

Sheryl Crow’s documentary Sheryl shares how even though Sheryl sold millions of records it didn’t necessarily make her happy. More times than not, people imagine once they get to a “destination” then they’ll be happy.  Get out of the milestone moments and start to focus on what really matters.

“I don’t need easy, I just need possible.” Ninja Warrior contestant. Self-inflicted limitations will often get in our way. The question is, are you willing to open the door to possibility even when it isn’t going to be easy?