Permission to Put it Down

My thoughts on being the one who holds it all together, and what happens when you finally set some of it down.

And a short tapping exercise to help you begin to start putting it down as well.

If this resonates, I would love to hear more.

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How did I get here?

Occasionally I still do HR Consulting, and yesterday someone asked me "why is a licensed therapist on this call?" and it got me thinking about sharing my story...

When You Finally Choose Yourself...

Some mornings the inside argument just goes quiet. Not because you lost it, but because you finally stopped having it. In this episode I share a week of letting go, of people, places, and plans that never quite came to life, and the quiet voice that said it is time to choose myself. We talk about why letting go can feel so much like losing, why choosing yourself is regulation and not selfishness, and then we move through a gentle practice together so your body can feel it too. Bring something warm. We are taking this one slow.

In this episode:

Why letting go can register in your body as danger, not relief, and why that does not mean you are choosing wrong. The reframe that changed everything for me: choosing yourself is not something you take from others, it is the most basic form of safety there is. How chronic self-abandonment hides inside words like tired, stuck, and busy. A guided practice you can do right alongside me, with your coffee in hand.

A short, Friday message to help you leave the work week behind, the inbox, the hard conversations, the projects that maybe didn't go as planned... and step into your weekend feeling lighter and maybe even a little braver.

(no more than 5 minutes, I promise!)

Anxiety, Co-Regulation, and Coming Home to Your Body

If you have ever been told to just calm down, breathe, get over it, and felt like you were failing when it did not work, this one is for you. In this episode we talk about what anxiety actually is (hint: not a flaw), and a word you do not hear nearly enough: co-regulation. Because here is the truth almost no one teaches us. We were never meant to settle our nervous systems all alone. We come back to steadiness through connection, with the people and creatures who love us, and with the gentle company we can learn to offer ourselves.

Stay to the end for a short, guided practice you can do right in your chair, no video and nothing fancy required. Just your breath, your own two hands, and a few quiet minutes with me.

Pour something warm and settle in.

The Tools Were Never Just for Me Taking my boy to the vet, and co-regulating through fear

Episode Description: He knew before I said a word. That is the thing about dogs. They feel the thing we are trying not to feel.

This morning I took my boy to the vet. There is a cancerous tumor on his leg, and it has to come out. He was trembling, and if I am honest with you, so was I.

In this episode I share what happened on that floor, and the four things I did to steady us both. For years I have taught women to come home to their own bodies. This week I was reminded, so clearly, that the tools were never just for me. They are also for the ones we love who cannot understand why this is happening.

This is a tender one. Come sit with me.

In This Episode

Your animal feels your fear before you say a single word

The reason you cannot soothe anyone, two-legged or four-legged, from a place of panic

What co-regulation actually is, and why it is biology and not woo

The four-part practice I used to walk us both through the vet door

The honest truth about what these tools do and do not do

Where my boy and I go from here

The Four-Part Practice

Regulate yourself first. You cannot co-regulate from panic. Breathe yourself down before you reach for them.

Offer your steadiness like a place to land. Get low. Rest a warm hand on their side. Let them borrow your rhythm.

Name what is true, softly. Skip the bright fake voice. Try, "this is scary, I am right here, we are doing this together."

Slow everything down on purpose. Slow leash, slow hands, long pauses. Slowness is a tool for the hardest days, not just the good ones.

A Line to Carry With You

The tools did not erase the fear. They let us stay. That is what these practices are for. Not to make you feel good, but to help you stay when staying is hard.

A Note

My boy still has surgery ahead of us, and I am still scared. If you have a little love to spare, send it our way. We are going to need it. Thank you for being here.

Koffee with Kris -Recalibrating After the Long Weekend

Coming back to yourself before you come back to everything else.

We just came off a long weekend, and if you’re feeling a little foggy, a little slow, or like you’re not quite snapped back into rhythm yet - this episode is for you.

We talk so much about rest, but nobody really talks about the re-entry. That in-between space where you’ve had the break but you’re not quite back yet. The truth is, that transition isn’t a problem to fix. It’s a process to honor.

In this episode, I’m getting real about why returning after a long weekend can feel so disorienting, and why that’s actually okay. I’m also sharing three simple things you can do to recalibrate with intention instead of just white-knuckling your way back into productivity.

Because here’s the thing: recalibrating is not falling behind. It’s choosing to come back whole instead of just coming back.

In this episode:

- Why re-entry feels heavy even after genuine rest

- The nervous system truth behind the post-weekend fog

- What recalibrating actually looks like in practice

- Three things to help you ease back in with grace

- Why releasing the guilt is the most important step of all

This one is a slow exhale. Grab your cup and settle in.

A quick morning practice for the days that start out slow - and for every day you want to center and claim your peace before the world starts knocking on the door.