Ladies Take Control

Host Katie Mares invites Heidi McMahan to share her unshakeable confidence with the Ladies Take Control community this week!

Heidi McMahan is a professional actress turned entrepreneur & certified life coach for women. With over 20 years in the entertainment industry and 10 years as a business owner, Heidi has navigated the complexities of pursuing dreams, building businesses, and living a purposeful life. Heidi is passionate about helping women achieve more than just success; it's about embracing authenticity and using your story for a bigger purpose. Heidi shares tips and exercises for building confidence, while addressing the pressure of perfection and the impact of appearance on confidence. 

Through her podcast and coaching programs, Heidi has had the privilege of guiding thousands of women toward clarity in their creative endeavors and uncovering their true calling. Her mission is to empower women to break free from limitations, step into their purpose, and become the main character in their life story. Heidi’s approach helps women get unstuck, express themselves in new ways, and achieve their dreams with confidence.

Connect with Heidi:

https://www.instagram.com/heidimcmahan_

Listen to The PowerFemme Podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/0ieDA4Orf6p4oBbMgV3JNH?si=f5989ad798724de0

Resoures:

Pressure & Perfectionism Stats

https://heartofleadership.org/statistics/

Ladies Take Control Community Free Mentoring Circle Signup Link 

https://katiemares.myflodesk.com/thepowerofher

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Have you ever found yourself being criticized or belittled by your inner voice? If you have, you’re not alone. Many victims of narcissistic abuse still hear the voices of their abuser, even years after cutting contact. These negative voices can make it difficult to recover, heal, and move on in life. But what exactly is the inner voice and how does it affect us?

What prompted this episode? A woman from the Ladies Take Control community who was brave enough to reach out to host, Katie Mares.

In this solo episode, Katie discusses the impact of negative self-talk, particularly for those in abusive situations, and the importance of positive self-talk in shaping one's reality. She emphasizes how a a positive mindset can contribute to both healing and personal growth, providing practical advice on how to shift from negative to positive.

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Host Katie Mares interviews financial expert Jessica Moorhouse. They discuss the importance of financial health and provide tips for taking control of your finances. They emphasize the need to start with a solid foundation, including creating an emergency fund and budget which reflects your living expenses. They also discuss the importance of budgeting and tracking spending. They address common challenges such as procrastination and mindset issues around money. They encourage women to break the cycle of not talking about money and seek out communities and resources that normalize these conversations. They also touch on the role of social media in perpetuating money shame and the importance of not comparing oneself to others. They also explore the financial challenges faced by victims of abuse and provide practical advice on how to become financially prepared and thrive after leaving an abusive relationship. Jessica shares insights from her upcoming book, which aims to help readers understand and overcome their insecurities around money.

Takeaways

Resources referenced by Katie and Jessica in this episode:

https://cba.ca/financial-abuse-what-you-need-to-know-and-where-to-get-help

https://www.canada.ca/en/employment-social-development/corporate/seniors/forum/financial-abuse.html

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224

https://jessicamoorhouse.com/podcast/ep-216-understanding-financial-abuse-jana-lynch/

Financial Abuse - PCADV

https://desis.osu.edu/seniorthesis/index.php/2022/09/27/reasons-why-women-dont-want-to-talk-about-money/

Connect with Jessica Moorhouse:

https://jessicamoorhouse.com

Access Jessica's Budget Spreadsheets:

https://jessicamoorhouse.com/shop

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Host Katie Mares shares an update on her personal journey of healing and growth after a traumatic relationship, emphasizing the importance of shifting your mindset and choosing positivity, joy, and grace in the face of hurdles. She discusses transforming her life through the power of choice, highlighting the importance of daily gratitude practices, manifestations, and living in the present moment to find joy and success. Mares encourages listeners to recognize that they are one decision away from a more fulfilling life. She invites Ladies Take Control producer Sarah Burke to join her for some reflection as they discuss their respective experiences with shifting mindsets, confidence, and shared experiences in their respective fields.

"The Power of Her" event hosted by LTC Community is June 14th at 9am central, as we gather together to be inspired to step into our power.

🎤 This virtual event is a call for women everywhere to unite, inspire, and empower each other. Learn strategies and insights to harness your potential and transform your life. Tickets are absolutely FREE!

📅 Can't make it on the day? No worries! Register anyway, and you'll receive a recording of the event. No excuses, right? Secure your spot now: https://bit.ly/Thepowerofher

Find out more about Sarah Burke's Women in Media Network: https://www.womeninmedia.network/

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Host Katie Mares met Olympic medalist and Executive coach Elizabeth Manley a few weeks before this episode was recorded. In honour of May being Mental Health Awareness month, she invites Liz to share her journey from athlete to mental health advocate. The conversation explores the importance of vulnerability, self-care, the impact of mental health on women in abusive situations and the need for self-acceptance.

After spending more the twenty years in the United States performing and coaching, Liz now lives in Collingwood, Ontario. Liz was the Director of Skating for the Granite Club.

Liz is a certified Life/Executive Coach with CTI International and holds a degree with CCPC International Coaching Federation. She is also a Certified Reiki healer.

She focuses on inner well being, emotional traumas and issues while inspiring clients to move forward in life in a more positive way. As she says... “The best project you can work on ...is yourself!”. Clients range from professional athletes to executives. Elizabeth also worked with Expert ADHD Coaching as an Executive Coach. She has also written two autobiographies, Thumbs Up- The Elizabeth Manley Story and Elizabeth Manley - As I am.

Liz was named " Woman of the Year " by Chatelaine magazine in 1988 and Athlete of the Year for Canada in 1988. She has many awards and accolades to her name including recipient of “ The Royal Order of Canada” by the Governor General, the Queens Jubilee Award and honourary degree recipient from Algonquin College.

Liz is a member of the Olympic Hall of Fame, the Ottawa Sports Hall of Fame, Skate Canada Hall of Fame, the Belleville Sports Hall of Fame, the Ontario Sports Hall of Fame, and Canada's Sports Hall of Fame.

Liz now spends her time with coaching, speaking engagements, charitable work, and producing. She has a rink that the city named after her in Gloucester, Ontario, The Elizabeth Manley International Training Centre and a park named after her in Ottawa, Ontario. Elizabeth runs competitive seminars in Canada and the United States working with hockey camps and multiple teams including Ottawa, Toronto, and Collingwood.

Connect with Elizabeth Manley on Instagram @lizmanley88 or on X @lizmanley88.

Find mental health resources from the Canadian Mental Health Association: https://cmha.ca/

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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In part two on the topic of intimate partner violence (IPV), host Katie Mares interviews survivor Cait Alexander, a victim who is fighting the Canadian justice system with her constant advocacy and activism.

They discuss the importance of taking action to support victims and survivors, the need for legislative change to prevent intimate partner violence, and the role of awareness, funding, and legislation in creating lasting change. They also highlight the prevalence of intimate partner violence and the need for victims to be heard and supported. Cait shares her personal experience with the legal system and discusses the importance of community support, self-care, and accessing resources for healing.

Cait Alexander is a multifaceted artist – actress, singer, model, songwriter, pianist, composer, and poet. Her ambition in every medium is to tell the most honest story.

From her small town Canadian roots, to a career on the International stage starting in fashion, Cait has walked the world’s runways and graced magazine covers all over. Having started in theatre as a child, Cait has risen to roles in countless commercials, major TV shows and films: The Handmaids Tale, Clarice, My Next Door Nightmare and Spinning Gold. She has even starred in Bollywood movies, while embracing working in diverse cultures.

She has a BA in Theatre from York University in Toronto and Certificate in Film/TV Composing from Berklee College of Music and has completed Royal Conservatory Level 8 Piano and Theory 2. She has a vested interest in studying law and is working towards taking the Bar.

Aside from accolades, there is the most important quality: intent. Whatever the medium she aims to connect sincerely with you, through photos, on the screen, by song, and on the page. She hopes you learns something about yourself, heal or become inspired to your own greatness.

Cait is hosting and co-chairing a Gala at the Four Seasons in Toronto on October 24th, 2024 with Shelter Movers, members of the NHL, billionaires, celebrities, and more will be in attendance. Follow her instagram or connect with Cait on her website for updates: https://www.caitalexander.com/

Read more:

CTV News (https://toronto.ctvnews.ca/attempted-murder-is-not-a-priority-victims-of-tossed-out-cases-speak-out-amid-lower-ont-justice-funding-1.6826046)

CP24 (https://www.cp24.com/news/attempted-murder-is-not-a-priority-victims-of-tossed-out-cases-speak-out-amid-lower-ont-justice-funding-1.6826067)

CityNews Toronto (https://toronto.citynews.ca/2024/03/28/stop-with-the-excuses-emotional-appeals-to-overhaul-court-system-amid-growing-backlogs/)

Global News (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXsYIrbY7Vk)

Cait's favourite Yoga instructor on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene

Sign the petition Katie and Cait reference in this episode: https://www.ontariondp.ca/bill-173

Read more about Bill 173:

https://www.ola.org/en/legislative-business/bills/parliament-43/session-1/bill-173

https://www.cp24.com/news/intimate-partner-violence-could-be-declared-an-epidemic-in-ontario-after-ford-gov-t-says-it-will-back-ndp-bill-1.6841266

https://www.ontariondp.ca/news/ontario-ndp-bill-brings-ontario-one-step-closer-declaring-intimate-partner-violence-epidemic

RESOURCES

Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence

The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse.

National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357

Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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In this episode, Katie Mares discusses her personal experience with intimate partner violence (IPV) and highlights the importance of recognizing IPV as an epidemic. She shares her positive experience attending a bill hearing for Bill 173, which aims to declare IPV as an epidemic in Ontario. Katie emphasizes the need for prevention, promoting health, and prolonging life in addressing IPV. She also discusses the impact of IPV on individuals and society, including the mental health toll, economic consequences, and the importance of breaking the silence surrounding IPV. Katie encourages listeners to sign a petition in support of Bill 173 and thanks the London Abused Women's Centre, survivors, government officials, and supporters for their efforts in addressing IPV.

Sign the petition Katie mentions in this episode:

https://www.ontariondp.ca/bill-173

Listen to the recent episode with guest Jennifer Dunn

Read more about Bill 173:

https://www.ola.org/en/legislative-business/bills/parliament-43/session-1/bill-173

https://www.cp24.com/news/intimate-partner-violence-could-be-declared-an-epidemic-in-ontario-after-ford-gov-t-says-it-will-back-ndp-bill-1.6841266

https://www.ontariondp.ca/news/ontario-ndp-bill-brings-ontario-one-step-closer-declaring-intimate-partner-violence-epidemic

RESOURCES

Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence

The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse.

National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357

Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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In this conversation, Katie Mares and Psychotherapist Carlen Costa discuss topics and tools related to sexual assault, domestic abuse, and the importance of self-care. They explore concepts such as manipulation, narcissism, and gaslighting, and how these behaviors can contribute to trauma bonds. The conversation explores the dynamics of abusive relationships and the reasons why victims may stay in them. It emphasizes that being in an abusive relationship is not a reflection of the victim's worth or choices, but rather the result of the abuser's intentions. Victim-blaming and self-gaslighting are common responses that hinder victims from recognizing the red flags and leaving the relationship. The conversation also delves into the concept of fear being disguised as love, where intense emotions and hyper-arousal can be mistaken for love and excitement. It highlights the importance of validating one's own experiences, seeking support from others, and creating a safety plan to break free from the cycle of abuse. In this part of the conversation, Carlen shares her personal experience of sexual assault and the impact it had on her. They discuss the importance of holding perpetrators accountable, the importance of checking in with oneself and seeking validation when boundaries are crossed.

Carlen Costa is a dynamic OCSWSSW psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, psychedelic-assisted psychotherapist and cannabis educator based in London, Ontario, Canada. She engages you to learn how to love yourself and others better through her revolutionary love and mental wealth lifestyle brand that is committed to making a positive impact. 

Her passion for empowering others extends to her role as the host of The Spicy Fat Podcast, where she delves into topics ranging from ADHD, weight loss, positive body image, mental health, love, relationships, to cannabis and psychedelics. This podcast, available on YouTube, reflects Carlen's mission to guide women entering their 40s in understanding their bodies, brains, and hearts while fostering radical self-love.

Find out more about Carlen Costa and her practice:

https://www.carlencosta.com/

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

https://opdv.ny.gov/april-sexual-assault-awareness-month

April is Sexual Assault Awareness month; a month of solidarity dedicated to sexual assault victims. It’s meant to raise awareness about the prevalence of sexual assault and violence while sharing information and resources to foster a great understanding of consent.

Some statistics from www.sexassault.ca:

1 in 4 women in North America will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.

For every 100 incidents in Canada, only 6 are reported to police.

Over 80% of sex crime victims in Canada are women.

Fewer than half of sexual assault cases in adult criminal court result in a guilty verdict. (www.justice.gc.ca)

Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence

A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. Proceeds from Women in Media Network launch merchandise will support the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.womeninmedia.network/. Access the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/

The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse.

National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357

Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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*Episode Disclaimer* This podcast explores topics surrounding domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised.

Host Katie Mares explores the process and challenges of breaking the silence surrounding domestic abuse. She discusses reasons why survivors may choose not to report abuse and the fear and consequences they may face. Katie discusses backlash from abusers and the positive effects of sharing and speaking up. As always, Katie emphasizes the importance of community support and provides practical advice for survivors who are considering breaking their silence. 

Takeaways

Chapters

(00:00) Introduction

(02:10) Reasons for not reporting abuse

(03:28) Reactions and experiences after breaking silence

(05:08) The impact of breaking silence

(08:17) The continuation of abuse

(09:10) The self-gaslighting fight

(09:38) The power of sharing and speaking up

(13:51) The challenges of life after abuse

(15:35) The process of healing and growth

(22:39) The impact of breaking silence on the survivor

(28:45) Creating a safer society

(31:43) Ways to prepare for breaking silence

(36:12) The reporting process

(39:04) The importance of community support

(41:18) The journey from surviving to thriving

(45:02) The power of sharing and being heard

(52:52) The importance of celebrating progress

(54:46) Conclusion

Resources 

Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence

A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. All proceeds from Women in Media Network launch merchandise will support the London Abused Women's Centre. https://www.womeninmedia.network/. Access the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/

The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse.

National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357

Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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*Disclaimer* This episode discusses domestic abuse and intimate partner violence, listener discretion is advised.

Host Katie Mares interviews Jennifer Dunn, the Executive Director of the London Abused Women's Centre (LAWC). They discuss the mission of the center and the different types of abuse, including physical, emotional, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse. They also explore the challenges faced by women in identifying and leaving abusive relationships and the societal and systemic barriers that prevent them from seeking help. The conversation highlights the need for increased awareness, support, and systemic changes to address intimate partner violence. They also discuss the impact of abuse on children, the importance of prevention and education, and the availability of support and resources.

Jennifer Dunn has been with the London Abused Women’s Centre for 13 years in various roles and is in her third year as the Executive Director. Jennifer advocates locally, provincially, nationally and at all levels of government to take systemic action to end the oppression of women and girls. During her time at the London Abused Women’s Centre, she has appeared before the House of Commons and the Senate.  

Topics

Takeaways

Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence

A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse.

Find out more about Jennifer's work with the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/

Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/

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