"Most leaders want to lead at scale and with ease."
This insight triggered Muriel Wilkins—a fellow executive coach and one of the best in our industry that I know—to analyze what holds leaders back from achieving this ambition. What she found was that many leaders are held back from reaching their full potential by one or more "Hidden Blockers". These hidden blockers are:
- I need to be involved
- I need it done now
- I know I’m right
- I can’t make a mistake
- If I can do it, so can you
- I can’t say no
- I don’t belong here
These blockers almost always stem from beliefs we adopted somewhere in our private or professional lives. The complication is that they may have served us well in the past, but might not necessarily serve us in the future.
Muriel wrote a highly recommended, thought-provoking book about this topic called Leadership Unblocked: Break Through the Beliefs that Limit Your Potential. The book not only describes what these blockers are and how we develop them, but, more importantly, how we can address them through a three-step approach: "uncover," "unpack," and "unblock."
I recently had the pleasure of having a conversation with Muriel about her book. In our conversation, we discussed:
- Hidden blockers and their impact
- How to handle (multiple) Blockers
- How Coaches can learn from their Clients
- The relationship between Hidden Blockers, Success, and Identity
- Addressing Hidden Blockers in Coaching Relationships
- Muriel Wilkins's Coaching Process
- Why Muriel Wilkins became an Executive Coach
- Paravis Partners
► About Muriel Wilkins
Muriel M. Wilkins is the CEO and Founder of Paravis Partners and a sought-after executive coach and C-suite advisor with more than two decades of experience helping leaders elevate their performance and navigate their toughest challenges.
She has served as the trusted partner to hundreds of senior executives who rely on her as a confidante, valued for her strategic acumen, ability to cut through complexity, and talent for catalyzing lasting results. Her approach is anchored in deep insight, practical rigor, and a belief that meaningful change begins from within—helping leaders expand their capacity and deliver sustained results.
Muriel’s new book, Leadership Unblocked: Break Through the Beliefs That Limit Your Potential, was published by Harvard Business Review Press in October 2025 and is a USA Today Bestseller, an Amazon Bestseller and a Next Big Idea selection.
She is also the co-author of Own the Room: Discover your Signature Voice to Master your Leadership Presence and hosts the award-winning podcast, Coaching Real Leaders. Muriel was recognized as a finalist for the Thinkers50 Coaching Award, placing her among the world’s leading contributors to the coaching field.
Her insights have been featured in major media outlets such as Forbes, Business Insider, Chief Executive Magazine, and The Wall Street Journal, and she is the author of the Harvard Business Review magazine cover article, “The Hidden Beliefs That Hold Leaders Back.”
Raised in North Africa, Europe, the Caribbean, and the United States, Muriel brings a global perspective to her work with leaders navigating increasingly complex environments. She holds an MBA from Harvard Business School and an undergraduate degree from Georgetown University. Muriel’s mission is simple: to help leaders evolve so they—and those around them—can lead and live with greater ease.
Book 'Leadership Unblocked'
Paravis Partners
► About me
Dirk Verburg is an Executive Coach based in Zurich, Switzerland.
His work focusses on one mission: to align the personal mastery of his clients with their organization’s most critical strategic goals.
Dirk ensures the success of his clients through a unique, integrated approach that drives tangible, measurable results.
His operating principles are defined by Empathy, Confidentiality, Data-Driven Insight, and Partnership.
The reason for his success as an Executive Coach is my ability to combine deep business acumen, gathered across diverse industries and functions, with evidence-based behavioral science.
He works across the globe, in three languages (English, German, and Dutch), both virtually and face-to-face.
Typical topcis his clients approach him with are:
- Transitioning To New Roles
- Relationships & Alignment with leaders, teams, and other stakeholders
- Personal Development
Dirk has 30+ years of Business Experience in Executive and Consultancy roles in a range of different industries, including the ICT, Airline, Oil&Gas, Medical Devices, Financial Services, Engineering, and Professional Services industry.
Organizations, he worked for and with include AT&T, PA Consulting Group, Shell, Swiss Re, Covidien (Medtronic), Credit Suisse, The Global Fund, and The Adecco Group.
Any questions or comments? Press this link and send me a message!