Leadership Becomes Her: Simple, Strategic Solutions for Christian Women Who Lead

Hey, Friend,

I probably don’t have to tell you this. Women need women. We need women we can trust, confide in, share our lives with, and bounce ideas off of.

I recently took a survey of women in ministry to find out what they needed and they responded with several answers. But the one answer that every woman gave was this:

I need a community of women in ministry outside of my context.

That’s why I started offering Kairos Cohort. This is a group coaching program whereby we meet 7 times a year via zoom and twice a year in my home (for those in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area). Others meet with us completely on zoom.

In today’s episode, I share with you how it is going.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Ministers don’t like to talk about ministry as business, but in the U.S. it is in most cases.

If you want church to be just ministry, meet in a home, don’t collect money, and have everyone serve as a volunteer.

The minute you buy or rent space, start paying people and purchase goods, you have become a nonprofit business with all of the benefits and expectations of the IRS that go along with that.

Ministers would do well to fully understand what all of that means so that they can steward their budgets accordingly.

In today’s episode, I give a brief overview as to what church as business means and the gratitude we should feel for those bookkeepers and CPA’s out there who effectively steward the church’s resources.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend,

If you have ever been mentored in leadership, or if you have mentored someone else, then you know the value of having someone walking alongside you, answering your questions, showing you how things work at this church that you just started working for.

And, yet, many churches do not provide mentors for their new hires. In today’s episode, I share the benefits of having a mentoring system that will be guaranteed to set up new hires for success.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Mansplaining is patronizing and condescending. When a man mansplains to a woman he automatically assumes she has no knowledge or experience with the subject. Women can be guilty of this to, although the term womansplaining hasn’t really caught on.

In today’s episode, I share some ways a man can avoid mansplaining, by focusing on being a good listener, being humble in his communication, paying attention to non-verbal cues, and being open to feedback.

If you are guilty of mansplaining or womansplaining, or you have been on the receiving end, this episode is for you.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

If you have never thought about your fairness as a leader, or if you are convinced that you are fair, then this episode is for you. In it, I suggest a self-assessment that you should do periodically to determine if you are fair or not.

Fairness is more than equitable treatment. As you will hear in the suggested self-assessment questions, you will need to dig deep into various ways you interact with others.

And if you really want to know if you are fair, you will ask some trusted friends, co-workers, or a mentor what they think as well. Then you will get to work celebrating what you do well and working on what needs attention.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Ministers depend on volunteers to help a church run smoothly. We literally cannot do our jobs without them. Our job is to pour into those volunteers our time, our attention, our resources, and any training they might want or need.

In fact, we have the responsibility to lead by empowering our team members, fostering their trust, and building a culture of collaboration and accountability.

In today’s episode, I share some strategies for doing so.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend!

If you are a minister, then you know that volunteers are worth their weight in gold. As a minister, you are a leader and it is the responsibility of every leader to develop those under their leadership. This includes developing both the capacity of your volunteers, as well as a healthy dependency on you for the vision, the mission of the church as it translates to your ministry, and all the support you can give.

In today’s episode, I focus on creating a healthy dependency. In next week’s episode, I share some ways that you can create capacity in your volunteers.

There must be a balance between dependency and capacity in order for your volunteers to feel both valued and necessary, while also building their ability to take ownership and grow in their roles.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Is there a bigger red flag that someone is not ok than when you ask, “How are you?” and they reply, “Fine.”

Think about it. When you are doing great it comes out in your words and your tone. Your face lights up and often you feel compelled to explain why you are doing so well.

But when you are not doing well and you do not want to talk about it, the most common response as we attempt to mask our feelings is, “I’m fine.”

There are acronyms for F.I.N.E. such as:

Freaked out, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional

Frustrated. Insecure. Neurotic. Emotional.

It can also stand for: Feelings in Need of Expression.

In today’s episode, we talk about big feelings and why it is important to acknowledge their presence, name them, own them, and sit with them as long as we need to.

I think you will be able to relate and I pray this blesses you.

Becky

Hey, Friend,

In last week’s episode, I compared positive thinking to toxic positivity. With one, there is an attempt to look on the bright side while acknowledging some big feelings that need attention. With the other, the quest for positive thinking feels forced while feelings are discounted or ignored.

In today’s episode, we uncover some of the possible causes of toxic positivity. If you have ever been accused of toxic positivity or if you have experienced this approach in others, this episode is for you.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend!

I think we all understand the importance of having a positive attitude. However, in 2005, the term “toxic positivity” was coined to describe someone who has an unrealistic optimism that discounts the presence or importance of emotions.

In today’s episode, I contrast having a positive attitude with toxic positivity and it all boils down to how we acknowledge, validate, and own our emotions and the emotions of others.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky