You interviewed. You prepared. You did the temporary role or put in the years — and they still chose someone else. The rejection is real, and so is the question underneath it: where do I go from here?

This week I'm getting honest about what happens next. I'll tell you about the time I worked my butt off in a temporary admin role, threw my name in the hat, and didn't get it — and how I was so hurt that I was flat-out mean to the person who did. What pulled me out wasn't pretending it didn't sting. It was asking a better set of questions.

I share the reflection questions I still use with clients today, why the people who didn't choose you are watching how you respond, and the mindset that actually moves you forward — without abandoning your why.

And the reframe at the heart of it: stop asking why they didn't choose you, and start asking whether you're choosing you. Because right now — in this exact moment — you have more leverage to shape your next step than you think.

I'll also name the hard truth: some organizations you should walk away from. And some are worth staying in and shaping. I'll help you tell the difference.

If you (or someone you love) just came up short on a role, this one's for you.

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Decisions are the most emotionally charged thing that happens at work — which is why they stall, bottleneck, and turn into meetings before the meeting just to get everyone aligned.

This week I'm busting a belief: that there's a right or wrong decision at work. In a fast-changing market, there isn't. There's only a learning decision — an experiment you run like a scientist.

I break down the four frameworks everyone reaches for — RACI, DARCI, RAPID, and the Eisenhower Matrix — what each was actually built for, and why none of them get you to a clear decision. Then I share the simple approach I use with teams instead: just three roles that take the anxiety out of deciding and get you moving without the bottlenecks.

If deciding at work feels slow, political, or stuck — this one's for you.

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If you get one thing from this episode, let it be this: you don't need more confidence. You're not broken. And you don't have imposter syndrome — you're being impacted by imposter treatment.

After a few weeks away (the tech kept stalling, and skipping one week made it easy to skip the next), I'm back — kids in school, routines settling — to talk about the hairy little monster I see over and over in my coaching: the belief that something is wrong with us. I'm here to dispel that myth.

"Imposter syndrome" puts the problem in your head and sends you chasing confidence to fix a self that was never broken. But run your own resume back — the degrees, the certifications, the years, the sacrifices. You prepared for these rooms. So why do you feel like you don't belong? Because the system — the biases, the culture, the treatment — is gaslighting you into believing you're not who your receipts say you are.

The 3 shifts I want you to make:

Name it as treatment, not a syndrome. A "syndrome" is something to diagnose, medicate, or fix in you. Treatment names what's happening in your environment — so you can find real solutions instead of trying to fix yourself. Separate feelings from facts. "The room went quiet so I don't belong" is a feeling. Five degrees, two certs, 15 years of experience — those are facts. Stick with the receipts. Reclaim your agency. Once you call it treatment, you get to choose your next tangible step instead of managing self-doubt. Step into your power and take up your space.

"But isn't that just blaming everyone else?" Naming treatment isn't refusing to grow — it's aiming your energy at the real thing, instead of exhausting yourself fixing a problem that was never you.

When you stop carrying this weight as personal failure, you free up the energy to lead, to make decisions, and to take up the full space you're meant to. That's full agency over yourself, your career, your team, and your life. And when you're called to lead, you're called to lead as you are — not as a shrunken version of some imposter.

Your reflection this week: Catch one moment and ask — is this me, or is this treatment? Just notice it. Awareness is the first step.

🔗 Work with me 1:1 or bring this to your team: This is the work I do in my one-on-one and team coaching — walking into the room pulling receipts instead of leaning on confidence. Book a call: https://coachingwithtasheena.as.me/sales

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Becoming an entrepreneur isn't just about the money. It's about coming face to face with yourself — your capacity, your boundaries, and your leadership, 24/7.

If you think you can compartmentalize and focus only on your business without doing the internal work, this episo@de will change that. I'm sharing real-time what I'm learning as I step into the identity of entrepreneur — not just calling myself one, but actually embodying it.

Because the inner stuff shows up in your business whether you like it or not. It's like salt in a recipe — you can't see it, but you can taste it.

In this episode:

• Why entrepreneurship means being scrappy in a way a 9-to-5 never asks of you — no budget, no staff, no roadmap
• Emma Grede's Start With Yourself and the definition of entrepreneur: to undertake — and why an undertaker works with dead bodies. Something in you has to die to make room for who you're becoming
• Reframing failure through a biotech lens: an experiment that "fails" tells you exactly what to fix next
• Being honest about my own messy middle — still learning how to podcast, still learning how to speak into the ether
• What I wasn't taught: Black women have been kept out of the wealth-building conversation, and I'm catching up on money, taxes, and selling in real time
• The lie that business and personal don't mix — and how separating them kept me from the work that actually matters
• Honoring Henry Kimsey-House (founder of CTI), and why coaching starts with working on yourself
• Stop copy-pasting the guru. Study how they think, then build your own way
• The 3 identities you're always navigating: you at work, you with your family, and you with yourself — and how much you trust each one

The 3 inner worlds to explore:

1. Mental capacity & self-awareness — if you don't know how your mind works, it's running the show unconsciously
2. Somatic capacity & awareness — your body tells you the truth before your brain does (the body keeps the score)
3. Core motivations — not just your Enneagram type, but the why underneath the behavior

How you actually do the work: Documentation, documentation, documentation. Journal it, voice-record it, video it — then go back a month later and read your own patterns.

The heart of it: There's no org chart. It's me. The decisions, the priorities, the "even over" tradeoffs, what progress looks like — all of it. And if you're waiting on a golden title to do that work, you're going to lose out on this game.

🔗 Want an Enneagram assessment and session? Let's dig into your core motivations together. Reach me here: https://coachingwithtasheena.as.me/sales

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Here's my prediction: in 2026 and 2027, more organizations are going to bring athletic coaching concepts into the workplace to train their leaders. And if you want to be effective, you'd be wise to learn the principles of team sports now.

As a basketball mom and a football mom, I've been bringing a sports analogy into corporations, county offices, government teams, and nonprofits for years — and every single time, it lands like a grand slam. In this episode, I break down why sports gives us the clearest possible picture of what real teamwork looks like, and the five principles that turn a group of individuals into a collective that actually wins.

The 5 principles of collective leadership:

1. Systems thinking — understanding how all the parts fit together, so everyone knows what's theirs to own
2. Build the network — not just the people, but the resources and tools the team needs to thrive
3. Prioritize relationships — trust is what makes teammates work hard for each other (people won't go to the wall for someone they don't trust)
4. Vested interest in the results — shared accountability and clear ownership, because if one wins, we all win
5. Transparency — on a field you always know the score and the yard line; our workplaces are rarely that clear

Also in this episode:

• Why this only works with team sports (football, basketball, soccer) — not one-person sports like golf or tennis
• Why "my, my, my" thinking would lose every game — and loses in corporate too
• What being a board chair is teaching me about building trust one conversation at a time
• Why the "don't make friends at work" advice is holding your team back
• Why there's no such thing as multiple priorities — a priority is one thing
• How I use an actual football and basketball as props in my team sessions — and why it beats another generic team-building event

The one takeaway: If one wins, we all win. Get clear on the goal, know your position, build trust, and stop operating from fear and scarcity.

🔗 Bring this to your team: I facilitate collective leadership sessions that beat the generic team-building event — real principles, real props, real takeaways. Let's talk: https://coachingwithtasheena.as.me/sales

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I'm about a quarter of the way into my summer series — and I wanted to pull back the curtain on the experiment itself.

This summer, I decided to come back and show up differently: a new podcast episode every Wednesday, weekly Substack newsletters, long-form content, and finding my own voice instead of copying how everyone else does it. Four-ish episodes in, I'm still figuring it out — and that's exactly the point.

This is an honest, behind-the-scenes check-in on how it's going: what I'm learning, what I'm still not doing the way I want to, and why leading imperfectly in public is part of becoming.

In this episode:

• Why I'm treating this whole summer series as an experiment — and choosing podcast and Substack over showing up everywhere on social
• The truth about working in public: it's cringey, it's uncomfortable, and it's how you actually grow
• Why I've always experimented — raising my hand for things I wasn't "ready" for, and how that grew my career
• Learning to share my story and my voice as an introvert who'd rather not be in the spotlight
• Why people don't trust the person who's always perfect — they trust the one with the courage to be open
• Courage as "throwing your heart over the fence" — and why asking for help isn't weakness
• Following your gut instead of over-studying and waiting to be perfect ("flying the plane while I build it")
• What my sons' basketball games taught me: you miss the shot, you get the rebound, you keep going

The heart of it: You don't need the finished style, the perfect plan, or every skill in place to start. You need the courage to try, to be seen doing it imperfectly, and to keep going when it's not buttoned up. That's not just how you build a business — it's how you lead in any season.

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I was laid off in 2014 — eight and a half months pregnant, losing the job that grew me into an adult. Then again in 2024, on April Fools' Day, when my whole department got eliminated on a 9 AM call I almost didn't join.

The first time, I went straight into survival mode. Back on the "campaign trail" three weeks after having my son, never giving myself time to think about what I actually wanted. The second time, I made a different decision: I'm not rushing into the next thing. This time, I choose myself.

This episode is my honest origin story — the grief nobody prepares you for, the trust that breaks, and what it really means to step into leadership when the title gets taken away.

In this episode:

• The two layoffs, ten years apart — and why the second one changed everything
• The grief nobody talks about: losing your identity, your structure, your sense of purpose, and your financial footing all at once
• Why organizations make space for exit interviews and NDAs — but never for the human side
• Workplace survivor syndrome: the guilt, fear, and silence that settle over the people who didn't get laid off
• Why so many of us — especially women of color — walk into work never showing all our cards
• The loyalty myth: giving your all to a company that was never built to be loyal back
• Why your purpose stays the same even when the role changes — it's the execution that shifts season to season
• Viktor Frankl's pause between stimulus and response — and why leaders make conscious choices, not gut reactions
• Why advocacy and leadership are a requirement, not the exception
• Don't put all your eggs in one basket: diversifying your career, your income, and your sense of self

The heart of it: A layoff hits your identity, your safety, and your trust all at once. You're allowed to grieve it. You're allowed to side-eye the organization. But at the end of the day, you get to choose leadership — because leadership is a set of choices, and full agency over your life is a blessing worth slowing down for.

🔗 Work with me 1:1 — The Career Lab: Three months of weekly 60-minute coaching, plus access to me between calls. My clients walk away with more agency over their careers, less fear around networking, and a clear sense of purpose. Book a call: https://coachingwithtasheena.as.me/sales

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I was doing everything right. I had the degrees, the certifications, the relationships. And when the perfect role finally opened up — someone was quietly working behind the scenes to block me from getting it.

This week, I'm telling the full story: how I went from administrative assistant to certified coach, three levels up. The gut instinct that made me turn down a role I'd already accepted. The coach who told me I'd be good at this when I didn't even know what coaching was. And the advocates who had my back when someone was trying to push me out.

This is a story about trusting yourself, building real relationships, and refusing to do more to prove what you've already earned.

In this episode:

• My real career story — from retail to biotech to coaching, and the moment someone tried to block my promotion
• Why I turned down a role 24 hours after accepting it — and why trusting your gut matters
• How advocacy showed up from every direction: a skip-level manager, a peer leader, and a manager who wrote the letter for me
• Why administrative assistants are some of the most strategic people in the building (and why people sleep on them)
• The difference between a mentor and a sponsor — and why one sponsor isn't enough

The 3 things I want you to focus on:

1. Build your strategy — get advocates from different angles (your manager, a skip-level, a peer who isn't your boss)
2. Know your non-negotiables — your title, your pay, your market value, and where you stand next to everyone else
3. Know your sell — learn to name the impact you create, because nobody else will do it for you

What I want you to walk away with: Your skills, your credentials, and your relationships are your leverage. Diversify them — don't put all your eggs in one basket. And remember, the goal isn't for everyone to like you. It's for them to respect what you bring to the table.

🔗 Work with me 1:1 — The Career Lab: Three months of weekly coaching for the woman who's ready to get promoted, navigate someone blocking her, or grow into a leader even without the title. Book a call: https://coachingwithtasheena.as.me/sales

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🎧 New episodes every Wednesday. Missed last week? Summer Series Episode 2 "Code Switching Is Not a Strategy. It Is a Tax." — is the perfect lead-in to this one.

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"Am I showing up as the full version of myself — or am I sending my representative to run the show?"

In this episode, I'm getting honest about code switching: why so many of us chose it strategically for safety, survival, and career advancement — and what it actually costs us over time. I share my own story of "putting on my white girl" early in my career, what it earned me, and the moment I realized the exhaustion was no longer worth the trade.

We also dig into the research, because this isn't just a you problem — it's a systems problem:

▸ Women still earn 81 cents to every man's dollar (AAUW, 2024) ▸ 70% of Black women say they've felt the need to code switch at work (Race Equality Matters) ▸ 67% of Black women report having to constantly prove themselves — vs. only 10% of white women (Catalyst) ▸ Chronic racial stress is linked to accelerated biological aging — up to 7.5 years (American Journal of Public Health)

This is why I don't say imposter syndrome. I say imposter treatment. You can only feel like an imposter if a system keeps treating you like one.

In this episode:

• Why code switching is a survival choice, not a character flaw
• The real cost: burnout, broken trust, and your health
• Why authenticity is the foundation of leadership and trust
• Three practices to start reclaiming yourself:

1. Trace the belief — where did "who I should be" come from?
2. Count the cost — what is performing actually costing you?
3. Find a room where you can be real — and practice showing up fully

Your reflection question this week: Where did you first learn that you needed to be someone else?

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You're at your kid's game, phone in hand—technically present, but are you really there?

In this deeply personal kickoff to her summer series Leading Through Every Season of Life, Coach TaSheena unpacks the difference between being in the room and being present in it. After a night at her son's basketball game made her confront a years-long pattern of showing up without actually being there, she started connecting the dots between the life you live outside of work and the leader you become inside it.

Drawing on Harvard research on parental presence, Gallup's end-of-career regret data, and a University of Texas study on phones and connection, she makes the case that how you show up at home is the same muscle that makes you a better leader at work.

In this episode:

• Why quality of engagement—not quantity of time—shapes how our kids turn out
• What people actually regret at the end of their careers (it's never the extra emails)
• The leadership link most people miss: presence at home and presence at work are one practice
• Three tools to shift from distracted to dialed-in—the Countdown, the Intention Check, and the Weekly Audit

Your question for the week: Where are your bleachers? Who is asking for your full presence and getting something less—and how many summers do you have left in it?

Count your summers. They're going by whether you're present for them or not.

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