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Episode 147 “The Future Leader”

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Episode 85 “Stay Positive”

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Episode 126 “Get Rid Of It”

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Episode 241

Also Available On:Co-Dependent LeadershipAugust 7Leader NotesCo-Dependent Definition: Emotional or psychological reliance on a partner.

Tendency of leaders to set-up their leadership as co-dependent.

Small Ways: Can’t make a decision because the Boss it out of town.

Big Ways: “We left the Church because the pastor left, it’s just what you do”

Issue: The test of great leadership is what happens when you’re absent.

Kindest Way: We don’t even realize we’re doing it and we don’t know how not to.

Where tools like vision, values, systems come into play when they’re being used to empower, not create bureaucracy.

Realest Way: We feel like imposters, we’re not secure in our role, we want to feel needed.

Acknowledge that it feels good to need your opinion to make a decision.

Acknowledge that it feels good for people to leave because you’re no longer there because it’s not the same.

Point

We want to feel wanted.

When a leader leads to feel wanted, they become needed, and create co-dependency.

The Impact of Co-Dependent Leadership

Hurts longevity. No momentum beyond current tenure.

Cripples Development. Think of like a parent who needs to be needed by their kids. The result is the kids never become adults. Here: The followers never become leaders in their own right.

Security is built on:

Don’t need validation of your competency.

Security is built on testing and trial, not just affirmation.

Amateurs want to know they did well, professionals want to know how they can get better. Donald Miller.

Commitment to Calling, not assignment.

Security will never exist if all you have is a job.

What I do supercedes the person I’m doing it with’s opinion of me.

Effectiveness that is built on your willingness to adapt.

Key is listening and adapting.

People will tell you how to lead them, not because it’s a perfect match.

The danger of co-dependent leadership.

Cultivate Security.

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Episode 240

Also Available On:Forced MaturityJuly 31Leader NotesIntro

Maturity is a good thing.

Def: having reached the most advanced stage. Obviously not what we think, advanced stage.

Mature is not about being serious or lacking fun.

Immature: Not fully Developed.

It takes time…somewhat accurate.

Maturity is gradual; but it is not inevitable.

Development takes time; but time doesn’t mean develop is going to happen.

You can force maturity through responsibility.

Example: A friend (Robby Brown) & his level of maturity

I’ve never met a mature person who carries no responsibility.

Conversation with a friend (Ward) on Leadership.

Proper responsibility will add strength, too much weight will cause it to crack.

People vastly underestimate their ability to carry weight. Church Plant Days

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Episode 239

Also Available On:Habits of Self-AwarenessJuly 24Leader NotesIntro-Quick Recap

The danger of self-awareness becoming unbalanced

Self-Awareness is not a gifting, it’s a set of habits and disciplines.

How do people respond to you? Kindness can distort your view of reality.

What is the response when you speak:

Do people in? Do they look down?

Don’t mistake authority for influence.

What is the response when you enter:

Energy go up or go down?

Do people tease you? If they don’t, probably take yourself too seriously.

Do people confide in you? If they don’t, probably afraid of you.

Quickest way to gain self-awareness.

Don’t argue.

Implement.

Self-Awareness is a discipline.

Two Habits to help you in that.

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