Leading Hope with Kevin Jack

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  • 241: Co-Dependent Leadership

    Episode 241
    Also Available On:Co-Dependent LeadershipAugust 7Leader NotesCo-Dependent Definition: Emotional or psychological reliance on a partner.
    • Tendency of leaders to set-up their leadership as co-dependent.
      • Small Ways: Can’t make a decision because the Boss it out of town.
      • Big Ways: “We left the Church because the pastor left, it’s just what you do”
      • Issue: The test of great leadership is what happens when you’re absent.
        Why Do We Do That?
        • Kindest Way: We don’t even realize we’re doing it and we don’t know how not to.
          • Where tools like vision, values, systems come into play when they’re being used to empower, not create bureaucracy.
          • Realest Way: We feel like imposters, we’re not secure in our role, we want to feel needed.
            • Acknowledge that it feels good to need your opinion to make a decision.
            • Acknowledge that it feels good for people to leave because you’re no longer there because it’s not the same.
            • Point
              • We want to feel wanted.
              • When a leader leads to feel wanted, they become needed, and create co-dependency.
                Co-Dependent Leadership
                The Impact of Co-Dependent Leadership
                1. Hurts longevity. No momentum beyond current tenure.
                2. Cripples Development. Think of like a parent who needs to be needed by their kids. The result is the kids never become adults. Here: The followers never become leaders in their own right.
                  Antidote
                  • You antidote to co-dependent leadership is security.
                  • Security is built on:
                    • Awareness of Gifting.
                      • Don’t need validation of your competency.
                      • Security is built on testing and trial, not just affirmation.
                      • Amateurs want to know they did well, professionals want to know how they can get better. Donald Miller.
                      • Commitment to Calling, not assignment.
                        • Security will never exist if all you have is a job.
                        • What I do supercedes the person I’m doing it with’s opinion of me.
                        • Effectiveness that is built on your willingness to adapt.
                          • Key is listening and adapting.
                          • People will tell you how to lead them, not because it’s a perfect match.
                            Conclusion
                            • The danger of co-dependent leadership.
                            • Cultivate Security.
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                            • 240: Forced Maturity

                              Episode 240
                              Also Available On:Forced MaturityJuly 31Leader NotesIntro
                              • Maturity is a good thing.
                              • Def: having reached the most advanced stage. Obviously not what we think, advanced stage.
                              • Mature is not about being serious or lacking fun.
                              • Immature: Not fully Developed.
                                How We Think Development Happens
                                • It takes time…somewhat accurate.
                                • Maturity is gradual; but it is not inevitable.
                                  • Development takes time; but time doesn’t mean develop is going to happen.
                                    How to Force Maturity
                                    • You can force maturity through responsibility.
                                      • Example: A friend (Robby Brown) & his level of maturity
                                      • I’ve never met a mature person who carries no responsibility.
                                      • The best way to bring people to development is to add responsibility.
                                      • Conversation with a friend (Ward) on Leadership.
                                        Notes
                                        • Proper responsibility will add strength, too much weight will cause it to crack.
                                        • People vastly underestimate their ability to carry weight. Church Plant Days
                                        • There is no such thing as leadership development that isn’t load bearing
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                                        • 239: Habits of Self-Awareness

                                          Episode 239
                                          Also Available On:Habits of Self-AwarenessJuly 24Leader NotesIntro-Quick Recap
                                          • The danger of self-awareness becoming unbalanced
                                          • Self-Awareness is not a gifting, it’s a set of habits and disciplines.
                                          • Today: The Habits that bring self-awareness
                                            Read The Room
                                            • How do people respond to you? Kindness can distort your view of reality.
                                              • What is the response when you speak:
                                                • Do people in? Do they look down?
                                                • Don’t mistake authority for influence.
                                                • What is the response when you enter:
                                                  • Energy go up or go down?
                                                  • Other Questions
                                                    • Do people tease you? If they don’t, probably take yourself too seriously.
                                                    • Do people confide in you? If they don’t, probably afraid of you.
                                                    • Key Question: What are the nonverbal cues to my presence?
                                                      Ask the Room
                                                      • Quickest way to gain self-awareness.
                                                      • Favorite Question: What’s it like to be on the other side of me?
                                                      • Doing it is worth nothing, doing it right means everything!
                                                        • Don’t argue.
                                                        • Implement.
                                                          Close
                                                          • Self-Awareness is a discipline.
                                                            Two Habits to help you in that.
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