Leading Hope with Kevin Jack

Intro

We are not "balance" people.

Obviously, some things need balanced: Today talk about self-awareness

The Problem

Give a picture of self-awareness: Ripple effects of your decisions and your presence.

The problem is when others awareness of you exceeds your own level of self-awareness.

What happens when that becomes unbalanced:

You keep making messes that you're unaware of.

You slow down because you always have to re-calibrate yourself to current reality.

You will eventually lose your leadership. People will deal with a mess when you're winning, never when you're losing: Coaches

What makes this so Tricky:

Others, always, have a better a view of you than you do.

Literally: YOU CAN'T SEE YOU! So you don't know what it's like when you enter the room, or leave it!

Which means: Self-Awareness if not about gifting, it's about the discipline to gain that perspective.

Not Gifting: When someone says, "I'm really self-aware", they're not. Or they were at one time, but they're not.

There are habits of self-awareness that must be cultivated.

Note: Purpose of this podcast is to save you time, we will do that and not go any longer than the content needs.

- We all hate long, unproductive, meetings.

- The two words: I agree!

- Meetings are long because…

People feel the need to weigh in and give their two cents; meetings are about better decisions because of a better perspective.

People hide a lack of clarity of thought behind many words. If I wanted your perspective I would have asked, I want to know what you would do.

- Implement this: Tell people, if you agree; say it. Then let’s move on.

The Limitation: We think Input vs Desired Outcome

Series coming up of “And Here’s Why…” The importance of outcome-based thinking.

Where we Fail

Start: I want to accomplish this. (Goal or Desired Outcome)

Next: In order to do that, I need to do this. (Best Guess)

Discipline: I did what I set out to do.

Issue: Did what you did do what you wanted it to do?

Why You Need Outcome Thinking

Someone’s else’s input will have different results for you than them. Physically, Eating, Preparation, Education.

Different Pieces

People say “Think Process, not goals”.

Yes, goals are only met through process.

But you must think process and goals.

Goals: S.O.M.E. Goals (Outcome Based)

Activity and Outcome must always stay connected- but outcome matters more than activity.

Exercise

Toyota: 5 Why’s: Get to the root of the problem and not just deal with the surface issue.

Outcome-Thinking: 5 So What’s. WIthin 5 you better be at the Vision.

Intro:

– Jeff Bezos idea on decisions: Two Way Doors and One Way Doors.

– Implications

How This Changes:

– Pace:

– One-Way: Slow

– Two-Way: Relatively Quickly. Don’t need high confidence level, just some intuition.

– People:

– Two-Way: Few

– One-Way: Many points of input. Not just for better decision-making but because we’ll all have to live in the reality.

Failures:

– We treat every decision like a two way, or a one way.

– Two way Like a one way:

– Unnecessarily waste time and get significantly behind.

– Bad decision makers think they’re making decisions

– One way like a two way

– Resentment builds in.

– Paint yourself into a corner.

The magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding.

Reality

The thing I want to do; got me here. The thing I don’t want to do; will get me there.

Questions:

What do you do first? What do you put off last? Flip Them!

Who are you drawn to first, who do you ask their opinion last? Flip Them!

What project keeps coming on your “I need to get to” list. Do you keep pushing it back due to lack of impact or because of difficulty?

What Humility Is

A fake lack of confidence

Unawareness of your giftings

Humility is the absence of pre-occupation with yourself.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, humility is thinking of yourself less. CS Lewis

One Reason Humility Is So Important

Proverbs 16:18, "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall."

Humility reveals the gap that you can grow into.

Important idea

I used to think humility was the default and pride slowly crept in.

I now believer that pride is the default, and humility has to be learned.

Evidence: JJ Reddick & Lebron James podcast. Kids, Staff.

We assume competency and mastery are much closer than they actually are.

Learning Humility

Part One

People use the phrase "being humbled"

"Humbled" comes at two moments:

When ignorance meets competency

When competency meets mastery

Notes:

Humbled does result in at least a short-term humility.

You don't have to be humbled to be humble.

Part Two

Humility is a posture, humbled is an event. Humility is not being unaware of competency, it is believing you have more to learn to reach mastery.

Key: I don't have to be around a master to grow in my mastery. I can learn it from anywhere.

That's humility: I have room to grow and everyone can help me get there.

People buy into a leader before they buy into a vision or culture.

- They Need to Like You

- Tim Sanders book on Likeability

People who came out after biographies of Steve Jobs to counter them.

- They Need to Trust You

- Character & Competency. Integrity & Ability.

- Competency attracts

- Character sustains

They Need to Want to Follow You

- Able to follow: you’re going somewhere.

- Want: Bold Direction.

They need to know you trust them.

- You have to be willing to go alone on hills you’ll die on.

- You have to be willing to change your path.

- People buy into your why (where), they need to know you’ll change your how.

People buy into the leader before they buy into the vision.

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