Learn For 2.0 with Brandon DeVere

Learn For 2.0 with Brandon DeVere

By Brandon DeVereSociety & Culture
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Learn For 2.0 with Brandon DeVere episodes

  • Episode 066: “Quitting... Is It A Good Or bad Thing”

    When we think about quitting, we usually think of it as a negative.

    However, this is one of those things that I am not so "black & white" on. There is definitely a touch of grey.

    When it comes to my kids giving up on something because they are frustrated they are not getting it right or just don't feel like it, then I don't like quitting.

    For example, if they start a sport season, they have to finish out their commitment.

    And if at the end of that season they decide they no longer want to play the next season, they can quit then.

    But not until they fulfill their commitment they have made to us, their teammates, and themselves.

    On the flip-side I think quitting can be a good thing.

    Especially if what you are doing is holding you back from becoming something more.

    That is how I feel about the day that I tossed the keys on the counter and told my boss, "I'm out"

    If I hadn't quit that day, who knows where I would have ended up.

    By quitting that day, I was able to pursue something more.

    So is quitting a good or bad thing?

    I believe it can be both.

    11 min
  • Episode 063: “Building Relationships Vs. Spamming”

    Tomorrow I will be hosting a class that will show real estate agents how to create their very own podcast.

    This class is to help agents add another tool to their toolbox.

    It will be focused on how to build relationships by getting people to know, like, and trust them.

    Unfortunately, we are taught in this industry to burst through the door, spamming and bugging people until they are too tired to fight back.

    Including one strategy that has us telling homeowners that are trying to sell their own home, that we have a buyer that is interested in their home. Asking if we can come preview it.

    The reality is, there is no buyer. There never was.

    It is an opportunity for an agent to get in front of the seller and try to get a listing.

    I hate this strategy.

    I know that some agents do have success with it. I just don't like it, it goes against my core values.

    When we know that people do business with those they know, like, and trust, then why are we starting our relationship off with a lie?

    If you lied to them, they won't trust you, if they don't trust you, they probably won't like you. If they don't like or trust you, they'll probably wish they didn't know you.

    11 min
  • Episode 061: “The Graveyard Shift”
    In 2009 I packed up the family (Eva, Makaiylah and I at the time) and we headed back to Washington state.
    I had been with a company for about 4 years that had recently opened a location in downtown Seattle and applied for a transfer.
    I took the 1st job available because it was time to come back home to family and friends.
    Unfortunately, that job was an overnight shift that had me getting home at around 8am, walking in the door as my daughter was getting up for the day.
    As great as it was to see her first thing in when I got home, it was a struggle to get sleep as well as spend quality time with her.
    Both sleep and quality time were suffering, as was my health. Graveyard isn’t just a clever name.
    Anyone who has worked the shift knows the struggle, and if you currently work it… kudos to you.
    After about 3 months a position became available in another department, giving me an exit strategy from my current position.
    The trouble was, this company had a rule that you must work 6 months in your current position before applying for a transfer.
    Knowing there had been exceptions in the past I decided to pursue it, but it wasn't going to be easy.
    While sitting with the HR director, I began to make my case. Letting him know that I was willing to wait until I had a replacement and that I would train them before moving on to the new department.
    I followed up by explaining that I had been sleeping on the couch at my friend’s house when I got off work because I didn’t want my daughter to think I was ignoring her as I slept during the day.
    His response, “well, she just has to understand that it is time for Daddy to sleep”.
    In my head I screamed “she’s f*cking 3 years old! All she knows is that, "Daddy doesn’t want to play with me".
    By the way, he didn’t have kids. Though he didn’t have an issue serving up some unsolicited parenting advice.
    He continued to tell me that success takes sacrifices and he "understands" me because he and his girlfriend spent a few months apart when he got his promotion.
    “In order to get to this side of the desk, you’ll have to make some tough decisions”, he told me.
    The funny thing is, I had already made my decision.
    The only decision that remained, was what the title of my resignation letter would be.
    To be clear, I wasn’t resigning because I didn’t get the transfer. I knew instantly when he made those comments, that our ideology didn’t align.
    It wasn’t going to work for much longer, regardless.
    Although being on “that side of the desk” was important to him, it didn’t mean anything to me.
    I didn’t want to be on that side of the desk, that was his idea of success, not mine.
    My idea of success was watching my little girl grow up, not sleeping through it.
    14 min
  • Episode 060: "Amor Fati AKA The Love Of Fate”

    I'll be honest with you...

    I have been working on my MINDSET for a few years now.

    I have been studying different strategies and exercises as I try to find out what works best for me.

    I was introduced to Stoicism a few weeks ago, and so far, so good.

    Obviously I'm not an expert on the matter and honestly can't even tell you much about it.

    But what I have learned so far I have already implemented.

    Today I discuss, Amor Fati or The Love Of Fate.

    Which basically means to not only be ok with the things that happen to us, but to love them and be better for them.

    As Ryan Holiday of The Daily Stoic explains to us...

    Marcus Aurelius would say: “A blazing fire makes flame and brightness out of everything that is thrown into it.”

    So get out there, take your challenges, love them, and turn them into fuel for your fire!

    14 min
  • Episode 059: "The ‘Perfect’ Problem”

    I’m not perfect and I don’t claim to be, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t tried to be.

    The older I get the more I realize that my quest for perfection has hurt me more than it has helped me.

    I have seen many of my plans and ideas die as I’ve tried to perfect them before bringing them to fruition.

    The challenge with “Perfect”, is that no one is perfect. Regardless of what they may project or what we may see.

    The problem is that we are seeing a portion of the story. There are no “behind the scenes” or “Out-takes”.

    We only see the edited, condensed version of what people want us to see.

    After reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” I started to view social media as a highlight reel rather than a play-by-play account of someone's life.

    We are seeing the “Best Of” everyone’s life, then comparing our life to theirs.

    “Look, they’re in Hawaii. Ugh, it must be nice to have the perfect life like them.”

    Meanwhile you just got back from vacation while having the time of your life and they were saying the same thing about you.

    Social media has put “Keeping up with the Joneses” on a whole other level… the steroid level.

    I get it though, I post when I’m on vacation and other things I think people will like as well.

    Because honestly, I don’t think people would get that excited about a photo of me turning in a file titled “Hashtag Paperwork”.

    But that is reality, I do that and so do others, it’s just not shared on the highlight reel of social media.

    Again, nobody is perfect, regardless of what you may think.

    And please, don’t let that illusion stop you from moving forward with your own plan or idea.

    Me writing these Facebook posts for example.

    They aren’t perfect but I have wanted to write for a long time but I never started.

    I didn’t start because in my mind I didn’t have the proper training or qualifications.

    I wanted to to have the perfect word, sentence, paragraph, chapter and book before I shared any of it.

    Then one day I said to myself, “I have a pen, I have paper, I have my thoughts and I know how to spell. I’m qualified. So, f*ck it! Let’s write”.

    So I did.

    If I waited for “perfect” it likely would have never happened.

    I know we ALL want to be perfect but sometimes…

    PERFECT is the problem.

    12 min
  • Episode 058: "Compliments... Give Them"

    I'm going to share with you one of my biggest weaknesses.

    I am a terrible compliment giver and receiver.

    The reason I have such a tough time receiving compliments is that when I accomplish something, I expect that I was going to accomplish it. This makes me downplay my achievement. 

    Making me think it wasn't that difficult or important.

    Which causes me to downplay it.

    On the opposite side, I have trouble giving compliments because I get so wrapped up in what I'm doing, that I don't come up for air long enough to see what else is going on.

    In my opinion, that makes me pretty selfish.

    We all want to feel like we belong, are loved, and appreciated.

    Yet it is difficult for some of us to express to others, and sometimes even ourselves, these things.

    So if you do 1 thing today...

    Reach out to someone and thank them, compliment them, or let them know they are appreciated.

    It will go a long way.

    11 min
  • Episode 057: "Setbacks And Success"

    I read an article today titled: "You’ll Need to Learn These Harsh Lessons Multiple Times Before You Will Experience a Breakthrough", By Tim Denning.

    It couldn't have come at a better time.

    He goes over these 6 things that you will go through on your way to success.

    1) When you fall on your ass, it is good.

    2) What you get comes down to what you help others get.

    3) The answer is in what you did last night.

    4) You want the good life too soon.

    5) The workload is double what you think it is.

    6) Your gut rarely makes a mistake.

    This was something I needed to hear today as I experienced 5 of the 6 lessons just today. 

    12 min

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