I am just so overwhelmed with excitement and pride and joy. That I have showed up here 99 times with a podcast episode. Hard to believe that in just a few days it's going to be the two year anniversary of the start of the podcast. So if you have been listening since two years ago in September, or if this is your first episode, 

 

I thank you for helping me continue to grow with the my message, helping me to continue to reach more women like us that are yearning to know that we can thrive and feel fulfilled. Even though we didn't have the children, we always dreamed of. So my ask of you in celebration of our next episode, which is going to be 100. 

 

Could you please rate and review the podcast.  The more the podcast is rated and reviewed, the more likely it is when a woman is searching for resources or Googling what to do about life after infertility fails. 

 

Or how to live life happily. If you can't have the children, you always dreamed of. The podcast might show up in their Google search because of your review and because of the rating that you gave this podcast. So if you haven't done that, I would love, love, love to invite you to do so and help a woman out who might be in need in navigating this journey that we are so not prepared for and not offered enough resources of how to navigate it in a way that feels good to us and makes us feel as though. 

 

Life can be. Easy and joyful and glorious again.   This episode came to me as a result of a live with Stephanie joy, Philips, who is the founder of world childless week. If you aren't familiar with world childless week, I invite you listen to all that Stephanie has put together, maybe read on the website of all the opportunities that you are going to have September 11th through the 17th, to be part of her free resources around world childless week. Every day of the week, there is something that you can tune into. There are webinars. 

 

There are speakers. I myself will be speaking and be part of a panel on the 17th of September at 1:00 PM central. So I invite you to go on and listen, to hear what is going on during world childless week and find. Something that you can tap into to allow yourself to know that you are not alone on this journey.  I invited her to be on a live with me on Instagram and we were just having a conversation about world childless week. And we got on the topic of legacy if you are somebody who is questioning of your legacy, And what your legacy is going to be if you're not a mom, I first want to state that you aren't alone. This is a hot topic for many of us, many of the students that I work with in my thrive community. 

 

Have come to me, questioning that I, at one time question what my legacy could be. If it wasn't a child that I gave birth to, or a child that I raised. And when Stephanie and I were talking about like a C, she really opened my eyes to something that I thought was worth sharing with you today on the podcast. 

 

 If you are somebody who is maybe wondering what you're going to leave behind, as far as the legacy goes, I want you to know that. Your legacy is much greater and much easier to achieve than you might think it is because somehow in society we have been. 

 

Invited or maybe I don't want to say brainwashed, but maybe some of us have been brainwashed to believe that you have to physically leave a child behind to create your legacy. But really a legacy is. Something that can include accomplishments. It can include traditions values. Maybe it's a possession that's passed down. 

 

Uh, contribution. But really like a lasting impact. That you are remembered or influential by the giving. Of something from you. Stephanie and I were talking  on the live. If you want to rewatch it, it's on my Instagram page, Atlanta dot Monaco. But we were talking about. The legacy that she created through world childless week. I created a legacy through starting this podcast. It's something that I very much see as something that I gave birth to and continue to nourish on a weekly and daily basis. But she pointed out to me that your legacy could be something. 

 

That is so impactful just by saying hello to somebody. By giving someone a compliment. By asking someone how they're doing. If you can offer them. Maybe advice or offer them a listening ear. You are probably going to create a legacy for that person, that they are always going to remember you for. And I don't want to even call them small legacies by doing that versus something in air quotes, that's considered like big by creating something as grand as the others day, brunch or world childless week or a podcast. 

 

I think. The legacy that we can leave by simply. Being a loving human is so much more impactful than these things that you might end up in the media covering, or you might forever be passed down. As knowing somebody who was the founder of something. I think back to when I first was on the phone with a girlfriend of mine who asked me. 

 

If I had thought about getting workup and going to a reproductive endocrinologist to see why I hadn't gotten pregnant yet at age 37. That is like a legacy she left for me all these years later. Now that I'm beyond my fertility treatments and know that I'm not going to become a mom. I will always think of her. When I think about somebody who offered me that first idea or that first notion. 

 

Of reaching out. And even starting my diagnosis and starting my path through my fertility treatments. That is a legacy that she left to me. And I think about how many people. You probably touch on a daily basis. By being you. And when we think of legacy having to be. Something that is global or Known by many. It can feel like we're never going to achieve that part of our life. That feels like we are leaving a legacy. But maybe it's as simple. I'm going to kind of go through some ideas. Of some ways that you can create legacy and create impact maybe in your own life. And then pass it on for others. So, first of all determining

 

what type of legacy you want to create? If it is. Being somebody who is a positive person or somebody who is an educator. Maybe on infertility or being an advocate about something that you're passionate about. Maybe it's related to your career. Or community that you're a part of, or that, cause that makes you passionate. So understanding how on a daily, weekly, monthly, like decide the frequency of it. 

 

How you can start to create goals for what it is that you want to be known for.  Even if it's just you reaching out and complimenting people. Maybe you want to think, how can I every day say hello to one stranger? How can I every day give a compliment to that person that's walking by and they have this. 

 

Darling haircut. And you say, I love your hair. To me, that is creating legacy. Of being somebody who is always offering. Positivity. Or finding opportunities. To say hello to that person who might not have had anyone else in their day say hello to them. I guarantee you. That makes a huge impact. 

 

Maybe giving back so actively deciding that you want to align yourself with a philanthropic organization or some sort of community service, and it doesn't have to be. Generosity through finances, it could just be helping others, maybe showing up. At  a nursing home and finding ways that maybe you can lead an activity during their activity hours. Maybe it could be. 

 

Organizing. Events or creating opportunities to bring joy to a community. Sitting down and coloring with young youth, or maybe it's helping kids with homework and an afterschool program, boys and girls club, but there's countless ways that you can find opportunities to give back. 

 

 Through that mentoring and maybe education sharing your knowledge and experience with others, because there is so much about you that I promise is unique to you and can touch so many others through your greatness and through the path that you have lived. Something else that I think is very important is documenting your journey. So maybe keeping a record of experiences, maybe lessons that you've learned. 

 

Accomplishments things that can be collected in journaling paper, thinking. Books or some other form of media. There's so much of our life that we are continuously impacting. Others and impacting the world. And if we don't take record of it, it's so easy that things just maybe fall by the wayside. And you don't remember all the things that you have accomplished. 

 

Building relationships. So maybe fostering positive relationships with family, with friends, maybe with colleagues. And seeing how your impact in these people's lives create a significant part of your legacy. 

 

Another thing I was thinking of is sustainability. Maybe it's considering ways that you can impact the environment. Maybe you're somebody who wants to cut down on the use of plastic, to use more reusable items and create  energy towards a healthy environment and creating mat for future generations.  Sustainability practices can be part of your legacy. Maybe advocating for a cause I recently. Was a guest on someone's podcast. And I had told them that I'm an advocate for infertility. And they corrected me and they told me I was an activist. And hearing someone say that about me, 

 

I bet you there's ways that people see you as an activist for a cause. Because you're championing a cause and maybe a social issue you're passionate about, or maybe change that you want to see created or leaving your mark. 

 

On that causes progress is such an amazing way to create legacy for yourself. And feeling as though you're leaving something behind. I also think it's. A really beautiful option to consider leading by example. And maybe it's being a role model in the way that you live your life and the way that you have gone through your infertility journey or your path to childlessness. 

 

And be an example and a role model to people that maybe are going to end up like us. That's something that drives me and I know. That there's probably so many people in your life that look at you and see the way that you are navigating your path after infertility. And you can be such a light to them. 

 

And you can be a role model with your ethics and with your values and your behavior. Absolutely will inspire others to follow in your footsteps if they and their journey. And they find that they are going to become childless, not by choice, having you lead by example is such a powerful thing. And I also think maybe doing some planning about how you want to leave your matters in order as we age and think about death and where we want to leave our money, where we want to leave the things that we've accumulated, making sure that your assets are distributed in a way that. Reflects your values and your wishes. Even though we don't have kids to leave things behind. There is so much that we can leave behind maybe it's to a cause maybe it's to a person maybe. 

 

It's to something that you've been passionate about your whole life. But whatever it is, know that because you don't have kids. Does not mean that you do not have legacy. You have an option every day the minute you put your feet on the floor to create a legacy just by being you every day. 

 

 Your legacy matters and can be impactful in many more ways because you're touching so many people beyond just having a child. I feel like our legacy as women who are childless. Can be so much greater and so much wide reaching.  Know that your legacy matters and that I believe in you. And I know that you are so impactful just by waking up and being you every day. 

 

 I wanted to tell you that the thrive after infertility mastermind applications are open right now. So if you have been thinking. About how you can start to thrive and feel fulfilled and create community with other women who have been on your journey. The thrive after infertility mastermind is the perfect place for you to do that. 

 

The application process is solely just so we know that. We are aligned with one another. What you're seeking is something that I can offer you in the thrive masterminds. So please go on to Londa. Manock. husky.com/thrive. Fill out the application and know that you are saying yes to a journey that  will create lifelong friendships with other women who have been on this journey, we will come together weekly. And we will talk about the things that maybe have you feeling stuck. 

 

 I can't wait for the thrive after infertility and mastermind to start. I know it is going to be an exceptional opportunity for you to create that life. You're so deserving of. So have a beautiful week. I love you. And remember it is never too late to discover your meaning. I'll talk to you next week.