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Today we’re going to be talking about body image and eating disorders in 2020.This conversation is with your host Tessa Lloyd and her inner critic body image voice, “Sassy Saskia”. Saskia is a guest star on today’s show and has been a supporting actress in my life for a long time now. A few years ago I named my inner critic voice as a way of objectively viewing this voice of fear and ego, and this has ultimately stopped me from letting Saskia’s words buckle me at the knees and instead let me co exist with her.⁣The first time I acknowledged I had an “it’s complicated” relationship with staying small, was when I was 11 years old. When I was fifteen it began again, and again at seventeen. Not feeling good enough, literally wanting to shrink away. Thinking if I can just be SMALL, the rest will fall into place. Skipping meals, exercising compulsively. Light headed, cranky, anxious, self conscious. I was so young, and you’d think I would have learnt from that right? But this voice that encourages you to be small in every single aspect of your life is so strong. Stay quiet. Stay sweet. Stay settled. Stay small.⁣ ⁣Saskia tells me that when I am smaller, I am easier to love. Easier to care for. In every aspect; my voice, my thoughts, the way I show up at work, my opinions, my body. Can anyone else relate? Can anyone else hear that little voice on a low day that says, “Just be quiet. Just be good. Just stay small.” It’s a load of horse shit but it can seem so very real. ⁣⁣⁣And the thing is; no matter how small you make yourself, you don’t stay safe from the world. You aren’t sweet, you aren't quiet, you aren’t settled. This anxious pathetic voice will cause ripple effects throughout your life. Staying small and being your best self, are two concepts that can’t coexist. ⁣ ⁣Today we’re going to be discussing:The sort of things our inner body image voice can say to us on the daily and what they make this mean about our self worth and place in the worldThe influences we’re surrounded by in 2020 that contribute to this voice What I’ve learnt to say my inner critic voice “Sassy Saskia” when she’s had a few champagnes and is ready to pour salt on my wounds The tools that I implement daily to co-exist with Saskia and not let her reduce me to a very unhealthy way of living life Here’s to more growing together and discovering ways to become more of ourselves. Thank you for tuning into today’s episode, I hope you can take something from it that supports your feelings of self worth x

Today we’re going to dive in and get real.We’re talking about our Mental Health Game. There’s a reason I’m so passionate about talking about this, and there’s a reason I think it’s so important for us to tell our stories.Getting to where I am today wasn’t some spiritual highway. I didn’t sage my surroundings and sit with my crystal ball and manifest it. I was broken over and over, which led to the opening. This opening led to my healing. And my healing gave me a foundation to work from, a grounded self love that I had never known. A strong base to stand on as I strived for something more. Life can be hard, and it’s even harder when we don’t have any idea where we’re going wrong, or tools to work with. So let's learn some, togetherMy story is why I’m so passionate about kindness, compassion, and understanding. It’s why I harp on about starting with small steps and looking after your mind in a gentle way. It’s why I know with every cell of my being that taking care of your mental health is crucial. Sometimes life saving. Take it from me, change is possible and the feeling that you crave is possible too. The life that you deserve is out here, and so are your people.Be patient, be kind with yourself, and be gentle as you get to know yourself. You are loved and you are worthy, too.Today I'm going to tell you about my mental health experiences and share some of the support tools that have helped along the way.

Today we’re going to dive in and get real. We’re talking about our Mental Health Game. There’s a reason I’m so passionate about talking about this, and there’s a reason I think it’s so important for us to tell our stories. Getting to where I am today wasn’t some spiritual highway. I didn’t sage my surroundings and sit with my crystal ball and manifest it. I was broken over and over, which led to the opening. This opening led to my healing. And my healing gave me a foundation to work from, a grounded self love that I had never known. A strong base to stand on as I strived for something more. Life can be hard, and it’s even harder when we don’t have any idea where we’re going wrong, or tools to work with. So let's learn some, togetherMy story is why I’m so passionate about kindness, compassion, and understanding. It’s why I harp on about starting with small steps and looking after your mind in a gentle way. It’s why I know with every cell of my being that taking care of your mental health is crucial. Sometimes life saving. Take it from me, change is possible and the feeling that you crave is possible too. The life that you deserve is out here, and so are your people. Be patient, be kind with yourself, and be gentle as you get to know yourself. You are loved and you are worthy, too.Today I'm going to tell you about my mental health experiences and share some of the support tools that have helped along the way.

Welcome to Create Your Life, episode number 02. Today our conversation is with Allira Potter, and boy have I got a doozy for you guys.There is a reason that my first guest on my podcast is Allira. I am super intentional with who will be arriving here at CYL, after all this is your precious time and energy that you are using to listen in. Allira is no exception to that, and talking with her is as wholesome as pulling a freshly baked loaf of bread out of the oven, smearing a layer of butter on it and eating it in the sunshine. She shows up in the world very bravely, very unapologetically and very transparently.During this episode we discuss:Allira’s work decolonising the wellness space and providing accessible services to those who need themNavigating conversations and actions surrounding diversity, with understandingSaying enough is enough when you’re pissing your life away, and taking actionFighting fear and shame with empathy and compassionSupporting your mental health and making life changesExploring our sexuality and standing firm in our right to navigate this in any way that we feel called toI hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Please feel free to share this with a friend who you think might need to hear it, or I’d be so grateful if you could leave a rating or comment on this episode if you enjoy it. Thank you everyone!

Welcome to Create Your Life, episode number one. I will be giving you guys an introduction to my life so far, and the reasons I am where I am today, showing up every day to consciously create my life and live with intention. I'll tell you guys a bit more about my life with an auto-immune disease, my mental health, taking responsibility for my bullshit and making big changes. Enjoy x