Lessons With A King

Lesson 371:  Stay Flexible

If you stay rigid, you will break easily. If you are flexible, you have longer staying power. It's a good idea to embrace flexibility in everything you do.

PROMPT: How flexible are you?

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Lesson 370: Be Wary Of Variable Rewards

People get hooked on slot machines because of the power of variable rewards. One push might give you a thousand dollars and the next ten pulls give you nothing but pull number 11 might give you ten dollars. The variable rate of rewards keeps the person hooked. When you are dealing with people or situations that have variable rewards, it's a good idea to take a step back and think things through before you get completely sucked in.

PROMPT:  What in your life has variable rewards?  

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Lesson 369: Know The Boundary Of Your Competence

Faking it till you make it should come with a caveat: don't stray too far from your boundary of competence. Faking that you know how to fly a plane when you have zero ideas about what you are doing is a very bad idea. Faking that you can carry an interview when you love asking questions isn't straying too far from your boundary of competence. The key is to know yourself and your capabilities and staying within or at least close to that realm. Now, once you know what your level is, you can level up by putting in work and in time your boundary of competence will expand.

PROMPT: How often do you push the boundary of your competence?

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Lesson 368: Respect Their Boundaries

When someone shares their boundaries, respect them. Do not have them have to keep reminding you. Sure you might forget but put in the effort to remember and stick to their boundaries.

PROMPT: Pay attention to their boundaries

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Lesson 367: Make Sure They Know Your Boundaries

It's one thing to have boundaries but it's another for people to know what your boundaries are. No one can read minds so make sure you let them know what your boundaries are. Be specific. Don't make them have to read between lines. This is what my boundaries are and it is important to me that you respect them.

PROMPT: Do you share your boundaries?

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Lesson 366: Set Boundaries

Set boundaries in everything you do and everyone you deal with. I will do this but I won't do this. They might not like it but you are doing it for yourself, to take care of yourself. Do set boundaries and stick to them.

PROMPT: What are your boundaries?

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Lesson 365: Have A Life Audit

It is a good idea to have a life audit. A life audit according to Ximena Vengoechea is an exercise in self-reflection that helps you clear the cobwebs of noisy, external goals and current distractions, and revisit or uncover the real themes & core values that drive & inspire you. Also known as spring cleaning for the soul. It is an involved process but it will take you to the next level.

PROMPT: When was the last time you did a life audit?

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Lesson 364: Learn Something From Everyone You Meet

If you meet them, learn from them.

PROMPT: What did you learn from the last person you met?

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Lesson 363: People Can Change

It isn't that people can't change because they can. It is that people are not as willing to do the work that is needed for them to change. So the question isn't can they change? It is, are they willing to do the work to change?

PROMPT: What was the last change you noticed in a loved one?

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Lesson 362: Replace "That Was Stupid Of Me" with "That Was Human Of Me" What was the last mistake you made?

As a human being, we are all fallible and that's just par for the course. It hurts when people talk down on themselves because they are ignoring the fact that they are human and they can make mistakes. It's ok. Just fix things and learn from the mistake. Replace "That Was Stupid Of Me" with "That Was Human Of Me" because you are human after all.

PROMPT: What was the last mistake you made?

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