Lessons With A King

Lesson 331:  Work On Your Relationships

To make your relationship work, you have to work on your relationship. It isn't easy work either. It is deep work. It is getting to know as much as you can at a deep level about the person you are with. It's about building connection. It's about being there and making compromises. It's about doing the work to make your relationship work.

PROMPT: What work do you do on your relationships

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Lesson 330: Embrace Weak Ties

We have strong and weak ties. Strong ties are those with close affinity, family, loved ones and weak ties are acquaintances and people we might know in passing. We might be tempted to take weak ties in passing but we shouldn't because we never know what might come from a weak tie. The key is to be open, to listen and to be available when you can. Let them know they matter and make them feel good.

PROMPT: How do you maintain the bridge with your weak ties?

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Lesson 329: Think About Their Experience

We, I, sometimes do this thing where we give gifts that we love without considering the person being given the gift. Sure you like that thing and it might be a reasonable gift but it isn't really thoughtful since they might have no use for it. It's a good idea to learn what they love and get them that or even ask directly what they'd love and give them that. It's super thoughtful and it builds stronger bonds. Always think about their experience of the gift when you are gifting.

PROMPT: Write down 10 things you do solely for your partner.

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Lesson 328: Pair Design Your Relationships

There is a cool post I read and this is a lesson from the post: 

If you want to make a relationship work, thrive, grow, last, you should take time to pair design the relationship. It's as simple as writing down things that are important to you both and seeing where they align, then working on doing those things more.

PROMPT: Create some time to write down 100 wishes each then see where your wishes overlap.

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Lesson 327: Be With Them If You Can Live In Their World

If you can't stand the person, then do not get into their world.  I know a lot of people believe opposites attract and maybe they do but I believe a key ingredient in making a relationship work is to have a number of things in common. If there are key basics you can't stand, that might be a good indicator that the relationship won't last. If you can't start them, why would you torture yourself by being with them?

PROMPT: How do you choose the people in your life?

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Lesson 326: Keep Learning

My grandmother is a fan of learning and no matter the experience I had, she would ask me if I learnt something? As long as I had a lesson or lessons from the experience, it is never a loss. As long as you are breathing, stay open to learning and embrace every opportunity to learn something new. It is good for your existence.

PROMPT: What did you learn today?

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Lesson 325: It's Ok To Be A Curious Idiot

Whenever I'm at a place or with people I can learn from, I turn into the kid that asks "why, why, why, why?!". I want to learn as much as I can so I stay curious. I listen. I take it all in. I let it soak and enjoy every opportunity I get to learn. There's nothing wrong with saying "I don't know". I really don't know and I'm not going to pretend that I do. How will I learn if I do that?

PROMPT: What was the last thing you learned?

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Lesson 324: All You Are Doing Is Replacing Problems

When you start any venture, you are solving a problem. As soon as you solve that problem, you'll move forward to another level where you'll have to solve a different problem. A good indicator of success is having different types of problems. It's like a video game; the bosses in Level 10 are way difficult than those in Level 1 but you will be better equipped to deal with them. The new problem just says, hey, you did well, you did great, you've learned a lot, well, it's time to learn something new.

PROMPT: What was the last problem you replaced? What's the current problem?  

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Lesson 323: Build Bridges

It is important to build bridges, to build connections between people. It is a good place to be when people see you as that person that connects others. It's super simple to do. Just think of the people in your life that share those things in common and then introduce them. That's all. They will take it from there. The beauty of building bridges is that you never know when the bridge might come in handy and if you never have to use it, the joy is still received from others using that bridge. It's a beautiful thing.

PROMPT: What was the last bridge you built?

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Lesson 322: Be Agile

The world is always in motion. Change is constant. A solid plan today might crumble tomorrow. The one sure way to be able to handle things is to stay agile. As long as you are nimble and agile, you can quickly change things around to accommodate the things life may throw your way.

PROMPT: What tested your agility last?

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