Lessons With A King

Lesson 114: Give With No Strings Attached

When you give, expect nothing in return. If you give because you plan to get something in return, don't. If it has already happened, find a gift to give with no expectation and give that too. Expecting something after giving a gift makes life difficult. Just give and let go.

Prompt: What was the last gift you gave? Did you expect anything in return? If yes, give something else without any expectations. #LessonsWithAKing

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Lesson 113: Focus On The Things You Can Control 

In life we can group things into three categories: Things We Can Control, Things We Can Kinda Control and Things We Can't Control. We should completely ignore the things we can't control. If we focus on those we are setting ourselves for hurt. There's literally nothing we can do about those so it's best to let them go and focus on the things we can control. It will make our lives a lot easier.

Prompt: What are things you can control now? What are things you'd like to control but can't? Let the latter go! #LessonsWithAKing 

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Lesson 112: Avoid Catastrophic Thinking

More often than not, when we have a catastrophic thought, they rarely ever come true. When we think the worst possible thing happening, while they might not happen, we are already making things head downhill for our mental health. It isn't about hoping for sunshine and rainbows because those won't always come. However, when we feel the catastrophic thought coming up, we take a step back and break the thought down because we will notice that, well, that is not what's going on at all.

Prompt: What are some negative thoughts you've had that turned out to be untrue? #LessonsWithAKing

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Lesson 111: Words Shape Your Reality

Even in jest, I don't think anyone should call themselves "stupid" or "dumb" and that's because words are super powerful. Whenever we use a word, it sows a seed and the more we use it, the more real it becomes. In essence, do not get shocked if you actually end up acting/being stupid or dumb if you keep calling yourself those things. We should rather be using positive words. We should also be careful with the way we present things because those affect us emotionally and mentally too.

Prompt: What positive words will you use today? #LessonsWithAKing

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Whenever I write, I try to stop just before some awesome action happens because when I get back, I already know what I'm going to write plus I'm super excited to get back on to continue writing. We should take this approach to everything by making sure when we end a step, it is already propping and prepping us for the next step. It sucks when you stop and you don't even know what your next step is. Prompt: What is the next step towards your goal? #LessonsWithAKing

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If you don't actively make it a thing you won't do, there will be a reason, a condition, a situation under which you will do that thing. One way is to have things you just "don't" do. "Don't" is way more powerful than "can't". So a good practice is to make a list of things you won't do. This makes decision-making super easy because, well, you just don't do that. The end. Prompt: Write your "Forbidden List". #LessonsWithAKing

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If you haven't seen "Dark" on Netflix, you are missing out on a great show. Go check it out as soon as you can, it is amazing. Anyway, this lesson comes from a character in the show. "Expectations lead to disappointment. Have hope, not expectations. You might just be surprised, but not disappointed." - Clausen It's that simple. Prompt: What do you hope for today? #LessonsWithAKing

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Envy is so filthy. We need to make sure we kill envy in our lives and one way we can do that is by craving the things we already own. It isn't easy because as human beings we have crazy needs. However, as with anything, with practice, it gets easy. That thing that's yours is yours sure but learn to crave it and you'll see envy fade. Prompt: What do you crave that you already own? #LessonsWithAKing 

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Love is great but if all you are going to rely on then you can be sure that things will be heading towards the cliff. To keep things alive and healthy, you need more than love. It is important to work at it; over the years, I've learned that communication, acceptance and staying true are key ingredients. Yes, you do need love too. Prompt: Does love need work? Why? #LessonsWithAKing 

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Entitlement will lead to your downfall. Whenever you feel entitled to something, take a step back and analyse it all, reflect on how lucky you are to be at that stage but remind yourself you are not entitled to whatever that thing might be. Sure you can work for it but you should not expect the result you want to always be the case. One more thing, don't expect anything from anyone, work for everything you want. Prompt: How do you handle when you feel entitled? #LessonsWithAKing

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