Let It Be

After Brooke's recent Slow Home Podcast episode with habits queen Gretchen Rubin turned into a quasi-counselling session, the girls thought it was time they took a good look at habits.    Working through Gretchen's Four Tendencies for Habit Change, Kelly and Brooke are, not surprisingly, quite different. Kelly is a strong Upholder (meaning she finds new habits easy to adopt once she's committed) while Brooke leans more towards an Obliger tendency with more than a touch of Rebel (meaning she is far more likely to change a habit or take action if others are relying on her, but only to a point. Once she hits Peak Obliger she's just as likely to throw her hands up and walk away in a burnt-out mess.)     In this episode, Kelly and Brooke talk about their own habits and what tips and hacks have worked for them when changing or introducing a new one.    For today's show notes, head over to http://www.letitbe.fm. You can learn more about Kelly and Brooke and subscribe to the show there too!  

 

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No-one enjoys being rejected. And as Kelly gets ready to publish her second book, she's feeling nervous and very vulnerable to rejection. What if people don't like her book? What if they reject her thoughts and ideas outright?   In this episode Kelly and Brooke take some time to unpack their thoughts on being rejected and why it hurts so much.   They look at the different ways we experience it and the many opportunities for rejection we each face every single day, many thanks to social media. So not only do we need to worry about real-life rejection, but also the digital kind. But is it the same thing? Or can we navigate those issues in different ways?     Brooke and Kelly also look at the different ways they've each learned to both overcome the paralysing fear of rejection, and also how to deal with it when it does happen - both online and in the 'real world'.    Head over to http://www.letitbe.fm to learn more about Kelly and Brooke and subscribe to the show!

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One of the biggest impediments to creating an intentional life is boundaries - or rather, a lack of boundaries. 

When we lack boundaries, or don't take the time to understand them ourselves, we end up compromising on how we live our lives. We say yes to things we don't want to do, we procrastinate and lose time and get frustrated. 

Today Kel and Brooke talk about the idea of boundaries, why they're important, what boundaries they each have in place in their day-to-day lives and which ones they continue to work on. 

They also look at how we can work to create or strengthen boundaries and Kel has a helpful process that walks through the best way to implement them.

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If last week's episode was a free counselling session for Kelly, this week is definitely one for Brooke. In this episode the ladies look closely at our Inner Mean Girl: Why do we have them? Why are they so freaking mean? Why are they inclined to damage and harm and stop us from trying new things, recognising contentment and finding acceptance? And despite her nastiness, does she actually have a role to play?

Brooke talks about her personal experience battling her vicious inner mean girl, and Kelly looks at the different ways she can infiltrate our lives - even for naturally confident people. For example, do you have an Achievement Junkie, a Comparison Queen, a Doing Addict, a Good Girl, a Head Tripper, a Worrywart, an Invincible Super Woman or an Overly Optimistic, Partying Cheerleader running around inside your brain? 

Not content to simply wallow though, Kelly and Brooke walk through the ways they've learnt to co-exist with their Inner Mean Girl, and ways they've learnt to outright defeat her. Kelly even has a special name for hers, which is kind of awesome.    Big shoutouts to both Emily Gordon and Christine Arylo in this episode too.    Head over to http://www.letitbe.fm to learn more about Kelly and Brooke and subscribe to the show!

 

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How do you feel about uncertainty? Do you fight against it, always wanting to be in control? Or do you thrive and relish the fact that you never really know what's going to happen?

Today, Brooke and Kelly dive deep into their thoughts on this and examine what it really means to live with uncertainty. Conversely, they talk about the idea of "being in control" and how it might be an illusion anyway - because, are we ever really in control?   Kelly and Brooke come at this topic from opposite ends of the spectrum and the conversation is super fascinating. It's also kind of a counselling session. So that's cool.   Head over to http://www.letitbe.fm to learn more about Kelly and Brooke and subscribe to the show!

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Why would two non-fans of Oprah dedicate a podcast episode to the Divine Ms O? Because, in spite of what they've always thought, there's a lot of wisdom to be had here.

And Kelly and Brooke are as surprised as anyone about it.

Also, this is the final show in our epic first week and we just wanted to say thank you for tuning in. As of next week we'll be publishing one show every Wednesday so don't forget to head over to http://www.letitbe.fm to learn more about Kelly and Brooke and subscribe to the show!

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Why do we find it so hard to say no?

Brooke and Kelly talk about the struggle to find clarity and how that's lead them both to saying yes to things they never wanted to commit to.

Kelly drops some delicious truth bombs on how and why she stopped feeling bad about saying no as Brooke continues to work on it (it's definitely not something that comes naturally!)

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What does it actually mean to live a successful life? How can we define what that looks like for us when we're bombarded with visions of what a successful life "should" look like.

Both Kelly and Brooke have grappled with the idea of success over the past few years and have come to understand just how personal it is.

In today's episode of Let It Be they talk about what it looks like to live successfully as well as some of the realisations that lead to that understanding.

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Do you believe in karma? What about the idea that one person deserves an outcome more than another?

In today's episode of Let It Be, Brooke and Kelly talk about entitlement and how the idea of 'deserving' impacts them. Specifically, how being entitled can lead to discontentment, resentment and living a life of comparison.

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Have you ever spent time thinking about your legacy?

What is it you want to leave behind? And just as importantly, what do you NOT want to leave behind?

Kelly and Brooke spend today's episode talking about their personal idea of legacy and how thinking about it helps them live a more intentional life. 

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