Let's Dig into That

From trust in relation to self-love to building trust within a group, Jordan and J.T. break down the T-word to better understand what happens when we risk sharing something important, making ourselves vulnerable to someone else's actions. In this episode, discover:

- Are some people more naturally inclined to trust?

- Human disposition toward trust: the duality of trust and fear

- Dr. Brené Brown's Anatomy of Trust on BRAVING connection: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgment, Generosity

- Competence and Integrity: breaches of trust and the inverse diagnostics

- Repairing trust (two-sided decision) versus forgiveness (a choice to let go, move forward)

- Fundamental Attribution Error: a cognitive bias where people tend to overemphasize personality traits and underemphasize situational factors when explaining others' behavior while also attributing their own actions to external circumstances

- Agency and trust: I want to think the best of others

- The importance of psychological safety: opportunity for mistakes to lead to growth

- Counterfeit trust: common enemy intimacy

- Foreclosing on trust and the value of sincerity

“I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.' ... There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ― Maya Angelou

Literary Shout Out: Charles Feltman, The Thin Book of Trust, Third Edition: An Essential Primer for Building Trust at Work (Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2024)

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Sure, we've heard nobody’s perfect, but what if we stopped seeing our flaws as roadblocks and started seeing them as our edge? Jordan and J.T. explore the idea that perceived weaknesses often evolve into strengths. What if we all started feeling flawed and fabulous?

Join Jordan and J.T. as they dig in to discover:

- Why markers and metrics don't tell the whole story

- How recognizing unconventional gifts in young people can have a long-term impact

- When a perceived imperfection propels us forward

- What can we learn from the kids? Be bold, confident, accountable

- Strengths outside the social norm: pushback on unconventional life paths

- ADMIRE OUT LOUD! When we notice courage, problem-solving capabilities, inclusion, bravery, say something! Praise in public.

**If you have a perceived flaw that rocked your world or became your reason, or an experience when imperfection led to greatness, please let us know! Comment on Instagram, Facebook, or email [email protected]

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Love Ninjas, please welcome our SPECIAL GUEST, Jordan's adult bestie: Rachel Steiker, better known as STEIK!

Rachel and Jordan have been through some stuff - some big stuff. From meeting in the dorms as college freshman - Jordan with her DIY perm and Steik sporting an eyebrow ring - to IVF injections in the California desert, twenty-three years is a long time to actively, intentionally, truthfully friend.

J.T. is curious about what makes female friendships such a force: the effort, understanding, and compassion required to evolve alongside a real friend, the seasons of female friendship, and the tough conversations he's convinced most dudes don't have. Is J.T. a teensy jealous of Jordan's Life Wife? Join the conversation to discover:

- Female Friendships: Is there a more steadfast bond?

- Real friends call you on your shit

- What makes a good friend? Maintenance, boundaries, mutual respect, and ...

- Why showing up when it's inconvenient or unnecessary can mean the most

- Accountability: uncomfortable truths and healing

- Friendship through major life events: from alcoholism to motherhood

- Setting an example for the next generation

- Friendship and community: balance, belonging, safety in numbers

- Steik and Jordan's love language: SNACKS...and walks... Ok, planning vacations while walking toward snacks.

About RFS:

Rachel F. Steiker is the Managing Director at codelab303 in Boulder, Colorado. She is a leader in digital production and custom software management. After graduating from the University of Missouri—Columbia with a degree in Journalism, Steiker was brave enough to live with Jordan in their first adult apartment. An avid truth-telling traveler, adventurous advocate, and badass bestie, Steiker now resides with her own non-drinking, tattooed dude and their two brave, beautiful dirt-bike-riding daughters. (Her husband has asked we not mention the cat, Mochi. They're in a whole thing.)

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Big topic. Tiny couch. Change is tricky. From a change in dinner plans to a systemic overhaul, we cannot escape the inevitability of change. Jordan and J.T. want to improve their adaptability skills and, if possible, their emotional reactions. Can we ever adjust to the tension between comfort and growth? Join the conversation to uncover how change might be opportunity playing hard to get.

- Fear, anxiety, your stomach drop out? How a little puke could be a sign of potential

- Create opportunities to tiptoe out of your comfort zone: how intentional discomfort can improve our ability to manage change

- Resistance as an opportunity to reflect: identifying feelings and emotions BECAUSE of their energy

- Self-awareness: why everyone should have a Feelings Wheel

- How to improve our change mindset with practice

- Opportunities to make change work for you rather than against: visualizing scenarios

- Power of the Pause: before we react, use emotional power to take control of our journey with change (they call this adaptability!)

- The FRACTAL theory of change: to change the world, change yourself. Patterns scale upward and downward. The micro reflects the macro; the macro reflects the micro

- Encouraging individual action and agency: Be the change you want to see in the world - Mahatma Gandhi

NOTE on Cassandra Worthy: Jordan mispronounced her name and was compelled to send an apology letter. Enamored with Cassandra's empowering perspective and invaluable insight, join Jordan and J.T. for their NEXT READ:

Cassandra Worthy, Change Enthusiasm: How to Harness the Power of Emotion for Leadership and Success (Hay House Business, 2021)

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The Joneses you idolize, the envy-hungry pursuit you somehow initiated... NEWSFLASH: The Joneses are bunk...rubbish, bollocks. They will always be willing to spend more than you (or at least incur more debt). They'll lie to you on social media with their high-production snapshots, tempting you with admiration. You have turned their perfection into your life's mission. Pause. Take stock. If you measure success by what someone else has, you have an opportunity (nay, a responsibility) to dig into WHY you're chasing their want.

Jordan and J.T. discuss the rewards of evaluating and updating our personal definition of success. Join the conversation to discover:

- Cultural conditioning: measuring success through accomplishment, attainment, or acquiring upward mobility or wealth

- What happens when internalized messages from the outside world are out of line with personal values

- Defining success by your own sense of fulfillment and progress, achieving goals that are personally meaningful to you

- Shifting focus from the outcome: the importance of personal growth through the process

- How do we separate true success from symbols of success?

- Imposter Syndrome: a psychological phenomenon characterized by persistent feelings of self-doubt, inadequacy, and a fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of one's competence

- The power of perspective...and matching skivvies

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How do we stay in the moment, remember to put our phones down, invest in family time while working our tushes off to prepare for the increasingly unpredictable and expensive future, and then pretend we give a flying Ferd about the laundry??

J.T. claims he's the big picture guy, that the dishes can wait because the clock is ticking on the time to create. Jordan wants to live from the big picture perspective, and she will just as soon as the dishes and the laundry are done - dogs walked, thank you notes sent - then she can breathe deep and start to imagine.

Can we stay inspired in lieu of snippy when it comes to adult chores? Who is leading the charge to get shit done? In this episode, discover:

- Value of intentionality: time poverty and the never-ending To Do List

- Division of labor, keeping score, and resentment

- Decision fatigue meets perfectionism = nothing gets done

- The importance of motivating rewards

- Holistic future planning

- Family Meeting vs. Chill Fam Hang: it's never the right time for the tough conversations

- Emotional prep for later life: social and spiritual diversification

- Swedish Death Cleaning: more than decluttering, a permanent form of organization that makes your everyday life run more smoothly (International bestseller written by Margareta Magnusson)

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It's truth-tellin' time!

Jordan and J.T. have set up camp in the land of Exhaustive Honesty. While they sleep well at night, the dangers of telling the truth still lurk in the landscape. In a relationship that began as a makeshift confessional, when does the truth become an emotional liability? Listen to discover:

- Benefits of owning what's real and right for you

- Radical honesty in a relationship: full disclosure, no filter, vulnerability, active listening

- Boundaries and flexible expectations to combat fear and shame

- When honesty is weaponized or crosses into the oversharing of opinions

- How politeness and societal norms can create distance in a relationship

- Politeness trap: avoiding discomfort with passive-aggressive behavior

- The power of I don't know and introspection

- When does politeness mean wearing a mask to maintain a relationship?

Brad Blanton, Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth (Sparrowhawk Publications, 1996)

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If it were a contest, Jordan would win. She's the believer, the Manifestation Maker, a sign-reading aspiration junkie focused on the long game. J.T. sees Jordan's wall of vision boards and has witnessed her savvy work, but he's unsure about magic (...in general) and the freedom to dream without apology. With miracles on the line, listen to discover:

- Hello Universe! Forget about me?

- Negative self-talk as the #1 manifestation obstacle

- Why the courage to dream big is essential

- Comparisons, faith, social media: what it means to operate from a limited belief system

- How do we learn to trust the process?

- Intention, action, and faith: maintaining balance

- What you think about, you bring about...what fires together, wires together...and other brainy clichés

READING LIST:

Dr. James R. Doty MD, Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How it Changes Everything (Avery Publishing Group, 2024)

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J.T. woke up feeling dangerous...using obscenities like midlife and aging, euphemisms for a body slowing down. He wants to dig into the thrill of getting older one month before Jordan's (41st) birthday...Brave soul.

In this episode, Jordan and J.T. explore the connection between the mind and body during midlife-ish. Listen to discover:

- Whether midlife brings more clarity or confusion

- How aging shows up emotionally

- Aging myths Jordan and J.T. are not buying into

- Play, play, play

- Wisdom and the body's general lack of firmness

- Is midlife a phase of continuation or reinvention?

- Shed the Ego: external versus internal validation

- In-house fitness mantra: I do not need to win my workout.

- Don't wait to be nice to your body! Take the compliment - receive the words.

- Your greatest wealth is health. - Virgil, Roman poet

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THANK YOU, Rage Pirates and Love Ninjas! You asked...now Jordan and J.T. are jonesing to answer. From relationship rules and vulnerable risks to unorthodox advice and travel tips...it's not exactly rapid fire. This episode promises to poke your comfort zone and get you thinking about connection.

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