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Over the past few weeks, we’ve been delving into death that is well-recognized and supported by our communities. Now I’d like to spotlight and explore one of the losses that isn’t. 

That’s why I’m happy to be discussing with Chloe Detrick the topic of disenfranchised grief, which, unfortunately, the death of a friend comes under.

Here’s what we talk about:

• Defining disenfranchised grief.
• Chloe’s experience of losing her friend and helping with the memorial. 
• The value of having friends that support you in grief even after a long time. 
• Grief can be selfish. Posting their condolences for attention!
• Comparing someone’s short life with yours.
• Wanting the world to pause when you’re in grief.
• How Chloe was able to let go. 

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
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Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

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How many times have you picked up an old photo with people in it that you have absolutely no idea who they are? Perhaps your parents or close relatives have died. And there’s no one in your family to ask. Thanks to technology, there’s a way – an app, to be exact, to get these answers. Our guest, Darren Evans, tells us about the app After Cloud. 

Here’s what we talk about:

• How Darren got into creating After Cloud. They had no idea who some of the people were in their photo album!
• How does After Cloud work? How can one get around to using this service?
• After Cloud’s social impact on its users. 
• The possibility of “inheriting” trauma through our ancestry
• The relationship of cognitive recall with music.
• The trajectory of After Cloud towards the future. 

About Darren Evans:

Darren formed Dylogic 3 years ago following the lived experience of family bereavement and has since developed a suite of intuitive apps that are ORCHA registered under the After Cloud brand. The portfolio of four apps works across both Adults and Children’s services, Visitor Economy, and B2C landscapes. As a former Army Training Instructor, and having worked in technology since leaving, his expertise lies in innovation, digital transformation, and building effective teams, together with highly developed communication skills and the ability to communicate with enthusiasm, humility, and influence at all levels, creating an inclusive and engaging environment for people to thrive.

• Website: https://www.aftercloud.co.uk/ 
• Timelines: https://www.aftercloud.co.uk/timelines
•  Moments: https://www.aftercloud.co.uk/moments
•  Journals: https://www.aftercloud.co.uk/journals
•  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Myaftercloud
•  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darren-evans-58607415/
•  Twitter: https://twitter.com/aftercloud1/

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annedebutte
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We're going to be discussing death of a spouse and how to cope when your world is turned upside down. Aly Bird, who's lived this experience, realized the importance of support from friends and family after her husband died tragically.

Here's what we talk about:

• Having a relatively positive "outlier experience" as a widow and stepping up for those who aren't getting enough support
• The need for communities to step up for grievers. Consistently be there for them!
• How do you do "perfect" grieving? Grief isn't just sadness, crying, and depression.
• Ways to properly support the person you're trying to help. Listening to them is vital 
• What does "cognitive grieving" mean? What are the other kinds of grieving?

About Aly Bird:

Hi, I’m Aly. I’m a coach, author, therapist-in-training, and a widow. My beloved’s death changed everything about me and my life. So much so, that I had to do something about how we treat the bereaved. So I defined Grief Allyship and wrote a book to teach people how to show up and support their grieving loved ones.

Website: https://alybird.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thealybird
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thealybird

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annedebutte
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/reconnectfromgrief

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Our discussion today is again about sibling loss. We speak with Dr. Jennifer Kaplan as we look at it through her lens, a sister whose brother sadly died during her childhood. Her grief not only shaped her life, but it would also lead her into the field of social work and bereavement services.  As part of her doctoral thesis, she developed the Inventory of Youth Adaptation to Loss (IYAL), a strength-based outcome instrument, through her partnerships with dozens of children’s bereavement programs nationwide and in Canada.

Here’s what we talk about:

• Your grief doesn’t define you.
• The value that support groups provides for those who are grieving. They help normalize people with shared losses who are on the same journey.
• The ripple effects of an unexpected death. Do children really not grieve?
• Someone who’s passed can still be a significant part of our lives today. 
• The need for grief support in various aspects and levels of society. 

About Dr. Jennifer:

Jenny was awarded the second annual Excellence in Service Award at the 2018 Symposium for the National Alliance for Children’s Grief for her contributions to the field in both practice and research. She is the Founding Director of Jeff’s Place, FRIENDS WAY in Rhode Island, and the Founding Clinical Director of Experience Camps. Jenny has worked extensively with bereaved children, teens, and families in various settings over the past 25 years providing counseling, professional training and education, and crisis response. 

Jenny’s publications include You Are Not Alone: Young Adults Coping with Death, book chapters, and peer-reviewed journal articles. She is a graduate of Simmons College School of Social Work, where she has taught as an adjunct faculty member. Jenny developed the Inventory of Youth Adaptation to Loss (IYAL), a strength-based outcome instrument, through her partnerships with dozens of children’s bereavement programs around the country and Canada. Jeff’s Place is proud to be the lead organization for a two-year national research study to inform program development and implementation, policy development, and standards of prevention and care for youth experiencing traumatic loss.

• Website: https://jeffsplace.org/research/ | https://jeffsplace.org/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JeffsPlaceMetrowest/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeffsplacemetrowest/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeffsplace

Get Dr. Jennifer’s book, You Are Not Alone – Young Adults Coping with Death, here! (100% of sales go to Jeff’s Place) https://jeffsplace.org/books/ 

TEDx Talk – Creating Healing: Connection & Vulnerability Dr. Jennifer Kaplan

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
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Grief doesn’t always have to be directly related to death. In this episode, we speak with Stacy Francis. Why are so many women not engaged with money? It’s 2023 – it’s time for women to make financial decisions independently. 80% of women will end up alone the stats show us. Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• A piece of history that contributes to the reason why many women are giving their power away when it comes to money. 
• Reasons WHY women need to have an understanding of money. Make it work for you!
• Facing the reality of financial abuse. What is it? What kinds of help are out there to deal with it?
• Developing the right mindset and system for setting yourself up financially. 
• The complexities between widowhood and finances. 

About Stacy Francis:

Stacy Francis is the President and CEO of Francis Financial: a fee-only, boutique, wealth management and financial planning firm dedicated to improving women’s lives through financial and personal empowerment. The firm provides ongoing comprehensive advice for individuals and couples and specializes in helping widows and divorcing or divorced women. Stacy is also the founder of the non-profit, Savvy LadiesTM which helps and provides resources to all women. 

Stacy is a Certified Financial PlannerTM (CFP®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® and Certified Estate and Trust Specialist (CESTM) with over 20 years of experience in the financial industry. She is the host of the Financially Ever After podcast, and the author of Financial Help for Widows: A Complete Resource Guide as well as Unveiling the Unspoken Truth: The Financial Challenges Women Face During and After Divorce.

She is a nationally recognized financial expert being one of twenty of the nation’s leading wealth managers on CNBC’s Digital Financial Advisor Council, a member of the Forbes Finance Council, as well as an expert contributor for The Wall Street Journal. She has appeared in hundreds of media outlets and has received numerous industry awards, among them, Forbes Top Women Wealth Advisors, Investopedia’s 100 Top Wealth Advisors, Investment News Top 20 Women to Watch in the United States and Financial Planning Magazine's Pro Bono Award.

•  Website: http://www.francisfinancial.com | https://www.savvyladies.org/ 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/FrancisFinance 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/francisfinancial 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/francisfinancialinc/ | https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacyfrancis/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FrancisFinancialInc/ |

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

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In this episode, we speak with Tara Storch. She shares how their daughter’s passing has changed her life’s trajectory in a significant way. From the five lives that her daughter saved through organ donation, Tara has taken that inspiration to start the national foundation, with her husband Todd. Taylor’s Gift is to create more awareness and help more people, and also to be there for donor families in their grief. 
Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• Have you ever thought about organ donation?
• Outliving yourself by saving other people through organ donation. 
• Experiencing grief and gratitude at the same time.
• The lack of dedicated grief support for donors.
• How the “rock” of the family feels during times of grief. 

About Taylor’s Gift Foundation:

Taylor’s Gift Foundation is a nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization that helps donor families receive the emotional support they need. Founded in 2010, Taylor’s Gift has a long-standing purpose of helping individuals and families walk their path of grief.

• Website: https://www.taylorsgift.org
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TAYLORSGIFTFOUNDATION/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taylorsgift/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/taylorsgift
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/taylorsgift

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

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In this episode, we speak with Colin Campbell. He shares what he learned about grief after a drunk driver killed both of his children in a tragic car accident. He discusses the importance of doing something bigger than yourself and how to properly support someone who is grieving. Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• Finding meaning and purpose after a devastating loss
• Ways of maintaining support as we grieve
• How to integrate grief into your life
• Rituals to deal with grief
• The significance of the one-man show
• The importance of doing something that makes you feel useful
• Why you should never say, “there are no words”, to those who are grieving
• And much more!

About Colin Campbell:

COLIN CAMPBELL is a writer and director for theater and film. The short film he wrote and directed with his beautiful and talented wife, Seraglio, was nominated for an Academy Award. Campbell teaches screenwriting at Chapman University and theater at California State Polytechnic University, Pomona. He has a BA from the University of Pennsylvania and an MFA from Columbia University. He is currently developing a solo performance piece titled Grief: A One Man Shit-Show. Finding the Words: Working Through Profound Loss with Hope and Purpose is his first book.            

Here are his social media links:

• Website: https://colincampbellauthor.com/colin/
• Website: https://colincampbellauthor.com/finding-the-words/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colincampbellwriter/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/colin.campbell.7796420
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/griefaonemanshitshow/

Gail’s book:

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/688102/the-big-dreams-of-small-creatures-by-gail-lerner/

https://gaillerner.com/

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
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In this episode, we speak with Robert Pardi. He shares how he became his wife’s shield during her cancer journey, the realizations and lessons he gained from writing his first book, and how we can use grief and love to reimagine life. Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• What prompted Robert to write his first book, "Chasing Life," and what it's all about?
• Learning the power and sustainability of love vs. anger
• Why you should find hope in the moment instead of the future; living in the present
• Moving from the fear of failure to the excitement of the possibility
• Seeing things from a child’s eyes        
• Giving yourself permission to laugh and permission to grieve

About Robert Pardi:

Robert Pardi is not your typical coach - he's one of those rare individuals who embrace change and live by a philosophy he calls "Possibility in Action™." After experiencing the devastating loss of his young wife to metastatic breast cancer, Robert reimagined his life and left the world of finance to share the many lessons he learned throughout his life's journey.

Robert's personal journey has included intentionally crafting the next chapter of his life by dismantling limiting beliefs, interrupting habitual thinking, understanding the story he wanted to look back on, and realizing that taking chances is where all our power lies. He knows firsthand how overwhelming it can be to face adversity and uncertainty, but he also knows the power of taking small steps toward big goals.

As a three-time author, well-known international keynote speaker, transformational life coach, retreat leader, and adjunct professor, Robert is committed to helping people live their best lives. His approachable and empathetic coaching style helps clients unlock their potential and achieve their dreams.

Beyond traditional coaching, Robert provides an array of interesting personal growth experiences, including personal growth retreats in Italy, workshops, and a unique Grow from Grief Group Coaching program. He believes that personal growth is a lifelong journey and that we all have the potential to create the life we truly want.

You can read more about Robert and his work at www.robertpardi.com. With his inspiring story and commitment to helping others, Robert is someone you'll want to have in your corner as you navigate life's ups and downs. Working with him will turn possibility into action and create a fulfilling life.

Here are his social media links:

Website: https://www.robertpardi.com/possibility-in-action-by-robert-pardi
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robert.pardi.possibilityinactionexperiences
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robert.pardi/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

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 In this episode, we speak with Ani Naqvi, a survivor of the 2004 tsunami, which has undoubtedly affected thousands of lives. We’ll be exploring how she navigated through this event (and all the changes it brought to her life) to become a better person for herself and others.  Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• Life is not just getting a job, getting married, having kids, then dying!
• Ani’s recounting of the events of the 2004 tsunami. “I just didn’t want to die.”
• Her recovery process from the shock of the traumatic event. She even got into an Oprah Winfrey interview!
• Having a significant turning point in life after four near-death experiences. 

 For all of us in this world, certain life events force us to change - sometimes for the worse, but sometimes for the better.

About Ani Naqvi:

Ani is the founder and CEO of Ultimate Results Group. She’s also a tsunami survivor and a former BBC Broadcast Journalist.

Through years of dedicated professional learning including qualifications in Mindfulness/Meditation, Positive Intelligence, Mental Fitness, Breathwork/Ayurveda/NLP, EFT, Hypnotherapy, Coaching and focused effort, Ani has founded a consulting company and become a successful, healthy, happy, calm, centred, but no-BS, globe-trotting entrepreneur, transformation expert, guide, sparring partner, consultant, mentor, and author.

Here are her social media links:

Website: https://ultimateresultsgroup.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ani-naqvi-transformation-expert-for-high-achievers-6427448/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ani.naqvi.7 

Connect with me!

Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

LinkedIn: https://www.understandinggrief.com 

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

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In this episode, we speak with AJ Coleman. He shares how he navigated experiencing hearing loss, job loss, crippling anxiety, and widowhood. Stay tuned!

Here’s what we talk about:

• Fighting through a spiral of chaos of raising a newborn, moving, finding a job, and dealing with his wife’s cancer
• Picking up the pieces and coping with his wife’s passing - “Every day is a good day, no matter the circumstances.”
• Going through the odd experiences of being a single father
• Being a better person by having a men’s support group
• AJ’s experience with his blog that eventually developed into a book 

About AJ Coleman:

AJ Coleman holds several titles, including widower and single father. He’s also overcome a hearing impairment, job loss, and crippling anxiety. Through it all, AJ learned to channel these setbacks mentally and emotionally, finding the new inner strength to reach higher limits. He has embraced, accepted, and grown from his past through self-discovery.

Now, what began as a blog to share his experiences and perspectives has turned into his true passion for helping others also conquer life’s challenges with practical guidance and resources. Despite his obstacles, AJ has a very positive outlook on life. He reminds himself daily of how far he’s come and always remembers to be thankful for each opportunity.

A certified anti-money laundering specialist (CAMS) and fraud examiner (CFE), AJ earned his bachelor of science from the University of Florida and MBA from the University of Arizona. 

AJ lives in Illinois with his wife, Tracy, and daughter, Zoey. His late wife and Zoey’s mother, Cory, lost her battle with brain cancer at 33. In addition to being a devoted father, AJ loves to travel and learn languages and is an avid Florida Gator football fan.

Here are his social media links:

Website: https://keepthosefeetmoving.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/keepthosefeetmoving
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keepthosefeetmoving/

Connect with me!

Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

LinkedIn: https://www.understandinggrief.com 

You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me

To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.com
Connect with me:

Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annedebutte
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/reconnectfromgrief