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Vincent Van den Broeck is a Brussels-based entrepreneur, restaurateur, and survivor of a near-fatal car accident that changed his life forever. On October 11th, 2024, he was struck whilst riding a scooter in a collision at 55 km/h in a 30 zone. The impact left him with multiple fractures and major brain trauma. Doctors gave little hope with most injuries of this severity having only a 10% survival rate.

He spent weeks in a coma and three months in intensive rehabilitation, but recovery didn’t stop there — it became a daily mission. Against all odds, he not only regained his strength but came back stronger than before: working out 7 times a week, running a business, and building new creative projects.

Today, Vincent shares his story as living proof that resilience, mindset, and community can make the impossible possible.

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Vincent Van den Broeck spent his early 30s building hospitality businesses, working 300 to 400 hours a month, telling himself the same thing most high performers tell themselves, “one day I’ll slow down. one day i’ll spend more weekends with family. one day i’ll actually enjoy what i’ve built.” on the 11th of October 2024 he was hit while riding an e-scooter. three weeks in a coma. less than one percent chance of survival. his wife was told to start preparing the funeral. he came home and then had to learn to walk again, speak again, hold a knife and fork again. in this conversation we get into what was really driving all that building, what his wife and family lived through while he was unconscious, why he believes resilience is a muscle you train long before you need it, and how his definition of success changed completely. honest, direct and full of fire. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 the promise he made before everything changed

01:28 what drove all that building

02:54 where the “one day” mentality comes from

04:20 why some industries call this normal and others call it madness

05:46 losing his mum young and bankruptcy

08:21 the job that built his entire life

10:15 working 300 to 400 hours a month

11:30 what success meant to him before the accident

11:55 three questions to ask at the end of every day

13:34 the last morning, the last conversation and walking back to say it properly

14:50 three weeks unconscious and what his wife actually lived through

16:59 belief vs conviction (and why the difference matters)

19:52 relearning how to walk, speak and hold a knife and fork

21:01 a thousand problems when you’re healthy, one when you’re not

22:07 learning to talk louder than the voice in your head

26:22 why resilience is built long before catastrophe arrives

28:39 the trade-off nobody wants to hear

31:20 adapt your situation to your dreams, not your dreams to your situation

34:53 how ambition and non-negotiables changed after the accident

38:11 being the same person whether anyone is watching or not

39:49 what liberation means to Vincent

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someone comes across your feed expressing themselves with complete confidence and something in you tightens. someone announces a big win and instead of feeling happy for them you feel a flash of something sharp. someone expresses emotion freely and you find yourself pulling back. every one of those reactions is pointing at something in you. Carl Jung called it projection and i believe it's the single most practical tool in all of shadow work, because your shadow is invisible to you by definition. you can't see what you've pushed out of awareness. you can see your reactions to other people. in this episode i share the four triggers that have shaped my own journey, the three types of projection and why they need completely different responses, and exactly where this framework stops being useful (because there's a real risk here nobody talks about). enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

01:24 the reactions that point back at you

03:41 my 4 biggest triggers

06:41 what the irritation actually iss

07:54 why cutting people down is socially rewarded here

09:50 the part of me i exiled

11:54 wanting to help people who never asked

13:04 why shadow work never ends

15:21 the virtual reality headset we're all wearing

16:19 disowned trait projection

17:07 why envy is disguised as moral judgment

18:04 why the body reacts before the mind

19:49 where this framework stops being useful

21:46 the risk of spiritual bypassing

22:42 practice one: the trigger audit

23:40 practice two: the turnaround

25:02 practice three: the envy inventory

25:57 practice four: the somatic check

26:56 what changes when you reclaim the trait

28:22 why the shadow reorganising is a sign of depth

references and thought leaders mentioned

Carl Jung — everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. The shadow as a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality.

Byron Katie — The Work and the turnaround. Taking the judgment and turning it back on yourself. → www.thework.com

Richard Schwartz — developer of IFS. The part of you that reacted is protecting something. You can thank it and still set the boundary. → www.ifs-institute.com

Peter Crone — you will continue to attract people, circumstances and situations to reveal where you are still not free. → www.petercrone.com

Ram Dass — if you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family.

Anaïs Nin — we don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.

Tall poppy syndrome — my LinkedIn post

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Helen von Dadelszen helps smart, thoughtful professionals get their brilliant ideas out of their heads and into the world with clarity, confidence and impact. She believes that confidence is built through action, not something we need to wait for before we speak, and that everyone has a unique way of communicating that can be strengthened, shaped and shared.

As a communication and vocal coach, Helen supports people who are doing valuable work but need help expressing their message in a way that feels authentic to them and clear, compelling and useful to their audience.

Helen is the founder of Present Potential Sàrl, where she provides practical training and coaching in public speaking, presentation skills, vocal presence and confident communication. She works with individuals, teams and organisations across technical, scientific, academic and humanitarian fields, helping them communicate complex, important ideas with greater clarity, authenticity and persuasive power.

She is also the author of Courageous Action: Your Playbook for Communicating Confidently, One Small Step at a Time, a hands-on guide designed to help people grow their communication confidence through practical, achievable steps.

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Present Potential: https://academy.presentpotential.ch/ 

Helen’s book - Courageous Action: https://courageousaction.ch/ 

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there's a version of you that knows exactly what you want to say. you've done the thinking, you have the ideas, you have the expertise and then the moment arrives and something happens. your voice tightens and the words come out differently than they did in your head. you second-guess, you shrink and afterwards you think: that wasn't me. Helen von Dadelszen has built her entire practice around that gap. she's a communication and vocal coach, founder of Present Potential in Switzerland and author of Courageous Action. her whole philosophy runs against what most of us were taught: you don't wait to feel confident before you act. confidence is built through the action itself. in this conversation we get into what's actually happening in your nervous system under pressure, why your body's signals are being misinterpreted, how your voice and identity shape the way people receive you and what improv taught her about trusting herself. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 the gap between what you know and how you show up

02:53 what revealed her life's work

05:53 why brilliant experts are never taught to communicate their ideas

07:33 what actually happens in the body under pressure

09:41 how do we interpret the signals?

11:50 the reframe that changes everything

14:41 why waiting to feel confident is one of the costliest traps there is

16:14 the confidence loop

18:14 practical first steps before a big presentation

21:43 identity as the foundation of communication

24:41 what your body and voice are saying before your words land

27:36 how a confident voice actually works

32:13 what improv taught her about trusting herself

36:27 abandoning yourself in conversation and how to come back

39:19 what do i want them to think, feel or do?

41:35 what being liberated means to Helen

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content warning: this episode includes discussion of suicide. please take care while listening and pause any time you need.

this week is a little different. i was a guest on someone else's show and the conversation went somewhere i wasn't expecting, so i'm sharing it here. we get into the moment at 18 when my parents divorced and i watched my father go through an immense psychological battle while i was falling apart myself, with no tools, no permission and no siblings to process any of it with. what happened when i finally opened up to him changed the trajectory of my entire life. we also get into building linkmate from a place of fear rather than love, why eight years of therapy gave me awareness without healing, what shame actually does to high performers and where all of this is heading next. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 melbourne and 3 words to describe myself

01:53 my parents' divorce and my father's battle

03:27 romania, discrimination and the attempt on his life

04:29 the belief that shaped everything after

06:02 turning pain into creative expression and why that process heals

07:46 building linkmate and taking an emotional support app to market

09:00 fear as fuel vs. love as fuel (and what happens when you build from shame)

10:40 why i work with high-performing men (and the statistic that drives it)

11:12 8 years of therapy (and the core wound it never touched)

13:52 where time freedom comes from

16:01 the elevator pitch

16:37 where this is heading

20:01 the hardest business lesson i've learned

21:48 the biggest obstacle in front of me right now

some takeaways

• opening up first can give the other person permission to do the same. my father had carried his story alone for decades until i went first

• transmuting pain into creative expression is one of the most cathartic things a person can do. it makes sure the pain wasn't for nothing

• you can build real things from fear and insecurity. it works until it catches up with you

• awareness and healing are two different things. eight years of therapy gave me a complete map of my patterns and never touched the shame underneath them

• shame is the core wound i see most in the men i work with. the sense of not being enough in whatever form it takes

• time freedom is downstream of nervous system regulation. when you're in survival mode the prefrontal cortex goes offline and everything takes longer

• nothing is wasted. every role, every setback, every difficult partnership has been part of building the discernment i needed

• we heal best in relationship to others, in person. there is only so far an online workshop can take you

• generational curse breakers are the people willing to say this ends with me

mental health support resources

if anything in this episode brought something up for you, please reach out. lifeline australia 13 11 14, beyond blue 1300 22 4636, or your local crisis line.

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Fletcher Nugent is a Soul Guide dedicated to helping others reconnect with the power of their own soul. A qualified Yoga Teacher, Breathwork Facilitator, and Spiritual Healer, his work is grounded in lived experience and a deep realisation that true, lasting transformation comes from reconnecting with who they truly are. Today, he guides people back to their innate purpose by offering practical wisdom, techniques, and knowledge to reconnect with the deeper intelligence within.

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in his early 20s, Fletcher Nugent was a competitive athlete. football, the gym, a physically demanding job and an identity built almost entirely around his body. then a debilitating illness took all of it in about 10 days. he lost over 10kg, spent most of every day in bed and started doing a 30-day yoga series on youtube just to feel some sense of autonomy. what began as stretching became the doorway to everything he does now. in this conversation we go further than I've gone with any guest so far. we get into how the body stores tension and memory, the ancestral patterns we inherit without knowing, what actually happens in the nervous system during transformative breathwork, and what the soul is in a way that stays grounded and practical. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 from competitive athlete to bedbound in 10 days

07:25 what it takes to release trauma from the body

18:50 abandonment wound passed from grandfather to father to son

24:45 breathwork as the key to unlock tension

27:06 why most of us breathe from our shoulders

30:40 going beyond the thinking mind

34:51 what is the soul?

40:50 practical ways to connect to your soul

45:37 why so many high achievers feel empty despite everything they've built

55:13 what liberation means to Fletcher

show notes — references and teachings mentioned

Bessel van der Kolk — author of The Body Keeps the Score. The body stores the imprints of unprocessed experience. → www.besselvanderkolk.com

Lao Tzu — Tao Te Ching. The Tao that can be expressed in words is not the true Tao. The soul sits beyond what the thinking mind can grasp.

Patanjali — Yoga Sutras. The first sutra, "now, yoga," points to liberation as something available in the present moment.

Dr Zhi Gang Sha — teacher of the Ten Da, the ten greatest qualities, including love, compassion, forgiveness, humility and gratitude as pathways to connect with the soul.

The yogic concepts of prana, Brahman and Atman — life force, source and the individual soul as a unique expression of that source.

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there's a version of you that you show people… and then there's the version underneath it: the one that stays behind the door because somewhere along the way you learned it wasn't welcome. for me that part was my sensitivity. i feel things intensely, i think about things intensely and i've always been drawn to the deeper conversations about psychology, consciousness and what's actually driving people beneath the surface. for most of my life i hid all of it. i armoured up and ran the classic masculine playbook because nobody around me was talking about any of this. in this episode i get into Carl Jung and what "the shadow" actually means beneath the jargon, Dr Elaine Aron's research on the highly sensitive person, what it costs you to keep hiding, and the golden shadow (the part almost nobody talks about). this is the first episode of a new season. we're going into the shadow. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

01:24 the mask we wear and the version underneath it

04:48 the life i was living twice over

07:54 surrounded by people you can't be yourself with

10:38 finding the people i could finally go deep with

12:54 what the shadow actually is

16:33 the “highly sensitive person”

21:23 how to identify your shadow

24:54 the real cost of hiding parts of yourself

28:21 the golden shadow

32:24 practical steps to begin (without forcing anything open)

34:37 the invitation

show notes — research references and thought leaders

Carl Jung — originator of the shadow and persona. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

Dr Elaine Aron — researcher who identified the highly sensitive person. Roughly 15 to 20 percent of the population, characterised by DOES — depth of processing, overstimulation, emotional reactivity and empathy, and sensing the subtle. Her documentary Sensitive: The Untold Story features Alanis Morissette. → www.hsperson.com

Robert Bly — author of A Little Book on the Human Shadow. The long bag we drag behind us — the child puts everything unacceptable in the bag and spends the second half of life retrieving it.

Gabor Maté — the trade between authenticity and attachment. A child chooses attachment every time and the adult pays for it. → www.drgabormate.com

Richard Schwartz — developer of IFS, author of No Bad Parts. Every exiled part was protecting you for a good reason at the time. Approach it with curiosity rather than judgment. → www.ifs-institute.com

James Pennebaker — research on expressive disclosure. People who write honestly about what they've been concealing show measurable improvements in immune function and physical health.

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Dr. Nikhil Sharma is a physician, wellness leader, and social impact entrepreneur who serves as the CEO and Founder of AlignUs and The Aligned Foundation. With over 14 years of experience practicing medicine across the New Orleans region, Dr. Sharma’s clinical background has focused largely on liver failure, including alcohol-related liver disease and fatty liver disease—conditions that revealed to him the profound connection between mental health, behavior, and long-term physical illness.

Through years within the traditional healthcare system, Dr. Sharma came to recognize that many chronic conditions and life-limiting patterns are rooted in stress, emotional dysregulation, lack of community, and unresolved trauma. This insight shaped his commitment to a more integrative, preventative approach to health—one that prioritizes nervous system regulation, mental resilience, and sustainable lifestyle practices.

Dr. Sharma’s work centers on helping individuals move beyond symptom management toward true well-being by addressing the deeper drivers of health. His mission is to empower people to reconnect with their bodies, minds, and purpose so they can live healthier, more aligned, and more fulfilling lives.

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Dr Nikhil Sharma became a physician because that was the only path he was ever shown. only child of Indian immigrant parents, told from his earliest memory that his life would be medicine and that everything he wanted — love, worth, belonging — sat on the other side of that achievement. he made it: Chief Medical Resident, finalist for physician of the year... and then his mother was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and died two months later. what followed was a spiral of escapism, opioids, gambling, codependency, working 42 days in a row to avoid grieving, and eventually a complete collapse that led to rehab. in this conversation Nik shares all of it — with a raw honesty that will stay with you. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 why becoming a doctor was never really a choice

02:26 people pleasing as a survival tactic

05:16 the CAT scan that changed everything

07:38 two weeks of bereavement and back to work (42 days in a row)

10:12 what unprocessed grief actually did to his body, focus and relationships

12:25 losing mum and dad’s depression (at 30 years old)

14:51 the ADHD misdiagnosis

17:28 why the ego will let you walk the tightrope for years

20:01 the crash, surrender and choosing rehab

26:37 6 weeks of solitude

30:10 why we are distracted every second of every day 

33:48 the computer that never got a system update

39:04 the vision behind AlignUs and the Aligned Foundation

43:48 what alignment and liberation means to Nik

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last episode i talked about the gap between being better and being free… and pointed at something i didn't fully open. freedom is relational: you can do all the inner work and still be surrounded by people who only know the old version of you. this episode goes through that door properly. i get into where the conditioning to carry everything alone actually comes from, what it costs you physiologically and relationally and why your nervous system genuinely cannot regulate itself in isolation. i share my own story of being raised on put up, shut up and get on with it, my Romanian conditioning and why to this day there are conversations i still can't have with my parents. and if you've been circling this work for months or years without stepping in, this one speaks directly to that hesitation. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

01:24 freedom is relational 

04:54 where i learned to carry it alone

08:24 surrogating other people's pain

10:54 building a second family

13:24 the migrant experience

15:54 the masculine script

18:24 why a child chooses disconnection from self

20:24 why you feel like a freak for going deeper

23:24 the mortality risk of isolation

26:24 “i don't want to be a burden”

30:24 what becomes possible when you stop carrying it alone

32:54 practical steps and the invitation

show notes — research references and thought leaders

Terrence Real — author of I Don't Want to Talk About It. Boys are socialised from early childhood to disconnect from their inner emotional world. Vulnerability is coded as unsafe and self-sufficiency as identity.

Gabor Maté — the child who learns that expressing needs threatens connection will choose disconnection from self over disconnection from the caregiver, every time. → www.drgabormate.com

Stephen Porges — developer of Polyvagal Theory. Co-regulation is a biological necessity. The nervous system is designed to regulate in the presence of other regulated nervous systems. → www.stephenporges.com

Julianne Holt-Lunstad — meta-analysis on social connection and mortality. Lack of social connection carries a mortality risk comparable to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day and greater than obesity or physical inactivity.

Amy Edmondson — Harvard research on psychological safety. People only speak honestly when they have clear evidence that doing so won't cost them. → www.amycedmondson.com

Bessel van der Kolk — author of The Body Keeps the Score. Trauma resolves in relationship. Solo practices produce insight without lasting change because the missing ingredient is being witnessed. → www.besselvanderkolk.com

Brené Brown — vulnerability is the most accurate measure of courage available to us. → www.brenebrown.com

David Bayer — this isn't a do-it-yourself project. It's a group project. You do it with others. → www.davidbayer.com

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Martha Kastler is a Havening Techniques® practitioner, Hanna Somatics educator, and breathwork guide whose work is rooted in the belief that healing unfolds when we slow down enough to listen. Inspired by nature and the body's innate wisdom, she creates compassionate spaces where movement and stillness come together, allowing deeper awareness, resilience, and authentic transformation to emerge.

Through Havening, Hanna Somatics, and breathwork, Martha helps people reconnect with themselves, release what no longer serves them, and discover a greater sense of ease, freedom, and wholeness.

Learn more at MarthaKastler.com

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Martha Kastler has been doing this work since 2009. she trained first as a yoga teacher and has spent the years since weaving together Hanna Somatics, Havening, Ayurveda, restorative breathwork and somatic education into something that meets people exactly where they are. in this episode we do things a little differently. we talk about how the body holds what the mind cannot process, why energy is not woo-woo but physiology, why healing in relationship is different to healing alone and then we actually stop talking and do it. a live havening practice and a grounding sequence, right here in the episode. bring a blanket, find somewhere you can lie down and enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 why Martha has worked with so many different modalities

02:24 what she discovered that talk alone couldn't reach

05:09 why dismissing this as woo-woo misses something real

07:30 where conventional healing approaches hit their ceiling and why

10:15 the science beneath the spiritual language

12:45 why healing in relationship changes what's possible compared to healing alone

15:16 how the body processes trauma when given the right conditions

17:49 what it actually looks like to begin listening to your body

20:35 why we were never meant to do this alone

23:04 what havening is and how it works

25:55 a live guided havening practice

32:01 coming back into the body after the practice

36:25 what gets in the way of receiving healing

39:24 what happens in the body when havening lands

44:32 common misconceptions about healing

48:36 what liberation means to Martha

some takeaways

• the body holds what the mind cannot fully process. the work is learning to create the conditions of enough safety and slowness that it can begin to speak

• what we call chakras or energy centres map onto real anatomical and neurological systems — the dismissal of this language often dismisses the reality beneath it

• conventional approaches hit a ceiling because they address the content of experience without addressing the physical residue of it stored in the body

• the presence of a regulated nervous system helps regulate yours in ways that solitary practice cannot replicate

• havening works by depotentiating the electrochemical encoding of stored emotional material without requiring you to relive it

• self-judgment is one of the most common barriers to receiving healing. the body cannot open when it is being criticised

• healing is not a destination. it is a returning — to the body, to safety, to yourself

• liberation is personal agency.

  
  

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you've done the work. the therapy, the breathwork, the meditation, the retreats. and you're better.. you know you're better. the anxiety has softened, the reactivity has come down and yet something still doesn't feel quite free. maybe it’s a ceiling you keep bumping into. in this episode i get into that gap (the one between being better and being free) and why it's the most confusing and least talked about place in the entire healing journey. i share my own experience of flying to bali for my eat pray love moment at a breathwork and meditation retreat during one of the hardest periods of my life, having a profound somatic release and still coming home feeling like something hadn't shifted. this one goes to the root. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

01:24 the gap between being better and being free

03:54 my eat pray love moment

06:54 why healing moments alone aren't enough

09:54 the identity ceiling

12:54 who are you spending time with?

15:54 the belief that ease is something only other people get to have

18:24 what genuine freedom actually feels like and how to close the gap

show notes — research references and thought leaders

Bruce Lipton — author of The Biology of Belief. The environment is constantly signalling the nervous system. Internal shifts must be matched by changes in environment, relationship, and daily practice to hold. → www.brucelipton.com

Dan Siegel — author of Mindsight. The self is a process, not a fixed thing. Identity can be updated with intention, repetition, and the right neurological conditions. → www.drdansiegel.com

Stephen Porges — developer of Polyvagal Theory. The nervous system co-regulates. The people you spend the most time with are either regulating your nervous system upward or pulling it back toward the familiar. → www.stephenporges.com

Maxwell Maltz — author of Psycho-Cybernetics. The internal self-image sets the ceiling on everything. Without updating the image, behaviour reverts.

Bob Proctor — referenced for the concept of the identity as the strongest force in the personality — the thermostat that keeps recreating the same results regardless of external change.

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