Liberation

People believe in good thoughts, thoughts to create, build & grow. There are also thoughts that come that destroy, deplete, and shrink us. The voices of Suicide don't discriminate. This episode will talk about my experience with suicide throughout my life and also how I was able to talk to my then 8 year old step-daughter to find out she was struggling with suicidal thoughts too. When we do our own work of healing, not only can we better see ourselves but we can then better see those littles or not so littles in our lives too.

An episode dedicated to my fellow moms. The moms who dont enjoy motherhood at times and would never say it. The moms who want to take time for themselves but feel so much guilt and shame that they just don't know how to ask for what they need. The credentials for being a "good mom" doesn't have to match what everyone else says or how other moms do it. Your needs matter too.

Adam and I came into a relationship knowing that we would still be healing layers from our previous experiences that may get triggered in a relationship dynamic. We each knew we could heal individually while also healing being in a relationship we just didnt quite know the formula yet. How do we hold space for our companion while they are healing? We had to go from back and forth NOT getting it and battling it out ....fast forward to now to where we have this freedom, this gift of agency and ability to tell each other all of it recognizing what is ours and what is not. We are able to love and hold space while the other may be triggered which allows us to just settle into this space of healing and forward momentum. This has been the key...holding space for growth not demanding perfection. Once we figured out how to do that it all changed.

I used this coping mechanism for quite some time.
The art and destruction of PEOPLE PLEASING.

Why do some seemingly know how to move on and others.....stay stuck? I've been in both situations. Lets talk about it.

"This is our second marriage, how do we manage the triggers?" " But I was told we have to heal on our own?" " The past is messing with us can we heal together?" Past trauma can really throw some fun curveballs into present relationships huh? This is how we have figured out how to work with it to heal together. It takes three parts of the relationship. You. Me. Us.

When your "demons" or "thorns in your side" come to play. We all have our days where something just triggers us or gets us down. Maybe we have an addiction to something. Maybe we cant get out of our heads. Maybe we are angry for no reason.
How do you get through it when they come knocking and mess with your peace? I am no expert but I can tell you ive said more than I like to admit "I thought I already worked through this" or "why does this keep showing up?". I dont have some secret serum but I can share with you a couple things that simply helped me in my perspective and how my "demons" have become less burdensome. I will be doing another podcast about this soon as Adam has some amazing insight on this as well. We are all fighting internal struggles. Its ok to just be plain tired of them all. Lets just be human together for a few moments.

We are diving into relationships after heartbreak. We've all heard it, "he/she's got baggage". Its become a negative stigma that is worth re-evaluating. We dive into this along with another type of baggage we carry and throw at other people. Whether you're dating or married check this episode out where we also throw around tips to staying on the same team.

Is a red flag really a red flag? Or have we gone “red flag” happy? What narratives are we buying? What are insecurities? Why are they considered a weakness or reason to dismiss someone? Learn how to go beyond insecurities, to see the heart, to be vulnerable. Adam and I dive into how we transformed our insecurities into something that brought us closer together instead of farther apart. We talk about what it took for us to understand ourselves after our break up to be able to come home to ourselves and to eachother.

If you havent already listened to one of my first podcasts: divorce from a 13 year old's perspective scroll back and give it a listen. Today my 11 year old wanted to get on and share a few things about how he has worked through divorce. He has tourette syndrome. He speaks a bit about how he has handled that and also what he has seen and done to help himself through hard feelings. Kids see and feel way more than what you think they do. I remember knowing far too much as a young child with my own parents divorcing twice as well. I let Hunter be as open as he wanted to be. He gives thoughts on what parents can do for kids and what kids can do too going through parents divorce.