Liberation

Matt is a father, entrepreneur, life coach, (friend from grade school), and has learned his fair share from his own experiences in life including that of divorce. He had one day realized he wasnt in the right place, dissolved the marriage, the business and recreated his life. We talk about what creating safe space is within your relationships so you can create a deep and connected relationship. We talk about taking ownership of your life, about taking care of yourself so you can give to others, we talk about showing up authentically. Do you really have to wait a long time before dating? This is an awesome episode you wont want to miss as Matt gives incredible insight from his mind and heart!

Sometimes we forget that it takes some homework and a set up to have the hard talks with the people we love. This time I talk about and share some different perspectives on what we can do to get ready to have those hard talks with our significant other whether we have been together one day or 15 years. I also go into a few ways you can begin to have the discussion about intimacy and BEGIN to have those hard convos. Things like “There is just no more passion anymore”, “ Im not attracted to you anymore”, “I just feel its an obligation”. We cant get to those points until we take a few steps before that. Its a muscle. Everyone is a beginner at one point in trying something new. Takes practice.

Alright Its time I focus on what I really want to focus on... Self love and truth being the keys to transformation annndddd PREVENTING Divorce, Breakdowns and Break-ups in Relationships. Not that many people want to let others know whats reallly happening behind closed doors. I was one of them. I have a keen eye for identifying the breakdowns and now have some amazing tools for helping to rebuild and CREATE something new. We can't change our partners but we can change ourselves, step into our truth, use our voice and act now before its too late if we really want to. Listen to this quick explanation of what we are going to tackle through this next series of episodes. Follow me on instagram for daily tips! Just look up illfightifyoufight.

I was able to interivew my friend and Coach Amy all about manifesting particularly for women. She went from being completely brokeas a single mom to self-made millionaire and living the life she wanted for herself, her children, and having the relationship she wanted of her dreams too. She dives into how she manifested it all, the mindset and practices around it and basically a big HOORAH for being the powerful women we all are. She truly has such a passion for helping women realize how powerful they are and needed in this world! You can find more of her info at www.luckysanders.com

The tables got turned. I was interviewed by my sweet friend Amy for her podcast. Living in a religion at the time that looks down on DIVORCE heavily....having come from a dysfunctional family and suffered trauma...going through two divorces...stepparenting...the "Show" I was putting out there....she asked me the hard questions..."Do you think trauma affected your first and second marriages? How?"...."Why did your second marriage not work?"...."I never wouldve known you were going through all this...why didnt you talk about it?"....changes in relationship to God and church after with the judgments too, people pleasing, talking myself out of things, self betrayal. Its a lot. And Im glad she asked the hard questions. How I found freedom. How I can easily talk about all this. How I can be moving on and open. you wont find me throwing other peoples missteps around...I focus on the lessons and what I HAD control over with myself now. But it takes a lot of work to get there.

Just a quick message to all my single divorced Friends on Christmas. You've got this. You are doing much better than you think you are.

6 tips to help you help a loved one going through a divorce. Remember there are 3 sides to every story. His, Hers and the truth through no filters, emotions, or judgments. Being able to really show up for someone you love struggling starts with making it safe for you both.
1: Decide What role you are going to play.
2: Resist Urge to ask for details
3: Allow Them To feel
4: Continue to Invite to Activities
5: Acts of Service. Dont Ask. Do.
6: Remember to honor your own agency in this situation.

I had the privilege of sitting with a homeless man named LEON and buying him breakfast. We talked about his life story. We cried together. We spoke about God. We spoke about pain. We spoke about injustice, addictions, and loss. We spoke heart to heart. The judgment was gone and there was no pretense. Leon was a beautiful reminder to me of what unity feels like even with major differences. He was a beautiful reminder that we all have way more in common than we think. I want to be more like Leon.

We have all been there.... AFraid to tell the people we love most about something. It can be something small like wanting to always jump out of an airplane...a dream... or something big that could break you both. The level of connection we experience with someone else is highly dependent on how deep you're willing to be authentic with yourself and them...how willing you are to tell the 100 percent truth in all things. Sometimes we simply don't know how to approach the people we love with the truth. Listen in and see if any of these tips are helpful.

I date myself. Always have. When was the last time you really took time to get to know yourself again? How about to Get to know your person again? We spend so much time on so many other things and yet I feel the root to success of all else is how well you know yourself...and how willing you are to CREATE the time to improve your relationships around you....you may think you are but are you really intentionally creating what you want in your relationship ? Or are you letting time, moments, opportunities, pain, life take you away from what you really desire?