Liberation Wisdom Podcast

Welcome back to the Her On Top Podcast, Episode 10! Today Kayla and Alex discuss motherhood in honor of Mother's Day. Alex asks Kayla questions such as: what has been the biggest shift from before motherhood to now and what have been the greatest joys experienced in motherhood so far? Kayla and Alex also have a long discussion of baby names and the often difficult process in coming up with a name for your bundles of joy. To all the mama listeners out there, we wish you a very happy mothers day and hope you feel recognized, loved, and appreciated for all that you do! Thanks for listening! 

Resources: 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

 Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her On Top Podcast, Episode 9! Today Kayla and Alex discuss is watching pornography cheating? They discuss why and how someone may think watching and engaging with porn is cheating and how it can also be seen as a non-threatening tool to enhance individual and/or couple sexual experiences. They finish out the episode by discussing how ultimately the focus should not be on porn or masturbation but instead on how you and your partner are communicating about your wants, needs, and boundaries around sex in your relationship. Thanks for listening! 

Resources: 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 8! Today Kayla and Alex discuss boundaries in relationships. They define what a boundary is, describe different types of boundaries, and express what to do when it is hard to set a boundary, especially with family. The duo also discuss setting boundaries with your partner around dividing tasks around the home and taking time for yourself. They finish out the episode by discussing why setting and holding boundaries is important and what happens when we do not set boundaries. Thanks for listening! 

Resources: 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Brené Brown Video on Boundaries: https://youtu.be/TLOoa8UGqxA?si=Qk-VUQvZX5GEZx47

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 7! Today Kayla and Alex discuss desire issues or low sex drive issues in relationships and what it looks like when one person does not want sex as much as the other. They talk about what low desire is, why it matters, and what are common situations that low desire can manifest. At the end of the episode, Kayla gives you her little black book of tips and tricks on how to create and sustain desire. Thank you for listening! 

Resources: 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Book: "Come As You Are" - Emily Nagoski https://www.emilynagoski.com/

Come As You Are Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/come-as-you-are/id1628661035

Good Sex Explained Video by Emily Nagoski: https://youtu.be/eqX38J9ya1I?si=jgqbBGKgWvKAgLhD

Lingerie: https://the--bar.com/

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 6! This episode is the fifth and final episode in the 5 part sex history series, detailing Kayla and Alex's experiences in learning about sex and relationships from childhood to present day. Today Kayla and Alex detail the stories of how they met their significant others and came to know that they wanted them as forever partners. They also discuss what needed to happen for them as individuals and women to be ready for a healthy, serious, long term relationship. Thank you for listening! 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 5! This episode is the forth episode in the 5 part sex history series, detailing Kayla and Alex's experiences in learning about sex and relationships from childhood to present day. Today Kayla and Alex discuss their first sexual experiences. The duo reminisce on how they both lost their virginity and how their parents found out they were having sex for the first time. They also discuss the topics of birth control and how culture and religion influenced their experiences. 

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 4! This episode is the third episode in the 5 part sex history series, detailing Kayla and Alex's experiences in learning about sex and relationships from childhood to present day. Today Kayla and Alex discuss their first relationship experiences. The duo reveal funny stories of their first encounters with dating, the sagas of their first relationships, the heartbreak, and the lessons learned about themselves and relationships in the future.

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast! Today Kayla and Alex discuss adolescent sexuality. This topic will entail discussing their first childhood crushes and when they first started experimenting with self-pleasure, masturbation, and watching porn. During these conversations they reference movies, music, celebrities, and pop culture of the 90s and early 2000s. The duo also explore the gender differences that take place during this time of exploration, how to empathize with young adolescents going through this time, and the shame often associated with self-pleasure.

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast! Today Kayla and Alex discuss childhood sexuality. This topic will explore gender, sex, their bodies from a young age into puberty, and how that has influenced them. They discuss gender and how it is changing over the generations, including elements such as preferred pronouns and gender neutral names. The girls explore conversations about sex education in school and how media and movies has played a role in the sex narrative both positively and negatively.

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Kayla and Alex dive into the who, what, where, when, and why of this podcast. They start with an introduction to who they are and why this podcast is important to them to create. Kayla and Alex discuss how sex has become taboo and this podcast is meant to be a safe space where people, especially women, can listen, learn, feel normal, and feel included in these converstations and experinces. Kayla also discussed how most of us do not learn about sex in the context of a relaiotnship. This podcast provides a space to bridge the gap and understand how do we have pleasurable sex within healthy relaitonships. Kayla and Alex then discuss their experiences going to private Catholic school for both elementary, middle, and high school and how that shaped our beliefs as well as how sex and dating were talked about. Kayla discusses going to an all girls Catholic school for high school and how it created a safe space to explore and honor women's expierneces. Next, Kayla and Alex dive into the origin of their friendship, noting they were not friends to begin with. Overtime, Kayla and Alex grew to like each other and chose their friendship for them, not because of anyone else's expectations. Kayla and Alex talk about the things that they had in common that brought them together such as family dynamics and beliefs. They also discuss how their personalities are also very opposite, which makes for a very interesting friendship that has still lasted the test of time. Kayla and Alex then discuss where each of them are now in their lives and what relationships are currently important to them. Alex emphasizes how feeling safe in her current relaitonship has made all the difference and Kayla agrees that feeling safe and secure with a partner is the number one thing to look for in choosing a parnter. Alex also discusses how she and her fiancé are currently DINKs (Double Income No Kids) and is loving life. Kayla on the other hand is a wife and mother, navigating this very fun and hard season of life. Kayla and Alex next explore a childhood story of how Kayla told their whole second grade class about where babies come from. This story is important forshadowing for how Kayla really had a passion for sharing information about sex and relaitonships even from a young age. Finally, Kayla and Alex wrap up the episode with a HOT take on Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey's relationship and how they are in partnership where both partners champiion the other's successes.