Life Back On Track

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Hi, This is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track. Welcome to the latest episode.

In this one, I want to talk to you about relationships. I regularly meet people who complain, bemoan, and criticise their ex partners. The thing that I struggled with for a long time, because I was one of these people who complained about ex partners, and labelled them, and judged them without fully understanding why they were in my life. The thing that I eventually came to realise, especially with my second wife, was that I had attracted her because I needed her.

When we start relationships, it is natural, and it is easy to focus on what it is we want in a partner. So we have all of these expectations that we place on our partners and we attract who we need as a partner for who we are at that particular moment in time. However, if we are not aware of why we have attracted them, they come in being who we need. We recognise that they're not who we want after a period of time, and then we start to struggle with the relationship, judge them, have conflict with them, and eventually the relationship ends because we have attracted who we need for who we are.

At that particular moment in time, we failed to realise that that's who we actually need and instead look at them through the filter of what we wanted. The thing is, what we want is usually all the nice stuff we want in a partner, who's understanding, and supportive, and funny, and encouraging, nice to be around and all of these things, and that's easy to acknowledge. That's easy to point out. That's easy to put on the list.

The challenge is knowing that a relationship is about you and your growth, or if I was looking from my point of view about myself and my growth, it has nothing to do with the person opposite us. They are merely a mirror or a reflection of what we need to work on. So if we are not aware of this, we tend to discard them for their importance that they play in our life. We look at them, we judge them, we put blame on to them and ultimately we don't benefit from that relationship, which was what we needed at that point in time.

So to give you a real world example. My first wife and I, we had struggles with a little bit of conflict. Nothing excessive, but we just had conflict, a few yelling arguments, nothing excessive. I didn't get the lesson that she bought to that relationship that I needed. I didn't get it. I wasn't aware of it. I didn't know what to look for. I didn't know what to do with it, even if I was aware of it. So ultimately that relationship didn't work. It did not benefit me, and it probably didn't benefit her either.

Fast forward a few years and I'm with my second wife and the level of conflict is escalated now. I spent quite a number of years with this woman going through a lot of stress, a lot of aggravation, a lot of anguish, a lot of conflict, a lot of toxicity, and it wasn't healthy for either of us. I'm surprised neither of us had a stroke or a heart attack from the rubbish we were putting through each other through. It was only after, when I finally understood that I attracted who I wanted that I realised I needed an angry woman. I needed a woman who would give me enough grief to break my inertia to get me started to be the catalyst for my change.

My second wife was that. She is wholly responsible for giving me the lesson so intensely that I finally got it so that my next partner was a vast improvement because I had that lesson. Sadly, though, those habits that I had started slipping back into my life and the quality of that relationship deteriorated not because of her, but because of myself. I could own that, once I fully understood that after ending that relationship, I finally got it. I finally got the lesson, and because of that, this relationship that I'm currently in is vastly different because I haven't forgotten the lesson. I've stayed with what I needed to learn from these women who were perfect for who I was at that point in time.

If I had not received that lesson or been aware of it to receive it, I'd probably be in a toxic relationship, stressful relationship still, So if you are one of these people and it is normal and natural to do this because a lot of people do it, if you judge and minimise your ex partners, know that they were perfect for who you were at that point in time.

Now, if you get the lesson, you become a better person, a better version of you. Therefore you don't need to attract that person anymore. Therefore, you can attract a better quality of person, therefore, have a better quality relationship to move forward. First, though, you have to understand that it's not about them. It's about you. You attracted exactly what you needed. You agreed to the relationship because a part of you knew that it was what you needed. If you received this lesson, you will have the relationship you've wanted and also what you need.

So that's today's lesson just talking about relationships and ex partners because sometimes it's easy for us to heap the blame on them and attack them etc, and they don't deserve that. They were right for who we were at that point in time. We just couldn't get it, and that's okay. That's part of our journey as well. So look for your lesson, receive your lesson, become a better version of you and get a better partner so you can have that better relationship. That's today's lesson.

Feel free to send me a little voicemail. Give me some feedback. You can keep an anonymous if you want. Also, you can click the other link in the show notes and check out my subscription site with a 30-day money-back guarantee. At the end of it, if you don't think it's something that will benefit you, so you can check it out risk free.

So thanks for listening. Feel free to pass on this podcast to people you believe will benefit from it. That's what I'm trying to do is get people just to open their minds to some possibilities. Other than that, have a great day. Look after yourself. Thanks for listening and remember, he is to a good life.
 
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Hi, This is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track. Welcome to the latest episode.

This is an episode that I've sort of been over before. However, I feel it's something that's very important, and I'd like to go over it again, address it again, maybe look at it from a different angle just so you can start to understand why I wanted to go over this again.

On the weekend, I was talking to some friends and we were discussing the situation of various people, and a couple of statements were made that I felt needed to be pointed out, and I said to the rest of the group, "They're racist statements" and they said, "How are they racist?"

Oh, now I recall they were talking about seeing people of a particular race on the street, and they would avoid them due to previous experience of people from that particular race, and I said to him, Well, "that's being racist". And they said, "No, it's not. It's making sure you're safe". And I said "No. When you take a group of people and you base that experience, you're generalising and you're judging those people from that previous behaviour that makes it a racist statement or a racist behaviour".

Now a lot of people get up in arms about racism and all of this sort of thing and carry on like it's something that only a few people do. However, we all do it, and it's not just racism, and this is the key to what I'm trying to get to. Is it something that every single one of us does? We might do it to a small extent. We may do it to a large extent, but we all do it. And it's not just with race. We do it with all sorts of people. If we look at people of a certain age, we will make a generalisation about them. So for someone like myself who's in their fifties, they can be inclined to when they look at people that are younger, view them in a way that could be judgmental or minimising them or negating them. And that's being ageist. It could be someone who's in their thirty's. Who looks at an older person who say in their eighties and says well, they're a waste of space, they're not contributing to society. Why are they even alive, that's being ageist.

We operate from a generalisation. If we are a man, say, like myself, and I'm looking at a woman and I make a judgement about her. I have generalised based off her gender, which means I've been sexist and vice versa. Women can look at men and make a statement based off a generalisation, and that means they're being sexist. Now we all do it and one of the keys to resolving any conflict, so whether it's an internal conflict or an external conflict, the key to resolving it and moving forward is acknowledging the truth. And if we all admit it, I'm racist. I'm prejudiced, I'm sexist and ageist on whatever it is. If it's a particular generalisation that you do of a particular person, that is one of those labels.

Now, it's not a bad thing to admit this. You get people who have a shame or guilt around it, and they don't want to admit that they are that. What I have found with my journey is being brought up as I am as a white person in Australia, a male, middle class, I tend to be one of the most comfortable people, you could say, because I don't tend to have a lot of those judgments that others would have now being raised with that, I didn't think anything of it having these viewpoints of racism, sexism, ageism, etcetera, etcetera because I had been subject to my society, my culture exposing me to that point of view advertising, TV shows behaviours of particular authorities to these people.

To me, it was just 'normal', and I placed that in inverted commas to indicate that it was the commonly accepted behaviour. Now does that excuse it? Does that make it good? No. However, I cannot fix that within myself until I acknowledge that I am it now. Do I still have these thoughts of racism, sexism, ageism, et cetera. Yes, they flit through my mind, and they are a reminder to me, of what I am trying to work on within myself. So if I have those thoughts, those patterns that pop into my head, that gives me an opportunity to address that so that I can reduce and minimise that behaviour within my own mind set.

Now for other people, there will be people listening to this. Who would say I'm not racist, I believe, and to use a fairly recent example. Black lives matter. I believe that black lives matter. But these same people who espouse to believe that black lives matter are only focusing on a particular sector of those type of people. Now, if you view everyone with a view of humanity in as much as we are all entitled to having fresh food, fresh water, shelter, clothing, good medical care, all of these things in education, if you believe that we all deserve access to all of them. Most of the developed world is being racist because we ignore the people that are suffering in other places the world and do little to help, even though we can. As individuals, we can't help. But as a nation, we can.

We hide our elderly people away. We ignore the wisdom and the knowledge that they have acquired over their lifetime, and we ignore these riches that we could mine and benefit from. But we don't, we hide them away, so we're all ageist. We all agree on hiding people away, so if you can start to acknowledge that within yourself and acknowledge it without guilt or shame, or any of this sort of rubbish.

Using those two things, guilt and shame. To acknowledge something that allows you to grow is self defeating. You need to just acknowledge to yourself I have these thoughts. I may believe that black lives matter, but there are other races that I see being denigrated, minimised put down and all of this sort of thing, and I unconsciously agree to it because I do nothing about it now. Thankfully, as a species, we are slowly speaking up more and more for everyone who deserves these basic rights.

Now for myself, like I said, it's been part of my journey, and I acknowledge that I've had these thoughts quite strongly in the past, and I have been voraciously working on them so that every time those thoughts come into my head, I examine them. I look at them, where they come from so that I can address them and rewire them so they become less so. By constantly working on myself. I become less racist, less sexist, less ageist, less judgmental. I become more accepting now. Does that mean I'm perfect? No, I'm not perfect. No one's ever nailed this. And if anyone ever says I'm not racist at all is probably deluding themselves because they may not be racist to a particular bracket of races or cultures or whatever, however, they may have racist attitudes towards others.

So regardless of where it's directed, if you have it racism, sexism, etcetera, you have it, end of story and you cannot fix it until you acknowledge it. So that's what I wanted to talk about today. Look at it from a couple of different angles so that hopefully you'll understand and maybe start to work on yourself, maybe start to pull up other people. When you see that behaviour because we all deserve what some of us have, we all deserve it. We all deserve to be healthy and happy and loved, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. Yeah, so that's it for today. It was something that was big in my journey, is still big in my journey, knowing that I need to work on still not judging, accepting people for who they are, not what I think they are or what society tells me they are. That is my constant journey, and one that I'm glad to have, because it makes me more humane, more understanding, more compassionate, more empathetic, and I feel makes me a better human being.

I'm hoping you, too will join me on this little journey and admit at least to yourself that you are these things so that you too, can work towards your humanity. Anyway, That's it for today. I hope you've got something out of it. I really do. So until the next episode, before I go, you will see in the show Notes. There are a few links. One I've mentioned a number of times, and that is a little link where you can leave me a ninety-second voicemail because voices are always nicer than written. So if you want to send me feedback, questions, support, whatever you want to send, I'd love to hear your little voice. You can do it anonymously, or you can let me know your email address when you do the recording, and therefore we can have a dialogue and I can get to know who you are, and you can learn more about me and what I do.

Also there's a link to join my subscription group, which means you can join at any level, try it out for 30 days, and if at the end of it you don't like it, I'll give you your money back. The level you pick is up to you because it's 30 days money back guarantee you may as well go all in and try the highest level. You can have access to everything then, which is all my recordings, et cetera, as well as coaching calls and check it out. You can click the links, find out more and then decide which level you want to come in on.

And it would be great to get to know you as well as your knowing about me through these podcasts. So share them with people that you care about that you feel will benefit from what I'm talking about. Uh, other than that they keep up the good work. Thanks for listening and helping me expand this bit by bit and helping me help others. So until the next episode, look after yourselves. And remember, here's to a good life

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Hi, this is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track. Welcome to the latest episode, and in this one, I want to talk to you about something I've noticed over many years of coaching people one-on-one.

When I'm talking to them and we're looking into their situation and they're giving me the information and they start talking about something that we all have, and that's fear. They start saying that they have these particular fears and it could be regarding their dating, or their relationships, or parenting, their mindset, their finances, could be anything, doesn't matter, fear is fear.

What I have noticed is, we start talking about our fears, and it could be, a fear of being rejected, for example, and a lot of people can easily identify that initial fear. The thing is, though, that's not actually the thing that's scaring us a lot of the time. The thing that we really fair is something that's difficult to admit. It's deep, it's scary, it can be profound. It could be something that triggers off a whole heap of stuff that we've been suppressing or ignoring or denying, and to confront that original real fear can sometimes be very overwhelming.

For a lot of people, however, a situation can never be properly dealt with, prepared for, or overcome until you get to that initial fear. The fear that's really driving it. Now where this plays out in our life is, a lot is if you have conflict with someone, so you'll hear about a couple, where she might be upset about something or he might be. It doesn't matter. But instead of dealing with the actual situation, the real fear because that one can be a bit overwhelming to deal with, it could be a little bit scary because that one is so intimidating to deal with, it's easier to create something that is easier to deal with, can be quick, can be less painful. You can get it out in a burst, and then you can feel like you've dealt with it.

The trouble is, you still have that initial fear, so they will argue about this other thing. So, for example, let's say there's a husband and wife. He leaves his socks on the floor. She's always picking up after him. One day she's had enough. She has a big argument with him, she says. "You just think I'm a maid. You don't care about me." And so, of course, they have this big argument. "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah". Now the thing is, is the socks being left on the floor. The real problem is the fact that she believes he's just thinking of her as a maid. The real problem? No, you need to dig deeper into it. It's not so much that she thinks he believes she is just a maid. It's her. It's her yardstick for how much he values her, how much he sees her as worthy. So her self esteem can be tied in with those socks. So instead of actually confronting him about that deeper attitude, which might come from something with his happened in his childhood that can trigger off something deeper in him if she had confronted him with the actual truth.

So when you have a real problem with anything with life, you have to get past your initial primary fear. There's always something deeper driving it, especially when we get to conflict. So whether that's conflict at work, with your children, with your partner, with your family, your friends, it doesn't matter. Whenever you have things like conflict, there's always a deeper fear that's driving things. And that's what you want to be looking for. Your secondary, your third, your tertiary fear, had to think of the word there.

It's the thing that's deeper than what you initially think is upsetting you. So push past the primary fear. Be brave and ask yourself, What are you really fearful of? What is it that is really driving this? And I find that when I'm coaching people, if I keep pushing them about that primary fear, the real driver, when we get to that, suddenly they're like "Oh", and then they can deal with it so they can make sense of it. They can get coping mechanisms. They can find what they need to deal with that situation so that the surface situation, when it happens, is less intense.

So I know for myself when I've had fears and concerns and things like that, when I dig in and find out what the primary is, the situation is a lot easier to deal with. Now is it still scary? Of course it is. Fear is always there. It's one of our natural emotions. Whether it is something that will stop you from moving forward, that's the difference. Is the fear something that's going to immobilise you, or is it going to allow you to move forward? That's what you want to ask yourself, and if a fear is immobilising you, you definitely want to dig in and find out what the primary is.

So push through your fears. Find out what they are first, can't just push through them because otherwise you're just trying to deny them, and they can overwhelm you. But dig in. Find your primary fear if you've got a situation you're dealing with, regardless of what it is to find out what the primary fear is, so you can deal with it so that you can get some tools to cope with it, to minimise it, to make sense of it, whatever it is you need. Once you know what that primary fear is, then you can start to push past it and get the results that you're after.

So that's it for today's episode. I just wanted to talk to you about primary fears. Okay, have a great one. Thanks for listening in. There's links below. If you want to send me a quick ninety-second voicemail just to say hi or give me some feedback, send a question or whatever, and there's also a link if you want to try out the family, which is my subscription group, where I gather all of the information I've garnered over 20 years about parenting, relationships, conflict resolution, which is a big one, dating, mindset, all of this sort of thing.

You can you have a trial of that with a 30 day money back guarantee. If you don't like it at the end of 30 days, we give you your money back. But anyway, considerably less money than one-on-one coaching or most courses. Check it out and give it a try. Until then, thanks for listening. Catch you on the next episode. Look after yourself and remember, Here's to a good life.

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Hi, This is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track. Welcome to the latest episode. In this one, I want to talk to you about something that will occur many times in your life, and you need to be aware of this moment because it is a very, very big moment.

Many years ago, I was at a talk by a chap by the name of Jim Rohn. Now this chap is, a lot of people say he's the guy that got them started on their self growth journey. He has a lot of good information. He's written some good books, got some great courses of which I've done a fair bit and at this talk is addressing the crowd. He's talking about moments that can make a big difference and the emotions that are involved in them and this particular emotion that he mentions is discussed. He says, it's a very important emotion, and he says a lot of people call it negative, but it can have powerful positive moments because they are responsible for change.

He says, that disgust, that moment when you have just had enough of a situation, you're just disgusted with the path that you're on, you're disgusted with the situation, the people involved, you basically just at breaking point. The story that he uses is, it's an analogy, and he says his chap is successful, drives a nice car, lives in a nice house, and he's being interviewed as to why he's successful. What was the key to his success? And this chap says to the interviewer, "Come with me and I'll show you" and they go down to his garage and there's this old car and it's well beaten up and rusty and it's full of bullet holes. And he says, "This is the key to my success". And the blokes like, "How is that the key to your success?", he says, "Because I was driving around in that car, and one day I realised I've just had enough. I've had enough of driving this embarrassing car that keeps breaking down and leaking oil and just costing me so much money just to keep running", he said. "I've had enough. So I took a shotgun and I blew it to smithereens, and I kept it as a reminder as to why I'm going".

So there are moments in your life where you will reach a breaking point, where you will reach a crossroads, where you will reach a moment. Well, you have a choice to keep doing things the way you've been doing them or whether you're going to do something different so that you can get a better result.

So for me, I've had heaps of these different moments where, for example, like my second marriage, this was a relationship that was toxic. It was nasty. It was stressful. There was so much anxiety and fear and things involved in it. It was just really powerful. And one day I thought I actually deserve better than this, and I can't see this changing and I've just had enough. I've just had enough. And so I turned around and said, Right, I'm leaving. I've had it, yeah, and she weirdly went and displayed behaviour that basically just proved that what I was doing was the right thing, because it was all the behaviours that were making me leave. So it reinforced my decision.

So I knew then that it was a good decision, even though it was fearful, it was the right decision. I reached that point where I had just had enough. I was at breaking point, and it was either that or I was going to end up giving myself a stroke or something because of the stress.

So I want you to think about what's your breaking point? What's your moment when you're going to say I've had enough of my relationship being like this? I've had enough of my parenting being like this or my conflict resolution, or my mindset, or my stress levels, or my health or whatever. At what point are you going to say no more, no more, because that moment is going to be a glorious, beautiful moment in your life and only you can decide it. Only you can decide.

Now is the time where I've had enough and something different happens. What's going to be your moment? Because only you can decide. Only you can change it for the better. So this was just a little bit of a, hopefully a kick up the pants to strive to do it better, to get a better result for you. What's your breaking point? Is it going to be today, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, 10 years? Hopefully not 10 years. You don't want to waste another 10 years of your life. That's not a good thing. Time's a most valuable resource.

So where's your breaking point or big moment? You can change before you hit that breaking point. You can do that as well. It's totally up to you. Okay, so that was today's episode. What's your breaking point? When are you going to change? You deserve it. Go for it. So until next time, here's to a good life.

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Hi, This is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track. Welcome to the latest episode.

In this one, I want to talk to you about something that's quite critical when it comes to improving your life, becoming a better version of you, trying to achieve any sort of goal, and that is something that's called accountability

Now, accountability is something external to yourself that holds you to what you say you want. So that could be a friend who you make a vow to, that you will do a particular thing or achieve a certain thing. It could be setting up some sort of punishment. If you don't achieve that particular goal, it could be someone who keeps putting in front of you the challenges that are holding you back to make sure that you overcome them. These sorts of things are critical in achieving what it is anyone wants to achieve in their life.

Generally, there is something that drives us on, and that drive has to be greater than any fear we have, because if you're trying to achieve something and a fear keeps stopping you, that's not a good thing. If you have someone or something that can keep you going, that is something that's worth hanging onto. That thing could be like I said, someone who will hold you accountable by putting in front of you your fears and saying "You said you do this. Why didn't you?" "What's stopping you? How can we get you past that?" Someone who has a great desire to see you achieve is someone that you want on your team. Someone who, regardless of how uncomfortable it may be, holds you accountable to make sure that you confront what it is that stopping you from achieving that so that you can.

An example I read many years ago was two ladies, and I may have spoken about this before, however, it's a good story and worth repeating. Two ladies wanted to try and lose weight. They had tried all the diets, the exercise, everything. Nothing had worked. They decided to make an accountability with each other that would guarantee their success. What they did is they went to the supermarket and they bought a tin of dog food. They had to make sure that the dog food contained horse-meat, it had to clearly say on the label contains horse meat.

The deal was if one of them said they didn't want to exercise or they thought that a good enough excuse not to exercise and they missed a session. They then had to eat that can of dog meat. How this worked for them is every time they felt like opting out, coming up with an excuse. They looked at the can of dog meat, saw that it contained horse-meat and went, "There's no way I'm eating that I'm exercising". So when you have something that's that painful, it will push you through any fear, hesitation or doubt that you've got.

A good one that I heard of a number of years ago is there's a number of these websites now where they will list a number of charities or research options that you would never support in your normal life. What you do is you put up a sizeable chunk of your cash. They put in a holding account, and if you fail to achieve that goal that you say you'll achieve, they give your money to that entity that you would never normally support. The driver of that is knowing that you would then be funding something that you're totally against, and then that gives you something on your conscience that makes you think I've got to make sure I do this thing.

So no matter what it is, if you have a big enough driver, you will keep doing it. I know for myself, mine is, I found the two things that would help me push through my fears. And every time I have a doubt, a hesitation or fear anything like that, I think of these two things and that manages to push me past that fear every time. So today's episode is What's your accountability? What are you using to hold you accountable for what it is you say you want to achieve? Do you have someone who's willing to call you on your journey and say, "Come on. You said you were going to do X, pull your socks up, get on with it", or is it going to be a website or some sort of punishment, like the dog food that will ensure that you get past that discomfort into your results?

The really cool thing about having this sort of thing is it helps you develop a momentum, and once you have a momentum. All you've got to do is keep it going, and then it's a lot easier to achieve what it is you say you want to achieve. So today's is what is your accountability. I want you to think about that. If you don't have any, find some because that's one thing that you're definitely going to need in this journey.

Okay, that's it for today. Thanks for listening. Glad my podcast is growing and I'm getting more and more people. So thank you for listening. Feel free to share it with your friends. I'd love that. You can send me a message if you want. Click the link in the show notes, and you can send me a ninety-second voicemail or send an email or even snail mail. Either way, be great to have some feedback. So look after yourselves. Keep up the good work and remember, here's to a good life.

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You can also listen to my radio show “All About Relationships” which has its own podcast on your favourite platform by clicking HERE 

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Hi, This is Wayne Brown from Life Back on Track. Welcome to the latest episode.

In this one, I want to talk to you about our most valuable resource, and sadly, it's one that we are inclined to not treat as valuably as we should, and that is time. Our time is something that once it is gone, we can't get any more of it.

We can get more money, we can get more assets, we can get more experiences, but we can't get any more time. Once it's gone, it's gone. And this is what I want to talk to you about today because the whole aim of these podcasts that I'm recording, all of the information that I create to be able to help people is to ensure that they don't get caught in like a Groundhog Day. They're not repeating the same year of their life over and over again. In fact, each year is better than the previous one.

So this episode we are getting you to look at where you were a year ago, where you were five years ago, where you were 10 years ago, and to see how different it is to where you are now. So, for example, if I looked at my own life, I know that my relationship with my wife is improving as time goes on, I know that my business is improving. I know that my relationships with my friends and my sons is improving, my ability to deal with various aspects of life. All the challenges that come with it is improving and getting better and better.

If I compared my life to 10 years ago when I was just ending my second marriage, I could quite honestly say that my life now is vastly different to what it was back then. Therefore, I know I'm making progress. Therefore, I know I'm making good use of my time. I also want to look at where I'm going. I want to make sure that in 10 years' time, my life will be improved again on what I have now.

This is what I want you to think about is, where has your life improved in the last 5, 10 years, and where do you envisage it being in another five or 10 years? Because if you feel that your life isn't going to be improving, then you need to be doing some work around making that improvement happen, because you are choosing, chewing up your most valuable resource, which is your time, if your relationships are not getting better, if your career choice isn't getting better, if your relationship with your children or your parenting skills are not getting better. If your conflict resolution isn't getting better, then you need to do something now before you run out of time, because something we are not guaranteed is tomorrow. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow.

Therefore, because of this, you want to make sure that everything is as good as it can be and everything is improving. So basically, that's all for today's episode which was an opportunity for myself to show you or to put in front of you an opportunity to assess and look back on the journey of your life and where you've been and also where you're going. So therefore, you can look at the results that are working, and you can keep doing those because they're moving you forward. They're improving your life and look at things that may not be working as well, so that you can refine them or learn a new skill.

So therefore, your results are going to be different in the years to come, rather than just repeating the same results you've had before. The one thing I know and the one thing that I tend to hammer my sons about is the making changes. Now don't wait 5, 10, 20 years to make the change. Make the change now, reap the benefit of your efforts.

Make your life as good as they can be. And the only way they can get better is if each year is an improvement on the previous one. So there you go. That's today's episode. Super quick, Super short. Straight to the point. Where's your life been? Where's it going?

So have a good think about where you can improve and where you want your life to be. If you want to leave a little ninety second message and let me know some of your story, there's a link in the show notes, and you can send me a ninety second voice message and let me know what your journey has been like and where it's going to. Other than that, look after yourself, keep practising and remember, here's to a good life

You can listen to the Life Back On Track podcast on your favourite platform by visiting our podcast website. Click HERE to check it out. 

You can also listen to my radio show “All About Relationships” which has its own podcast on your favourite platform by clicking HERE 

Thanks for listening.You can listen to the Life Back On Track podcast on your favourite platform by visiting our podcast website. Click HERE to check it out. 

You can also listen to my radio show “All About Relationships” which has its own podcast on your favourite platform by clicking HERE 

You can also check out our website by clicking HERE

Thanks for listening.

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