Is it possible to heal an unresolved relationship with a parent even after that parent has passed away?
In this episode, a woman shares the pain she has carried since her father died while their relationship was still troubled. She asks Seuseungnim how she can reconcile with him and finally resolve what was left unfinished between them.
Seuseungnim explains that the bond between parents and children cannot be broken, even by death. He teaches that conflict often develops because parents and children come from different generations, possess different qualities of energy and knowledge, and may not understand how to relate to one another properly.
As we gain greater understanding, however, we may begin to recognize our own part in past conflicts. Even when a parent is no longer physically present, Seuseungnim teaches that we can sincerely acknowledge our mistakes, release resentment, and say, “Dad, I’m sorry. Thank you. From now on, let’s study together.”
He explains that when one person takes the first sincere step toward reconciliation, long-standing knots within the relationship can begin to unravel. Rather than continuing to carry regret over what can no longer be changed, we can use our new understanding to transform how we relate to the past.
This teaching offers a hopeful perspective for anyone carrying unresolved feelings after losing a parent: physical death does not mean that reconciliation is no longer possible. Through understanding, sincere reflection, and releasing resentment, the relationship can still begin to heal.
Real questions. Deeper understanding. Wisdom for life.
Jungbub Lecture - 12481