Light Work by Dear Patriarchy

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Welcome to episode 17 of series 3 where we’re talking about how to raise good kids, which involves educating them (and yourself) about diversity, inclusion and consent. Jenni shares an experience she had with her daughter and Lisa talks about raising White boys, who need a lot of education to ensure they are informed enough to reject the White supremacist, heteropatriarchal and ableist messaging they receive from our social construct. We share books and other great resources for parents and caregivers that can support this educational journey. The importance of raising kind, inclusive children who expect to see and exist within diverse communities can’t be overstated. The bottom line is that if you don’t educate your kids on diversity, inclusion and consent, someone else will undoubtedly show them something different and it will make your job of forming their path to being a good human much harder.

Here are some of the educational resource that we use:
- 'Let's Talk About Race' by Julius Lester
- 'Anti-Racist Baby' by Ibram X. Kendi
- 'All Are Welcome' by Alexandra Penfold
- 'I am Enough' by Grace Byers
- 'The Pronouns Book' by Chris Ayala-Kronos
- 'Inclusive Ninja' by Mary Nhin
- 'Roxy the Racoon' by Alice Reeves
- ‘Raising Anti-Racist Children’ by Britt Hawthorne
- The Black Curriculum is an excellent resource for people based in the UK - check out their Instagram account @theblackcurriculum as well as at The Black Curriculum
- Upgrade Accessibility is a disability rights and justice platform which regularly hosts workshops and events based on disability awareness, as well as on the intersection of LGBTQ+ and disability rights - check out their Instagram account @upgradeaccessibility as well as at Upgrade Accessibility
- Stonewall is a UK-based LGBTQ+ charity who provide excellent resources for educating and providing support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers  and can be found at Stonewall
- The Trevor Project is based in America but is the world's largest crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ+ young people under the age of 25 and provides education and support to children, young adults and parents/caregivers. It can be found at The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 16(ish) of series 3 where Jenni does a mini-breakdown on social media allyship. She starts by running through how important an inclusive mindset is to have and how “un-learning” is the place we all need to start from and continue with as we amplify and share the work of other educators and activists. Jenni goes on to discuss how the systemic foundations of discrimination built around us work to keep us separated and that the right-wing denigration of “PC” and “wokeness” should not deter us from actively working to be on the right side of history. We need to learn more, speak up, and put in the work every day to protect the civil rights of all those around us, not just the people who look like or identify the same way as we do. We hope you’ll join the fight.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 15(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on the connection between mass shootings and the Patriarchy. There is a clear link between toxic masculinity, misogyny and violence and this mini-sode focused on connecting the dots between them all. Instead of offering thoughts and prayers, we want you to come away from this episode with daily actions that can be applied to yourself, your children (if you have them), and your wider community.  If we want to stem the tide of systemic discrimination and the violence that results from it, we need to make it part of our every day lives. We hope you’ll join us.

- Research sources backing the connection between domestic violence, misogyny and mass shootings can be found here, here, and here. There is much more out there, please take the time to look into this further.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to series 3, episode 14, where we’re talking about all things reproductive and social justice. We start by discussing the potential impact if Roe vs. Wade is overturned, particularly the impact on Black women and women of Color, which leads nicely into breaking down what reproductive justice is, where the term originated (Sister Song) and how we can work for it collectively. We talk about the weight and expectation of activism and how doing the work can sometimes feel like an un-winnable war. We close by exploring how education is the best foundation for activism and that we need to remember we are part of a greater community that is working to uphold and expand the freedoms of ourselves and those around us. Every little bit of work we do helps to unravel the inequity around us. Just keep pulling the thread.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

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Welcome to series 3, episode 13 where we’re discussing the toxicity of the girlboss mentality and how it sets out to use feminism as a cloak for capitalism. We talk about how prominent “girlboss” companies and figureheads successfully weaponised guilt and shame to force women deeper into hustle culture and dispensed advice from a place of privilege that is inaccessible to most women. Jenni dives into her experience of how the impact of the pandemic has pushed women and carers even further away from regularly accessing the resources and support needed to achieve “girlboss goals”. We explore the meaning behind the phrase “Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss” and how it’s an intentional label intended to be un-intimidating and to uphold the corporate tradition of systemic racism and misogyny.

- We used information taken from Alex Abad-Santos' June 2021 article for Vox entitled "The Death of the Girlboss" in our discussion.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

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Welcome to episode 12 of series 3, where we’re discussing what success and achievement look like, particularly for people who identify as women. We break down what society says women need to have to "have it all" and discuss our experience of what having it all does to you on an individual basis. We talk about how the disproportionate care and domestic workload that women are expected to shoulder creates an environment that is incompatible for women to achieve substantive career goals and why continuing to hold us to this "traditional" standard is so damaging. Bodily and individual autonomy are at the core of this discussion and breaking free of historical expectations of what women are supposed to be is the only way to secure this for the girls and women who come after us.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 11 of series 3, where we’re breaking down internalized misogyny, often misnomered as “toxic femininity.” Before we started our main conversation, we discussed Debanhi Escobar and the global problem of femicide as well as the growing disappearance of girls and women not just in Mexico/Latin America but around the world as well. We then moved on to the hostility women and girls can often exhibit towards other women and girls and the patriarchal reasons behind it. We break down why toxic femininity is not a real thing as it is the internalising of systemic discrimination. We go on to share our personal experiences with internalised misogyny, how we have dealt with it in the past and how we attempt to deal with it now. It’s important to remember that the patriarchy wants you to view other women as competition, not as sisters, so choosing to love those who identify as women (and girls) is a revolutionary act.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 10(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of Imposter Syndrome and why its use as a catch-all term is  problematic. Lisa discusses a tweet posted by @theconsciouslee from Juana Hollingsworth (@jewelsfromjuana) about how Dr. Amanda Tachine (@atachine) explained that the original concept of Imposter Syndrome was theorised in 1978 by two White women (psychologists Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes) to describe how a large majority of women, disproportionately Black women and women of Colour, are marginalised within the corporate environment. While the tenets of Imposter Syndrome may ring true for many women, for Black women and women of Colour, this term erases or, at the very least, minimises the impact of systemic racism and the many obstacles it presents them with in the workplace. It makes systemic issues the fault of each individual woman, forcing her to endure and try to resolve them each and every day that she shows up to work. The hope is that the information discussed today will help to inform how we look at the experiences of Black women and women of Colour in the corporate world and how the White-centric focus of academia, which influences the terminology we use in the workplace and wider world, can further marginalise those who exist outside of that focus.

- The February 2021 Harvard Business Review article entitled "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey informed this episode - please read it! 

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 9 of series 3, where we’re closing out our "Get a Job Your Way" series. We open the discussion by breaking down the perception that setting out your requirements and coming from an empowered place where you know what you deserve, and won’t accept less, can be perceived as privilege. We move into the final stages of hiring, closing out negotiations, running through work contracts and how to spot (and respond to) red flags. We hope this series has given you the tools you need to get the job you want, for the pay you deserve. If you take one thing away from this series, let it be this: You're worthy of great things, never let the corporate world tell you otherwise.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 8(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of White Feminism and why it’s so problematic. All the information used to inform this conversation is from @everydayracism_ on Instagram and we urge you to follow this account so you can learn from Naomi & Natalie as we have and jump on the pre-order for their upcoming book, The Mixed Race Experience. Check out our social media to find the original source material - we hope this mini-breakdown gives you extra perspective on why intersectional feminism is the ONLY way forward. Tune in to next week’s full episode - part 3 of The Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.