Light Work by Dear Patriarchy

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Welcome to episode 7 of series 3 where we’re (still) talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to follow up after an interview and a few ways to stand out from the crowd. We share personal stories about how we’ve navigated the hiring process and obstacles to success in the working environment. We discuss the mental pitfalls women can face when negotiating  their salaries and how to get your head right when it comes to asking for what you deserve as well as where to look to fact-check your salary range. Tune in to next week’s episode for part 3 - there’s so much more to say!

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Welcome to episode 6 of series 3 where we’re talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to lose the mindset that companies are owed our labour and be aware of the obstacles that exist for those who identify as women and disproportionately impact on Black women and women of Colour. We discuss the tools and processes we use when we job search and how to spot red flags during the interview process. We discuss pay inequity, negotiation mindsets and how to protect yourself from potential future exploitation. Tune in to next week’s episode for part 2!

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

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Welcome to episode 5 of series 3 where we're discussing the current attack on LGBTQIA+ children and adults by conservative lawmakers in the United States and how that manifests in the workplace. We say gay, you should too.

- We discussed statistics and research from McKinsey on how the corporate environment treats those form the LGBTQIA+ community, find it here.

- We recommend that if you live in the US, you check out the Human Rights Commission's State Scorecards Index and see how the LGBTQIA+ community are being treated, find it here.

- Find out more about the Marsha P. Johnson Institute here.

- Find out more about the Trevor Project here.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here.

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Welcome to episode 4 of series 3 - we kick off with discussing how women get penalized for their own sexuality because, within a patriarchal construct, they’re not “allowed” to be in control of their bodies and own their own sexual power. We talk about the shame and responsibility that is placed on women’s bodies from a very young age in order to control the emotions and sexual urges of boys and men, instead of putting that responsibility where it belongs (on boys and men). We then move on to the restrictions of the gender binary: How it defines what it is to be a man OR a woman (nothing in between) and how patriarchal systems of control encourage girls and women to view each other as competition, not allies, under the false guise of there being a limited amount of seats at the table for women. We share personal anecdotes about how mothers who also choose to work outside the home are held back within the corporate world because they “chose” to take time off for a family, aka the motherhood penalty. We close the episode with a deep dive on the male gaze and its influence on women’s mindsets and how they view themselves and the wider world.

- The article we reference recording the Wodaabe men and their dance. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-39070587.amp

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

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Welcome to episode 3 of series 3 where we’re discussing the policing of women’s bodies, in particular the bodies of Black women and women of Colour.

We start by discussing the treatment of Mary J. Blige in the aftermath of the Super Bowl half time show and define some important terms that relate to the hyper-sexualised scrutiny that disproportionately impacts Black women/girls and women/girls of Colour. These are the Politics of Respectability (first defined by professor and author Evelyn Higginbotham), Adultification Bias and Misogynoir, the intersection of misogyny and racism.

We go on to talk about how, in the workplace (and the wider world), your worth is tied to attractiveness and how women can effectively do everything right and still have a target on their back. We share some personal anecdotes and end by tying up why making the corporate world more accessible for bodies deemed to exist outside the narrow confines of what’s “normal” is so important.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

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Welcome to our second episode of series 3 where we chat about it all: Childcare deserts, the patriarchal systems in place that negatively impact and marginalize anyone who isn’t a White man, the lack of matriarchal lineage and equal representation  of women in history and so much more. We hope you enjoy listening to the mishmash as much as we enjoyed talking through it.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

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 Welcome to our first episode of series 3 where we discuss the return to work. We run through the new statistics coming through on the mass exodus of women from the workplace and the lack of infrastructure which is, particularly in the United States, one of the key reasons behind the loss of women from the work environment. Jenni dives into the closure of care settings, particularly nurseries and schools, which lead to women leaving (or being forced out of) the workforce as a result of the emergence of COVID-19 in 2020 and having yet to return. We discuss how differently the media covered the “Shecession” (women leaving the workforce) and the Great Migration (women and men leaving the workforce) before detailing our struggle in breaking the cycle of patriarchal conditioning in the home. Lisa talks about how her new work environment has been impacted not only by COVID-19, but the revelations that have come about since her sabbatical.

- We used the statistics on women leaving employment in the United States set out in the November 5th 2021 Guardian article entitled "‘I don’t have a choice’: childcare cost preventing US women from returning to work"

- We used the statistics on the rise in childcare costs within the United States as set out in the June 5th 2020 Guardian article entitled "The pandemic exposes US childcare for what it is: ‘a crisis within a crisis’"

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

- Find out more about the amazing artists, Nubefy, behind the graphics we use here

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Welcome to our Holiday Burn Out episode (version 2.0): We’ve re-purposed episode 10 because the issues we’re discussing are just as relevant today as they were a year ago. COVID-related stresses and strains, the emotional and mental load heaped onto those who disproportionately take on domestic tasks & unpaid care work (typically women & mothers) during the holiday season and the inevitable body image issues so many of us battle. We hope our suggestions for bringing balance back to the forefront help you focus on what’s important and leave the superficial things that drain and derail you behind. Good luck and we look forward to bringing you series 3 (have you subscribed yet?)…

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from a Feminist author.

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Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 2! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We discuss the beauty of saying "no" to what no longer serves you or makes you happy, how soul-crushing jobs can sometimes feel like the easiest road to travel, and why you deserve more.  We hope you've enjoyed the journey of season 2 as much as we have & we look forward to bringing a new series of thought-provoking and conversation-starting topics to you very soon.

- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an incredible female author!
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Welcome to our penultimate episode of Series 2,  Episode 19, where we dive into the subject of asking for a raise. This is a topic which is emotionally loaded for many people, particularly women, who tend to be raised to not ask for more and/or be happy with what they've been given. Asking for a raise can bring up oppressive conditioning, imposter syndrome and feelings of being "less than" when it should be an encouraged part of a working environment. We talk through how to ask for what you need, red flags and common gaslighting tactics to look out for as well as our personal experiences with pay and performances reviews. We hope this conversation helps give you a clear headspace about how to go about getting what you deserve in the corporate environment.

- The June 2018 Harvard Business Review article entitled "Research: Women Ask for Raises as Often as Men, but Are Less Likely to Get Them" provided the discussed statistics on the success rate of  women vs. men asking for raises.
- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loose end for a great read from an Feminist author.
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