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Hello dear soul,

In today’s journal entry, I explore how small daily choices can help us slow down, create genuine human connections, and resist the temptations of convenience that lead us to disconnect from our fellow humans.

I invite us to consider what it means to be human in this increasingly automated world. I suggest that by choosing the human-operated checkout line over self-checkouts, we can find moments of connection in our everyday lives. 

Don’t forget to leave me a comment with your thoughts, and join the Lightbearer’s Library community of like-minded souls seeking to stay grounded in a world that’s rapidly changing.

I wish you many blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

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Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I share some thoughts about Ken Honda’s book “Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money”.

In today’s world there is so much fear and anxiety about money. In my life I’m working on shifting my story about money. When it comes to money we exclusively talk about quantity, but Ken Honda’s book helps us to think about the quality of our money. Just like we should be thinking about the quality of the food we put in our bodies, we should also be talking about the quality of our money.

While we don’t always have a choice about the amount of money coming (the quantity), we do have a choice about the energy with which we give and receive our money (the quality).

Money circulated with love, care, and friendship is happy money. It makes us smile, feel loved and deeply cared for. It’s an active form of love.

Money circulated in frustration, anger, sadness and despair is unhappy money. This money is begrudgingly used to pay for rent, bills and taxes. It makes people stressed, desperate, aggravated, depressed and sometimes even violent. So when we are dealing with unhappy money it deprives us of our dignity, self-esteem and gentleness of heart.

When we focus on making our money happy, we will find that the amount of stress and anxiety in our life will be alleviated. We will reclaim so much psychic energy which can then be used in other more positive ways.

So let’s review our money transactions to see if they are happy, and if not, let’s make a shift!

Wishing you much happy money,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I reflect on being in a family relationship where there is a mismatch of relationship styles. I share my experience of being in a transactional style relationship with my brother and my painful decision to distance myself from him.

If you have had this experience, I feel for you! I would love to hear if you have found ways to navigate transactional relationships in your own life. 

If you’re in Canada, I wish you a happy Thanksgiving!

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear soul, welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 🕊️

In a world obsessed with logic, spreadsheets, and pro/con lists, is it wrong to make life's biggest decisions based purely on your values and authentic self?

In this journal entry we explore the power of using your "Feeling" cognitive function—specifically Introverted Feeling (Fi) and Extroverted Feeling (Fe)—as a valid, adult way to guide your life. If you're an INFP, INFJ, or any feeler type, struggling to justify your decisions to the "thinkers" in your life, this is your permission slip to embrace the power of your heart. Learn how to stop doubting your intuition and use your values to find authentic alignment.

✨  The Lightbearer's Challenge  ✨

Have you ever been made to feel like your "heart-led" decisions were wrong or selfish? Share your personal struggle with decision-making in the comments below. Let's create a space of encouragement for all of us feelers in a thinking world!

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XOXO,
Kate Harmony

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🌿 About Me 🌿 

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personalty type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe.

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about what’s driving our decision making.

In life we can feel like we do things we didn’t want to do, we make decisions that we look back on and think why did I do that? We are frustrated and feel like we’re out of control.

Personality typology can help us to understand why we make the decisions we do and can help us to make better decisions for ourselves.

At PersonalityHacker.com, Joel and Antonia have a metaphor for our personality which is very useful. They call it the car model. There are 4 seats in the car: the driver, the co-pilot, the 10-year old and the 3-year old. Each of us has a different combination of cognitive functions that sit in each of these seats.

Without knowing about personality typology it can feel like there’s a one-size-fits-all car that we either drive skillfully or unskillfully and it can feel like riding bumper cars! So instead, we can get to know what cognitive functions are seated in what position in our car and thus become more skilled at driving our mental “car”. We can then set goals or “destinations” and consciously drive towards them with fewer breakdowns and detours.

I would love to have you along for the journey to explore how we can drive our personality with more skill, so we can help ourselves and others to thrive! 

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about when forgiveness means letting go of a relationship.

There are times when others hurt us, but we know that no matter what we say, they won't understand why we’re hurt by their actions. I’ve seen that a lot of hurt can come from being very different from others, and having very different values from others. This can lead to being unintentionally hurt, and continuing to be around them only causes us to be in pain. Therefore we should walk away before we get stuck in victimhood, pain and suffering.

When we get real about what we will lose from walking away we can start to grieve the loss of that person. We can start to reclaim our life energy or psychic energy that is bound up in the relationship and the hurt, and as that energy returns to us we can begin to use it in new and creative ways. We can turn towards new connections, new visions of the future and new hopes and dreams.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and others is to walk away and allow them to live the life they want to live.

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about why the Golden Rule doesn’t work.

As we know the Golden Rule says that we should treat others the way we would wish to be treated. But I would argue that we should actually treat others the way that they wish to be treated.

I think most of us unconsciously know that others are different from us and we try to think about how others in our lives would like to be treated. 

But learning about personality typology can help us to consciously understand how each person in our lives perceives the world (either through sensing or intuition) and how they judge the world (either through thinking or feeling). This can help us to step into their shoes and understand more clearly how they would like to be treated.

Instead of dismissing each other as “oh she’s so emotional” or “he’s such a jerk”, we can recognize that our personalities are built differently and then find the best compromises in order to love each other better.

So I would invite you to learn more about personality typology so you can treat yourself and others with more kindness and love! 

Let me know if this was helpful to you in the comments below :)

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about why people who don’t use the cognitive function of intuition as their main perception function (as opposed to sensing) should learn about the personality type framework.

Because our society consists of a majority of sensors (70%), it means that that function is most understood. This can leave intuitives (30% of the population) feeling misunderstood and out of sync with the world. So when sensing types learn about how intuitive types perceive the world, it can help them to better understand and love their intuitive friends and family.

How do you know if someone in your life is an intuitive type? Let me give you a very brief overview. There are two types of intuitive perception, extroverted (Ne) and introverted (Ni). Extroverted intuition (Ne) is all about exploration, possibility, potential, brainstorming ideas, patterns and what could be. Introverted intuition (Ni) is all about perspectives, symbols, metaphors, underlying connections, future implications, predictions and foreseeing, big picture vision. Ne is broad and Ni is deep and focused.

These two functions can be quite mysterious and sometimes hard to express (especially introverted intuition), but it’s always much easier to be themselves, when they feel like those around them are working to understand that side of them.

So, I would invite you to learn about personality type so that you can get to know yourself and those around you in a deeper way. Love is understanding.

Let me know if this was helpful to you in the comments below :)

Blessings,
Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Hello dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about why people who use the cognitive function of intuition (either Ni or Ne) as their main perception function (as opposed to sensing) should learn about the personality type framework.

Because our society consists of a majority of sensors (70%) it can leave intuitives (30%) feeling misunderstood and out of sync with the world. So when we learn about ourselves as intuitives, it can help us to know that we are not abnormal, we’re just using a lesser used perceiving function.

Personality type can also give us a framework for growing in our intuitive abilities. It can give us a clear vision for what it means to develop into the fullest version of ourselves as intuitives, instead of trying to fit ourselves into a sensor model. 

Ultimately it’s a tool of understanding and thus self-love!

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)

Dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about my own journey of healing from some recent family hurt and how using personality type (MBTI) as a framework for healing has been super helpful.

Firstly, personality type helps us to recognize that we potentially look at the world very differently from those who have hurt us. That they may not have intentionally hurt us, it’s just that they have a different way of perceiving and judging the world. When we know their personality type it can help us to understand them, and love is understanding.

Secondly, to heal from the hurt, we can learn about our type (in my case INFP). By knowing our top cognitive functions we become more aware of how our minds work. We can know why we feel hurt and learn how to best heal ourselves.

Thirdly, we can end up replaying our past hurts over and over (this is especially common for INFPs as we have introverted sensing (Si) as one of our top cognitive functions). This can be a waste of time and energy, and only keeps us focused on what we don’t want… hurt! It can be really helpful to use a journal to write down the hurtful stories and then to use it as a way to get deeper into self-inquiry and self-understanding.

Lastly, we can practice mindfulness. Whenever we catch ourselves replaying the hurt story, we can gently turn our focus away from the hurt and towards something creative and hopeful, which is why I’m making video journals for the Lightbearer’s Library!

Let me know if this resonates with you and I wish you all the best on your own journey to healing your hurt.

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)